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  • The Second Victim: Daisy's Story

  • By: Daisy, Emma Barnaby
  • Narrated by: Daisy
  • Length: 6 hrs and 28 mins
  • 4.2 out of 5 stars (110 ratings)

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The Second Victim: Daisy's Story

By: Daisy, Emma Barnaby
Narrated by: Daisy
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In this Audible Original Podcast, we hear the story of Daisy - a black baby adopted into a white family in rural 1970’s England. Alienation and loss of identity dominate her childhood.

After discovering she was conceived through child rape, she begins a lifelong mission to find and prosecute her birth father using the only irrefutable evidence left. Her own DNA.

But justice isn’t just for her birth mother. She too, is a victim, and when the world around her doesn’t agree, she is forced to reckon with external and internal powers out of her control.

Content Warning: There are references to child sexual abuse, suicide and there is also strong language and racist language at times. Listener discretion is advised.

Episode 1: Born a Crime Scene

Daisy struggles with the glare of attention she receives as the only black child in her community. Then she discovers the truth behind her adoption.

Episode 2: The Missing Mother

Amid an exciting new life in London, Daisy begins to search for her birth mother, Grace. If she can just meet her, maybe Daisy will be able to make more sense of who she is in the world.

Episode 3: The Missing Father

After a difficult reunion, Grace and Daisy try to get to know each other, but it’s harder than expected. Feeling she has nothing left to lose, Daisy decides to find out once and for all who her birth father is.

Episode 4: The Watershed

The relationship between Grace and Daisy comes to a gut-wrenching halt and Daisy is confronted with some destabilising realisations about her adoption. Then a national scandal drives her on a furious mission to seek justice for her birth father’s crime.

Episode 5: Vexatious

Daisy turns detective as she tries to uncover her birth father’s identity. Armed with a mountain of new evidence, she’s confident of bringing a prosecution against him.

Episode 6: The Power of Rage

Daisy reaches breaking point. Just as she feels she’s exhausted all options, a television interview turns the tables.

Episode 7: I Am Not Your Shame

Justice is served, but Daisy’s wounds still go deep. She diverts her anger into a campaign to change the law. And she begins to address her own trauma.

Episode 8: Roots

Daisy is coming to terms with the true impact of being trans-racially adopted. Having never had a sense of her black Jamaican identity, she makes a journey to uncover her ancestry which will become one of the most transformative experiences of her life.

For further listening and reading on the topics covered in this series, Daisy recommends the following podcasts and books – all available on Audible or Amazon.

PODCASTS

DAWTA The podcast

Adoptees On

Adoptees Crossing Lines

BOOKS

You Don’t Look Adopted by Anne Heffron

You Are Your Best Thing by Tarana Burke and Brené Brown

Surviving the White Gaze: A Memoir by Rebecca Carroll

Child Sexual Abuse In Black And Minoritised Communities edited by Aisha K.Gill & Hannah Begum

If you have been affected by any of the themes in the series please find below details of organisations that can help you:

www.pac-uk.org/our-services/adopted-adults

adultadoptee.org.uk

www.thedunbarproject.org.uk

howtobeadopted.com

www.familyconnect.org.uk

listenupresearch.org

www.womensaid.org.uk

rapecrisis.org.uk

www.blackmindsmatteruk.com

Samaritans - call 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org or jo@samaritans.ie (or the Samaritans Welsh Language Line is 0808 164 0123)

National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK - 0800 689 5652

SANEline - If you're experiencing a mental health problem call 0300 304 7000 (4.30pm–10.30pm every day).

Other international crisis helplines can be found at www.befrienders.org

Producer: Raw TV

Now available in Dolby Atmos on Audible.

©2020 Audible, Ltd. (P)2020 Audible, Ltd.
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Trauma in the womb and at birth

The painful story of coming to terms with what had shaped Grace as a person. The courage and tenacity that she had in pursuing truth and a resolution against all odds. The sad story of how once relationships are broken they rarely heal. It was an insightful narrative into a world few have ever experienced, yet the basic needs every human has made the story relatable and profound. Will most likely listen to this again.

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Acknowledge her strength

I can empathize with Daisy and her journey to get justice for herself and her birth mom. I don’t fully her birth mom’s distancing towards Daisy just as much as I don’t fully understand Daisy’s animosity towards her adoptive mom. I hope finding her true identity and roots will help Daisy be able to let her guard down and accept love and light with her newfound lease on life.

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The Vulnerability is Refreshing

I loved this a lot more than I anticipated. The accurate Ross sense of humanity is something everyone can relate to on their own levels.

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Wooo lawdy she needs a hobby

Daisy is an enjoyable narrator but bless her heart she has no idea what real problems are. So ungrateful. I’m a POC and for the life of me I don’t understand why Daisy seemed so determined to create a bigger divide than there was. Oh you poor thing, you had a white family that didn’t see you as an outsider. How terrible. I have to wonder if Daisy had a hobby or activity if she would still be obsessed with this agenda? I feel awful for her adoptive mother who tried to raise her in a united world where skin color doesn’t need to be divisive.

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Educational and eye opening

I am an adult adoptee, age 46. Although I am not a person of color, or a product of rape- the feelings and thoughts expressed by Daisy resonated with me in so many ways. As I’ve grown older we the years, I’ve been able to learn more about the effects adoption has on people and while I’ve never allowed myself to be a victim of my circumstances- just knowing that the things I was told that “were wrong with me”- weren’t really my fault. The one thing that hit me in the heart was when the notion that adoptees brought into a family are often a result of a loss of child by adoptive parents. It never really occurred to me, that we come in as a replacement, or a way to fill a void from a devastating loss. I spent my childhood listening to my adoptive mother talk about the loss of her babies. I got along well with my adoptive dad, but unfortunately he passed away. My adoptive mother and I don’t speak anymore and it’s heartbreaking. She will never understand the damage she has done to me over the years by her cutting remarks and constant criticism. She never should have adopted more kids. While I was grateful for the social status move up the ladder. ( my real parents were homeless) I was still constantly reminded of where I came from and that I needed to be a perfect, quiet child that didn’t make mistakes, because i was lucky to have been chosen vs. living on the streets. I can’t relate to all the race and the horror or a rape, but I really enjoyed the authors story and highly recommend to anyone looking to understand themselves or an adoptee family member or friend.

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painful

Listening to this was painful , Daisy seems to be an ungrateful self-absorbed narcissist and everything is about her not the real victim like her mother . she was not a victim of the rape she was a consequence of the rape.just my opinion.

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Sad story of an adopted woman who cannot except love from her adopted family.

This story was well told. I found myself frustrated with Daisy. My heart breaks for her adopted family who could never be what she wanted. I hope someday she can except that she was loved by them even if she did not love them. To me Daisy was determined to be the victim.

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Honest and Raw

Great listen. Author was very honest and vulnerable every step of the way. Great Listen

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The capital of Colonialism, United Kingdom, discriminates against black children in the government system of social services

This audio made me so emotional as I personally know of people who was In this system but ten years earlier than the author. White woman pregnant by black men and children raised in homes run by the church where they were abused.
I recognize isolation, abandonment, the shame and guilt along with burden she had to carry, then the rejection.
Her story kept me glued following her emotional roller coaster but also recognizing her validity in the system.
I am so proud of the author for sharing her painful experiences of being a a child of a rape victim, unwanted by everyone except her adoptive father and her persistence, perseverance, resilience, her powerful nature, and her talent as a Social Worker/ author.
Ecstatic that she knows her heritage (same as mine) and she has a sense of belonging and that her family ties to The Jamaican Gleaner shows how strong genetics are. I will be following her to see if there will be a law passed internationally under her name. She has made a difference in so many black and children of color’s life’s, it may not have even began to resígnate with her yet.
Where are the black people in high positions support of her in the UK? Why is it still so hard for Black people to recognize and support each other? Better must come!
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Relatable

I found this story relatable in so many ways even though my own experience is vastly different. I think we all have a primal need to know who we are and where we come from. I found myself getting annoyed with Daisy for making so many assumptions about how everyone was feeling about her and realized that I do the same thing. I am inspired by how much she’s able to accomplish in spite of her circumstances. I’m happy Daisy invited us all on her journey and brought awareness to issues I never would have explored.

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