The Natural Mother of the Child
A Memoir of Nonbinary Parenthood
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Krys Malcolm Belc
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Krys Malcolm Belc has thought a lot about the interplay between parenthood and gender. As a nonbinary, transmasculine parent, giving birth to his son Samson clarified his gender identity. And yet, when his partner Anna adopted Samson, the legal documents listed Belc as "the natural mother of the child". By considering how the experiences contained under the umbrella of "motherhood" don't fully align with Belc's own experience, The Natural Mother of the Child journeys both toward and through common perceptions of what it means to have a body and how that body can influence the perception of a family. With this memoir-in-essays, Belc has created a new kind of life record, one that engages directly with the documentation often thought to constitute a record of one's life - childhood photos, birth certificates - and addresses his deep ambivalence about the "before" and "after" so prevalent in trans stories, which feels apart from his own experience. The Natural Mother of the Child is the story of a person moving past societal expectations to take control of his own narrative, with prose that delights in the intimate dailiness of family life and explores how much we can ever really know when we enter into parenting.
A supplemental PDF featuring photographs and official documents is included with this audiobook.
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- J. Luchristt
- 11-14-21
Open and Honest
The author does a wonderful job of giving the reader insight into his life an into relationships. This is an intimate and sublime read.
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- Jenny Mills
- 06-19-21
Very well written
Completely enjoyed both the story and the writing! Bravo to Krys on his first book of many!
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- Cait Vaughan
- 11-28-21
Lyrical, real & vulnerable
This book is not what I expected, in that it is more vast & goes deeper, bares more than I thought it would. I recommended it right away to a non-binary parent in my life. It is necessary in more ways than one & so honest about what growing a human is, what parenting is (and isn't).
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- Kathryn Bradley
- 03-04-23
Excellent
A joy to read—such a rich, original, well-written story about parenthood and gender. We needed this book!
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