Episodes

  • Am I really the problem?

    Am I really the problem?
    Mar 2 2025
    If you find that you define yourself in a negative way based on someone else's perception of you, you must listen to this episode. Is what they're saying about you really true? If you think that, we need to address that right away.
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    49 mins
  • Should payback for bad behavior be a relationship norm?

    Should payback for bad behavior be a relationship norm?
    Feb 23 2025
    What are your rights in a relationship with someone who is mistreating you or acting badly? Is it okay to get back at them and reciprocate with similar or worse behavior? What's fair in relationship warfare? Good question!
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    49 mins
  • Decluttering the overwhelmed brain

    Decluttering the overwhelmed brain
    Feb 16 2025
    If you find your mind feels like an overstuffed closet, and your actual closet is also overstuffed, I'll try to help you balance the mental and physical clutter in this episode. It's a special episode that strays away from the norm, but hey, out of eleven years of doing this show, one off the beaten path isn't going to hurt.
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    41 mins
  • When empathy is used against you

    When empathy is used against you
    Feb 9 2025
    Some people can be draining, especially if they play the victim after they've done bad behavior and expect you to empathize with them. Some people are very, very good at doing that. I talk about those people today.
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    38 mins
  • What can keep you stuck with the same results over and over again

    What can keep you stuck with the same results over and over again
    Feb 2 2025
    Our childhood coping mechanisms shape our adult relationships. Sometimes the old fears keep us from moving into new, better territory, keeping us stuck where we are.
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    47 mins
  • Washing your hands of a problem that won't go away

    Washing your hands of a problem that won't go away
    Jan 26 2025
    Some problems won't go away until you walk away from them. But walking away can be hard... sometimes impossible. And sometimes it involves sacrifice. And is walking away the only answer?
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    38 mins
  • The pressure of sex and expectations in an established relationship

    The pressure of sex and expectations in an established relationship
    Jan 19 2025
    Sometimes emotional and sexual expectations can be challenging to balance in a long-term relationship... but do they have to be? Or is intimacy just difficult with certain people who seem entitled to receive it instead of trying to build it from the ground up?
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    40 mins
  • Feeling like you have no choice but to submit to ungrateful, uncaring people

    Feeling like you have no choice but to submit to ungrateful, uncaring people
    Jan 12 2025
    You know the type: They do nothing and you do everything. In this episode, I share the struggle of a woman who has a rocky relationship with her adult daughter who moved back in with her. I share a lot of thoughts and lessons we can learn what we can do, if anything, when the other person in your life is making things unnecessarily harder.
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    1 hr and 10 mins