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If you’re a mom, especially a mom of teenagers, you are probably feeling tired. All. The. Time. But what if your exhaustion isn’t just about lack of sleep? What if it’s about the type of rest you're not getting?

There’s a powerful framework I want to share with you today - I was introduced to it in the book The Hustle Cure by Sophie Cliff, but it comes from Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, a physician who wrote the book Sacred Rest and gave a TED Talk that went viral for good reason. She breaks rest down into 7 distinct types.

Today, we'll have a conversation about these seven different types that we need because, guess what? Our teenagers need them too! And, surprise! None of us are getting them!

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Thank you so much for being here! It's our 200th episode!! And today, for the first time, "Reframing Me" is ranking in France, so I am dusting off my high school French (well... that may be a BIT of a stretch...).

“You are the sky. Everything else—it’s just the weather.”

Or, maybe more simply: You are not your feelings. You are the one who feels them. Emotional complexity is the ability to separate yourself from your feelings. This is what it means to communicate without making everything personal.

But it's not how we, as midlife - GenX or older Millennial women, were taught. So now, here we are: Hormonal messes. Parenting teens who are hormonal messes.

Trying to model emotional intelligence we were never taught.

Trying to teach our kids to express what they feel.

Trying to name our own feelings accurately.

Trying to decode what’s happening in our homes while living in bodies that feel foreign.

Trying to understand our spouses - who were trained in the grand tradition of: anger, or nothing.

And while we're doing all that... we’re also often supporting aging parents who have never processed an emotion out loud in their lives.

So yeah. It’s a lot. Somedays, it feels like we are the emotional managers of our households.

• • What emotions have you been carrying that aren’t yours?
  • What emotion have you been flattening into something easier to name—when really, it’s more layered than that?
  • Where have you been managing emotions for people who haven’t learned to name their own?
  • What would change if you trusted yourself to feel it all—but not become it?

This is not about becoming emotionless. - It’s about becoming emotionally fluent.. Because you are the sky, and even on the stormiest days—you are still steady and still you;

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With rom season in full swing, and graduations upon us, and wedding season – tryouts – the post-college decision day aftermath - and of course the always a favorite "What are you going to do after graduation?” question that may be looming in the air, I wanted to revisit a favorite conversation of mine because Sometimes it’s almost as if your teens didn’t see your parenting vision board, isn’t it? What happens when they deviate from the plan? This isn’t how it was supposed to be. This isn’t how I planned or what I thought.

Delve into a thought-provoking exploration of the challenges and complexities associated with deviating from societal and familial canonical storylines. Let’s have a conversation about how social norms and values use canonical stories to shape our understanding of the world and our place within it. Unpack the significance of embracing individuality while navigating the rigid structures imposed by canonical narratives, and reflect on the ways in which these narratives influence our perceptions of self and others.

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Thank you for being here today! In celebration of Mother's Day, let's revisit our special Mom episodes! When these first aired, I was excited about our upcoming 50th episode. Now, here I am, about to record our 200th episode!

In part 1 we talked about the struggles that working moms face, so we continue our conversation by looking at the struggles of stay-at-home moms. SAHMs report feelings of sadness, loneliness, frustration and boredom. With teenagers, they often begin to question their role, as their kids have become more independent, which leads many to look to reclaim their careers. Many find that easier said than done with a decade-plus gap on their resumes, so let's look at SIX tips for rejoining the workforce and how we can all build our personal brand identity.

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Thank you for being here today! In celebration of Mother's Day, let's revisit our special Mom episodes! When these first aired, I was excited about our upcoming 50th episode. Now, here I am, about to record our 200th episode! I guess I was right: Girls CAN do anything!

In part 1 of this MONSTER-sized mom episode, we're celebrating moms, girl power. Girls can do ANYTHING and be ANYTHING, but telling girls that they can or should do EVERYTHING is one of the factors that establishes the societal bias that places moms as the Default Parent, a mentally and physically draining role of providing primary care for parenting and home-related tasks. This syndrome exists and exhausts both working and stay-at-home moms, but it is especially challenging for working moms, so let's also have a conversation about 7 tips for work-family integrations.

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Thank you SO much for being here! Today’s Jen is Zen is episode number 199! As I approach 200, I can't help but reflect on what a transformation I have undergone over these last couple/few years!

Through my curiosity, I discovered myself, who I am underneath and who I wanted to be. And by focusing on what I wanted, rather than what I didn’t want - I found my passion. And once I found my passion, my purpose became abundantly clear. And that… that is transformation.

So today, can you ask yourself - How much of your attention are you giving to what you DO want versus what you DON’T want? Because most of us devote much more of our time and energy to what we don’t want to happen – what we don’t want for our day or for our future - who we DON’T want to be - than to what we actually do want. And what would happen if you changed that focus? Would you transform?

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With summer creeping up, college students about to come home, and teens ready to enjoy summer break at home, I’ve been thinking a lot about how much the dynamic in many of our homes is about to shift. For some of us, the daily routines we’ve gotten used to will be flipped upside down - again. And even though we love having our kids back under our roofs, let’s be honest, it’s not always as smooth or idyllic as we imagine it will be.

So I’ve been asking myself: What’s the one piece of advice I’d give to another parent heading into this season? What is the bang for your buck as close to the secret of parenting teens that I can give you in a one and done answer.

And my answer is actually probably the best change I’ve ever made in myself as a parent. It’s not about new rules, or stricter consequences, or some clever new strategy. It’s about something a little harder to define - but way more impactful.

I made the boundary of our family more permeable.. I gave my teens space. And making family boundaries more permeable might just be the best change you could make, too.

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Thank you so much for being here! Today, I invite you to hold two truths at once: I can celebrate her. And I can believe in me.

They’re not opposites. They’re connected. They make each other stronger.

And as we start living from that place of abundance - of lifting each other up instead of tearing ourselves down - we create a world that’s bigger, brighter, and more beautiful for all of us.

So where can you choose admiration over envy today? Where can you genuinely celebrate someone else’s success - and trust that yours is still coming too?

Because Someone else’s success is not your failure. Celebrate others’ successes. Support each other. A candle doesn’t become any dimmer when it lights another candle.

Let’s keep lighting each other’s candles, y’all because the world needs all the light we can give.

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