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Thank you so much for being here! It's our 200th episode!! And today, for the first time, "Reframing Me" is ranking in France, so I am dusting off my high school French (well... that may be a BIT of a stretch...).

“You are the sky. Everything else—it’s just the weather.”

Or, maybe more simply: You are not your feelings. You are the one who feels them. Emotional complexity is the ability to separate yourself from your feelings. This is what it means to communicate without making everything personal.

But it's not how we, as midlife - GenX or older Millennial women, were taught. So now, here we are: Hormonal messes. Parenting teens who are hormonal messes.

Trying to model emotional intelligence we were never taught.

Trying to teach our kids to express what they feel.

Trying to name our own feelings accurately.

Trying to decode what’s happening in our homes while living in bodies that feel foreign.

Trying to understand our spouses - who were trained in the grand tradition of: anger, or nothing.

And while we're doing all that... we’re also often supporting aging parents who have never processed an emotion out loud in their lives.

So yeah. It’s a lot. Somedays, it feels like we are the emotional managers of our households.

• • What emotions have you been carrying that aren’t yours?
  • What emotion have you been flattening into something easier to name—when really, it’s more layered than that?
  • Where have you been managing emotions for people who haven’t learned to name their own?
  • What would change if you trusted yourself to feel it all—but not become it?

This is not about becoming emotionless. - It’s about becoming emotionally fluent.. Because you are the sky, and even on the stormiest days—you are still steady and still you;

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