If you feel drained, depleted, and like no matter how much rest you get, you're still exhausted....you're not alone!

You're not tired because life is hard.

You're tired because you're stuck performing.

Performing as the nice girl.

Performing as the easygoing woman.

Performing to keep the peace and please everyone.

This is women's burnout hiding in plain sight - and nobody's talking about it.

In this episode, I reveal the real reason you're so exhausted (spoiler alert: it's not your to-do list), how 'being nice' is slowly draining your energy, and how to stop people pleasing so you can reclaim your power.

You'll learn:

• Why performing makes women invisible and miserable
• How the good girl identity keeps you stuck in burnout
• What to do to stop being nice and start being real
• How to recover your energy and step into your selfish era
• You don't need more rest. You need to stop performing.

If you're exhausted and over it, this episode will show you how to break free and start living for YOU.

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In this bonus episode, I'm coming to you with sand in my suitcase and rebellion in my bones.

Let's talk about the guilt we feel when we rest. The fear that if we stop, everything will fall apart. The lie that our worth is tied to our productivity.

For years, I couldn't stop.

Raising kids. Building a business. Surviving heartbreak. Rebuilding after divorce (twice). Hustling for my worth every damn day.

And when I finally had space? I didn't know how to exist inside it.

I'm sharing the truth behind what it took for me to feel safe doing less, and why my vacation isn't just a 'break'...it's a power move.

• Why rest feels dangerous for high-achieving women
• How scarcity and survival conditioning keep us overworking
• The nervous system regulation I had to to to tolerate white space on my calendar
• Why I'm sliding into vacation mode like the CEO I am
• And how this is the Selfish Woman Lifestyle: rest without guilt, joy without justification.

This isn't just a vacation. It's what happens when a woman heals.

So pour yourself a drink, get cozy, and join me for a conversation about reclaiming your time, your peace, and your power.

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In this fiery sermon of an episode, I'm pulling no punches. We're talking about the invisible leash of patriarchal conditioning and how it keeps powerful women small. I'm not here to make you comfortable. I'm here to remind you who the hell you are.

If you've ever felt like you were too much, too emotional, too ambitious, too independent....guess what? You're not the problem. The system is.

Let this episode be your invitation to remember your power, own your desires, and stop apologizing for who you are. We're not here to play by their rules. We're here to write our own.

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You said you were done.

You blocked them. You deleted the photos.

You told yourself, "I've moved on"

But if you're still feeling the ache, still replaying the memories, still carrying that weight....you're not crazy. You're still tethered.

In this raw and real episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible cords that keep us bound to the past long after we've walked away. This is for the woman who's doing all the 'right' things - healing, journaling, rising - and still feels stuck in the heaviness of what was.

We talk about:

• Why your glow-up isn't working (and it's not what you think)
• The nervous system side of emotional weight
• How shame, grief and guilt keep us energetically trapped
• Why letting go isn't about closure, but release.
• What's possible when you finally cut the cord

If you've ever felt like you're doing all the work but still can't shake the past, this one's for you. It's not your fault - but it IS your time.

And if this episode speaks to your soul, join me for Untethered, my workshop on April 19 where I will teach you everything you need to know about what's keeping you tied to the past, and guide you through a powerful visualization that will energetically free you.

Click here to register for Untethered on April 19

What if the reason you feel stuck, numb, or unfulfilled isn't because you're broken, but because the 'good girl' inside you needs to die?

In this fiery and vulnerable episode, I'm inviting you to take a brutally honest look at your life and ask yourself:

What would your eulogy say, if you died today?

This is a wake-up call for every woman who's been trying to do it right, play it safe, be nice, be liked, and perform maturity while secretly suffocating under the weight of it all.

Here's what we dive into:

• Why 'good girls' die bitter - and how to make sure you don't become one
• The truth about how your eulogy is aready being written
• What it really means to let the old identity die so the real you can finally live
• The power of choosing self-honesty over approval
• What softness, truth and presence can give you that performance never will

You don't need more advice. You need to follow your own truth.

This episode will crack you open - and set you free.

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This episode is for every woman who's ever felt guilty about putting herself first.

I'm calling out the 'selfless' lie we've been sold, and the emotional, physical and spiritual cost of people-pleasing your way through life.

If you've been told your worth is in your service, your silence, your sacrifice - this episode is your permission slip to burn that shit down.

I'm sharing the truth about what being selfish really means, how it saved me, and how it can save you too.

Tune in and start choosing yourself - without apology.

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Are you ready to step into the next chapter of your life with confidence, power and purpose?

In this episode I sit down with Lata Hamilton, a Change Leadership and Confidence Expert who went from marketing to leading massive transformations in some of Australia's biggest companies - all while tripling her salary in just three years.

Lata and I dive into the mindset shifts and strategies that help women embrace change, own their worth, and create a life on their terms.

We discuss:

• The #1 thing that holds women back from embracing change
• Why loyalty isn't always the best choice
• The four components of confidence - and how to leverage them to get what you want
• Why women are designed to be adaptable - and how to use that superpower
• How to take salary negotiation principles and apply them to your divorce
• How to leverage the freedom after divorce to build the career (and life) you truly want
• If you're feeling stuck, uncertain, or afraid of what's next, this episode will inspire you to take action. Because change isn't something to fear - it's something to OWN.

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https://www.latahamilton.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/latahamilton/

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Fear and self-doubt have been running the show for too long. They keep you stuck second-guessing yourself, and playing small. But what if you could finally break free?

In this episode, we're diving deep into the root causes of fear and self-doubt, why they keep showing up, and - most importantly - what to do about it.

If you're tired of feeling like you're standing in your own way, this episode is your wake up call.

You'll learn:

• why NOW is the time to step into your power
• why your mind is addicted to fear
• my 3 step strategy to breaking free

Ready to reset your mindset and take control of your life? Join the Mindset Reset Workshop on March 22. This 2 hour online event will give you the exact tools you need to break free from fear, self doubt, people pleasing and guilt - so you can step into your most confident self.

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