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Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)

Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)

De: Dr. Nima Rahmany
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 Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast. This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community. These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy, and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience, heal from the past, and become active operators of our mind, body, and life. This first season wasn’t designed to be a podcast, so you’ll notice the audio isn’t Professional Studio Quality (like it is on season 2 as we’ve upgraded incrementally). These trainings are designed to introduce and deepen you to the most critical 2 skills we’ve never been taught: 1) The skill and practice of taking our triggers (Nervous System Activations) and turning them into deeper safety and self-love, 2) The skill and practice of taking conflict (that happens in any relationship) and turning them into deeper intimacy between the parties involved. Not learning these two critical skills at this time in history costs us dearly: Physical and Mental health is on the DECLINE. Doing this deep level of healing work can break the cycle of Intergenerational Trauma that didn’t start with you. It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you, #Cyclebreaker. ______________________________________________________________________ Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis: https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproofOverview Consulting Inc. Ciencias Sociales Desarrollo Personal Relaciones Éxito Personal
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  • Are You Avoiding The Work?

    Are You Avoiding The Work?
    Jul 14 2025
    An observation I’ve made in a growing number of people consuming content about attachment,trauma bonding, codependency, and relationship healing. Even MY content.“I listen to their relationship podcast.” “I’ve read all the books on attachment.” “I binge-watch your YouTube videos.”There’s a growing trend where people think that watching videos, reading books, and listening to podcasts equates to doing their attachment healing work.But here's the truth:While consuming content can provide temporary relief from the pain associated with trauma, especially when it validates your experiences (like labeling your partner as a “narcissist”), IT OFTEN SERVES AS A COVERT AVOIDANCE STRATEGY THAT DELAYS THE OUTCOMES YOU WANT:A secure, magnetic connection where you feel confident and connected, where the home is a sanctuary, and you’re not riddled with relationship anxiety.In the past three months, I’ve consulted with not one, but TWO psychotherapists with degrees in Counseling Psychology. One, an anxious attached individual, admitted she couldn't work through her own anxious attachments in relationships. The other struggled to recover from a sense of betrayal after her husband cheated.Despite their intelligence and ability to diagnose and label mental disorders, they both confessed that while they had all the INFORMATION on what was happening…and they could see their behaviors and acknowledge how problematic they’ve been to having success in the intimacy department, their training didn’t help them EMBODY the work of authentic relating, and they didn’t possess the SKILLS of becoming RESPONSIVE rather than REACTIVE to their triggers, and they had no ability to regulate themselves during conflict. They ended up pushing what they truly wanted away. The first one avoided relationships altogether, and the second one was fed up and didn’t want her daughter exposed to the toxicity and disconnection. They had ALL the information. What was missing?Embodied somatic training. That’s why even if you follow all the right social media accounts and know all the information—enough to advise a friend over coffee who’s having issues— and sound really smart about it—your own life might still feel like a disorganized mess.“Do as I say— not as I do.” That’s exactly why I turned to social media to find guides who truly embodied the life I wanted to create. I then immersed myself in the environments they created and DID.THE.WORK.After all, you can’t learn to swim by watching a video. You can’t become a skilled dancer by following podcast instructions.Why?Because to heal our attachment wounds, we must be willing to lean in and have those wounds activated. This means showing up and allowing conversations to trigger what needs to emerge. You need to observe your knee-jerk reactions and consciously create new responses.You have Anxious Attachment and want to heal?Great—then it takes courage to show up and do Neuro-sensory exercises that expand your capacity to be with discomfort.Feel it fully, witness it, and learn a process called “integration.” This helps you find the root of your reactions and build the resilience to respond like your adult self,instead of the needy, wounded child.You can’t heal what you don’t feel—and often watching videos and listening to podcasts is a covert way of avoiding those feelings.Without learning the actual process of becoming Trigger-Proof and integrating these blind spots, WE ARE MISLED INTO BELIEVING THAT INFORMATION ALONE WILL LEAD TO TRANSFORMATION.That's like saying you can build muscle in your arms simply because you know that bicep curls build muscle. Or claiming you can make a soufflé because you watched a tutorial online, without ever actually trying it.You need to pick up the weight and do the work.When you do: • You realize you’re not alone. • You heal in community. • Your attachment wounds ACTUALLY heal. • You show up more understanding, compassionate, and less reactive. • You see yourself in others’ shares and witness your own blind spots. • You are no longer afraid of your fears. • Your confidence soars, and self-worth is the end result.REFLECTION TIME: What aspect of your relationship game needs refinement?- Self Worth (Do you feel you are worthy of a high-value connection?)- Reactivity (Do you have the capacity to RESPOND instead of react?)- Magnetism (Do you have unresolved wounding that is causing you to PUSH AWAY the right people?)Consider the possibility that none of those things can be achieved through videos, books and podcasts alone.Show up.Lean in.Be willing to have your blind spots revealed. Engage and interact. Find your tribe.Your upgraded self awaits. Your wingman on the adventure, Nima.
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  • Stop Blaming Yourself—Fix This Instead

    Stop Blaming Yourself—Fix This Instead
    Jul 4 2025
    If you’re having relationship challenges,see if this hits close to home:You've been in therapy for months, maybe years,trying to fix relationships that keep falling into the same patterns.You understand your dynamics.You can articulate your childhood wounds and attachment styles.You know exactly why your relationship struggles keep repeating.But you're still stuck.Still triggered by the same things.Still repeating the same cycles.Still feeling like you're at the mercy of your circumstances.You keep showing up,hoping this will be the session that finally changes everything.But week after week,you leave feeling like you've just paid someone $200to listen to you complain about the same problems.This is the classic therapy vs change dilemma -lots of talking, minimal transformation.For folks who crush it in other areas of life,this creates a particular kind of torture.For people used to solving problems.setting goals, creating strategies, and executing,It works everywhere else.But in the realm of relationshipsthey notice feeling completely helpless.If you can relate, you know it’s likeyou're waiting for someone else to rescue youfrom your own life.Here's what nobody toldmy surgeon client why he was still stuck:In the realm of personal growth and healing…You haven’t identified what"this is working" actually means.Most people approach personal growthlike they're wandering around a foreign city without a destination.They're just... walking.Hoping they'll randomly stumble into a secure relationshipor emotional resilience where they never get triggered,and don’t feel the normal resistance of life.The tension between wanting autonomy,and desiring deep connection.It’s a complicated dance that is ever evolving.It’s heavily nuanced.Therapists ask, "How are you feeling?"You answer, "Better, I guess?"They nod knowingly, and you book another session.But what wtf are you actually working toward?What does success look like in your relationships?In your emotional life?In your daily experience?How are you responding to triggers?How are you navigating conflict?Most people have no clue.They just know they're not happyand they want someone else to figure it out for them.This is why you can spend years in therapytalking about the same issues without any real change.You're not working toward anything specific.You're just... processing.And processing without direction is just expensive complaining.How about you try this on as a new lensto view your issue:You're externally governed.Meaning your emotional state,your sense of worth,your daily experience depends entirelyon what's happening around you.Your partner's in a good mood–You feel good.Your boss gives you praise– You feel valuable.Your friends don't text back quickly– You feel rejected.You're like a pinball, bouncing off whatever energy is around you,with no control over where you end up.One client described her experience as “I feel like a jellyfish”. This victim mentality is exhausting -and it's exactly the opposite of the sovereignty you needto create lasting change.For successful people,this is maddening because it makes no logical sense.You can manage teams,negotiate complex deals,and make high-level decisions.But your emotional well-being is controlledby whether someone texted you back in time.(Not exactly the energy of a high performer.)Here's where it gets even more frustrating:You keep looking for external solutions to an internal problem.The right therapist.The right book.The right partner who will finally understand you.You're essentially waiting for someone elseto come rescue you from your own emotional patterns.But nobody's coming.And it’s not because people don't care.It’s not because help isn't available.It’s more nuanced than that.It’s because the nature of the problemrequires you to stop blaming yourself for past conditioningand start taking responsibility for your future transformation.And most folks have never learned how to do that.Consider the possibility that you've been conditioned to believethat healing happens to you, not through you.You sit in a chair, talk about your feelings,and hope the therapist has some magic insightthat will finally set you free.But insight alone is not how real transformation works.Real transformation happens when you developwhat I call the four pillars of sovereign love:Sovereignty: You're no longer externally governed.Your emotional state comes from within,not from your circumstances.Agency: You have choice.You're not a victim of your patterns,your past, or your partner's moods.Capacity: You can sit with uncomfortable emotions -yours and others' - without losing touch with yourself.This is true emotional resilience.Resilience: You can handle whatever life throws at youbecause you trust your ability to feel your way through it,without having to suppress, distract, or sedate.These aren't therapy concepts.These are life skills.And here's the thing:you get to define what "it’s working for me" ...
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  • Why Successful People Feel Dead Inside (And What Actually Helps)

    Why Successful People Feel Dead Inside (And What Actually Helps)
    Jun 29 2025
    If you’ve ever went to a therapist to talk about your problems,see if this resonates:You're sitting in your counsellor/therapist’s office, week after week, talking through the same issues.Your relationship problems. Your childhood patterns. Your communication struggles.You understand everything intellectually. You can analyze your dynamics perfectly. You know exactly what's "wrong" and what you "should" do differently.But nothing changes.If that sounds familiar, here’s why:You can't think your way out of emotional numbness.If you're someone who's built success through intellect and analysis,this might be the most frustrating realization you'll ever face.You're used to solving problems with your mind. It's worked in every other area of your life. Your career. Your finances. Your goals.But in relationships– when we are stuck in what's called "functional freeze,”Our greatest strength becomes our biggest obstacle.What's cool about functional freeze is that it doesn't look like traditional depression. You're not lying in bed unable to function. You're not crying or visibly struggling.From the outside, you look fine. Successful, even.You show up to work. You meet your obligations. You maintain your responsibilities.But inside, you’re…. dissociated.You feel... nothing.Your partner tries to connect emotionally, and you just stare blankly. They share their feelings, and you can't access yours. They get upset, and you shut down even more.This creates a toxic cycle where the more they try to reach you, the more frozen you become. And the more frozen you become, the more frustrated and disconnected they get.For many successful folks, this pattern is maddening because it makes no logical sense.This is why my first marriage ended.Because I didn’t understand this issue with my ex-wife."Why can't I just feel something?" she would say.What she was likely going through: "Why doesn't talking about it help?" (our talk therapy didn’t solve the issue)."Why do I understand everything but can't change anything?"Check this out: functional freeze is actually a brilliant survival strategy your nervous system developed long ago.Maybe you grew up in a family where anger wasn't allowed. Where being "too emotional" was criticized or shamed.Maybe you learned early that the safest way to navigate conflict was to go numb. To shut down. To disappear emotionally while staying physically present.This protected you then. But now, unresolved– it keeps you trapped in relationshipswhere intimacy feels impossible.Here's where it gets really intense:All that anger, sadness, and pain you've been told to suppress…It doesn't just disappear.It gets stored in your body. Compressed. Turned inward. And over time, this internalized emotion manifests as:Chronic fatigue (your body is exhausted from holding all that suppressed feeling)Autoimmune issues (your system literally attacks itself)Depression (anger turned inward)Digestive problems (emotions you can't stomach)Sleep disorders (your nervous system can't truly rest)Your body becomes the repository for every emotion you weren't allowed to feel.And here’s the biggest blind spot…The way out isn't through more analysis or understanding.Or even talking.The way out is through feeling.“Feeling? What specifically?”Specifically, through feeling the emotions you've spent years avoiding.And the first step isn't pretty: it's anger. Sounds counterintuitive, I know. Society tells us anger is "bad." Spiritual teachings often frame it as something to transcend. Therapy sometimes treats it as something to “manage.”But here's what I've learned working with folks stuck in freeze: anger is actually an upgrade.Think about the “emotional ladder”:Freeze/Despair (bottom)Anger/Activation (middle)Safety/Connection (top)You can't jump from freeze directly to connection. You have to go through activation first.This is why I’ll often see when my son has a complete meltdown – screaming, crying, getting angry – and then suddenly he’s fine. Happy. Connected again.That’s because he felt his way up the ladder.But adults– we've been conditioned to skip the feeling part. To stay stuck in freeze because it's "more civilized."But what I had to get was that learning to feel anger –safely and appropriately –is actually the key to accessing joy, connection, and intimacy.Think about it: What if those tears you've been holding back aren't weakness, but the very mechanism your nervous system uses to regulate itself?Watch a child who's been hurt or upset. They cry hard, then they're done. Reset. Back to their natural state of curiosity and connection.That's not childish. That's how the nervous system is designed to work.But most people– especially the successful ones– have been taught that this natural processis somehow wrong or unprofessional.So instead of feeling and releasing, you freeze. You intellectualize. You ...
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