Have you ever wondered why some people tolerate mistreatment while others set strict boundaries? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the “Richter Scale” of relationships—how our upbringing influences what we see as usual in love, conflict, and emotional connection. They explore how past experiences shape how we treat (and accept treatment from) our partners. They share personal stories and examples of how childhood environments create unconscious relationship patterns. Whether you grew up in a calm, respectful household or one filled with tension and conflict, this episode will help you assess your relationship standards. More importantly, you’ll learn to set a healthier, higher standard for yourself and your partner.

Show notes:
(2:05) What is a relationship Richter scale?
(3:45) Why your normal might not be your partner’s
(7:04) How childhood experiences shape what we tolerate
(12:50) Recognizing mistreatment & raising standards
(14:45) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(16:55) Breaking generational patterns of toxic relationships
(24:26) How to start raising your standards
(28:10) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore emotional maturity—why it matters and how it strengthens relationships. Learn key skills like self-awareness, emotional regulation, and healthy communication. Plus, assess your relationship with a simple rating system. Tune in to grow together, not apart!

Show notes:
(3:44) What emotional maturity looks like in relationships
(6:40) Defining emotional maturity Vs. Immaturity
(12:40) The 10 key skills that define emotional maturity
(14:49) Relationship rating exercise: Green, yellow, red system
(21:42) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(26:20) The long-term impact of emotional immaturity
(29:37) Real-life example: Emotional immaturity in daily life
(35:26) How to actively build emotional maturity in your relationship
(38:55) Outro

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The 10 Facets of Emotional Maturity - https://bit.ly/4hyiGTg

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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Unlock the secrets to transforming your relationship. In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore four communication styles, which help you identify your default approach and how it affects your relationship. They share real-life examples, discuss the impact of past experiences, and provide practical ways to shift toward healthier, more effective conversations. Whether you struggle to speak up, avoid conflict, or tend to dominate discussions, understanding your communication style can strengthen your connection.

Show notes:
(2:44) The “iceberg” concept—what’s beneath communication struggles?
(4:21) Passive communication
(5:50) Assertive communication
(7:05) Metaphors for communication styles: Turtle, Puffer Fish, and Turtle Puff
(11:18) Passive-aggressive communication
(17:08) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(18:35) Aggressive communication
(22:14) Recognizing aggressive tendencies and setting boundaries
(26:39) The key to healthy relationships
(28:58) Outro

Digital Asset:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Are you the kind of person who wants a better relationship but isn’t sure where to begin? What if the secret lies within you? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how personal growth fuels lasting, meaningful relationships. Through personal stories and real-world coaching experiences, they highlight why actions outweigh words, how self-discipline drives growth, and what happens when one partner outpaces the other. Tune in to learn how to break through stagnation and create the partnership of your dreams.

Show notes:
(1:59) The “Me” builds the “We.”
(6:42) Pretenders Vs. Doers in growth
(11:28) Real habits of growth-oriented people
(13:51) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(15:09) The impact of personal effort on relationships
(17:26) Balancing business and personal life
(22:57) Relationship Talks Event invitation
(24:38) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explore why courage is essential for expressing your needs and creating deeper intimacy. Through real-life stories, playful anecdotes, and actionable advice, they discuss how fear and past rejection shape our ability to ask for what we need. Learn how to identify your core needs, overcome the fear of rejection, and build a more balanced partnership, perfect for couples and individuals committed to personal growth and meaningful connections.

Show notes:
(2:24) Funny story: Courage at a dance club
(6:29) What is courage, and why does it matter?
(8:31) The “Rainbow Slide” explanation
(14:37) How rejection shapes our fear of asking
(16:43) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
(19:21) Identifying unmet needs in relationships
(22:49) Balancing conflicting needs in partnerships
(24:58) Risks of being overly selfless or selfish
(30:11) The "growth gap" in relationships
(32:18) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth" - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
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emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Frustrations aren’t just complaints—they’re pathways to innovation! In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan share a powerful tool that transformed their connection and deepened their understanding of each other. Learn why expressing gratitude and frustrations is key to building psychological safety and fostering collaboration in your relationship. They discuss how unspoken frustrations can create unseen wedges, the importance of honest communication, and how gratitude can coexist with constructive criticism. Whether single or in a relationship, this episode offers practical tips to foster openness and growth with your partner.

Show notes:
(2:25) The powerful relationship tool
(5:16) The “home theater” story and frustrations
(9:09) The role of psychological safety in relationships
(14:34) Bonnie says this about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks.
(17:09) Why frustrations spark creativity and innovation
(24:24) The genius of the “and” in communication
(28:19) Relationship coaching and upcoming events
(30:22) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
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*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Are you being your true self in your relationship, or are parts of you hiding to fit in? In this episode, Emilia and Alan discuss what it means for your partner to love all of you genuinely—your past, present, and future selves. With relatable stories and actionable advice, they’ll inspire you to reflect on your relationships and teach you how to foster more profound, authentic connections. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking a deeper, more authentic bond.

Show notes:
(2:39) The sun and planets analogy for true self
(5:37) Hiding your true self in relationships
(10:04) How fear impacts authenticity
(12:13) Looking back: growth over time
(14:12) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(20:06) Does your partner love all of you?
(25:25) Courageous conversations and authenticity
(27:41) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

___________________________

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they share personal stories, practical tips, and thoughtful insights on setting boundaries to enhance emotional intimacy. Discover how small, intentional changes—like moving your devices to another room—can transform how you connect with your partner. From putting your phone aside to establishing healthier screen-time habits, this episode offers actionable tools to help you and your loved one prioritize meaningful moments together. Tune in now to reconnect and strengthen your bond!

Show notes:
(3:36) Personal strategies to limit distractions
(5:50) Understanding “Brain Rot” and “Digiphrenia”
(7:31) Choosing your partner over your screen
(10:29) Identifying your biggest distractions
(11:32) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(14:48) Impact of unmet needs on relationships
(19:15) Setting boundaries for a deeper connection
(21:15) Courageous communication with your partner
(23:09) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!