Have you ever wondered why some people tolerate mistreatment while others set strict boundaries? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the “Richter Scale” of relationships—how our upbringing influences what we see as usual in love, conflict, and emotional connection. They explore how past experiences shape how we treat (and accept treatment from) our partners. They share personal stories and examples of how childhood environments create unconscious relationship patterns. Whether you grew up in a calm, respectful household or one filled with tension and conflict, this episode will help you assess your relationship standards. More importantly, you’ll learn to set a healthier, higher standard for yourself and your partner.

Show notes:
(2:05) What is a relationship Richter scale?
(3:45) Why your normal might not be your partner’s
(7:04) How childhood experiences shape what we tolerate
(12:50) Recognizing mistreatment & raising standards
(14:45) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(16:55) Breaking generational patterns of toxic relationships
(24:26) How to start raising your standards
(28:10) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore emotional maturity—why it matters and how it strengthens relationships. Learn key skills like self-awareness, emotional regulation, and healthy communication. Plus, assess your relationship with a simple rating system. Tune in to grow together, not apart!

Show notes:
(3:44) What emotional maturity looks like in relationships
(6:40) Defining emotional maturity Vs. Immaturity
(12:40) The 10 key skills that define emotional maturity
(14:49) Relationship rating exercise: Green, yellow, red system
(21:42) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(26:20) The long-term impact of emotional immaturity
(29:37) Real-life example: Emotional immaturity in daily life
(35:26) How to actively build emotional maturity in your relationship
(38:55) Outro

Digital Asset:
The 10 Facets of Emotional Maturity - https://bit.ly/4hyiGTg

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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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___________________________

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Unlock the secrets to transforming your relationship. In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore four communication styles, which help you identify your default approach and how it affects your relationship. They share real-life examples, discuss the impact of past experiences, and provide practical ways to shift toward healthier, more effective conversations. Whether you struggle to speak up, avoid conflict, or tend to dominate discussions, understanding your communication style can strengthen your connection.

Show notes:
(2:44) The “iceberg” concept—what’s beneath communication struggles?
(4:21) Passive communication
(5:50) Assertive communication
(7:05) Metaphors for communication styles: Turtle, Puffer Fish, and Turtle Puff
(11:18) Passive-aggressive communication
(17:08) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(18:35) Aggressive communication
(22:14) Recognizing aggressive tendencies and setting boundaries
(26:39) The key to healthy relationships
(28:58) Outro

Digital Asset:
Communication Styles - https://bit.ly/3Eo2EN1

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!