Ever feel guilty for saying no? Like setting a boundary makes you a bad person? You’re not alone and you’re definitely not broken.

In this powerful, heart-led episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon dives deep into the real reason boundaries feel so hard, especially if you’ve experienced trauma, chronic people-pleasing, or were taught that love had to be earned.

You’ll discover:

• 🌪 Why your nervous system resists saying no (hint: it’s not about willpower)
• 🧠 The brain science behind why boundaries trigger guilt
• 💛 How to rewire your response and create safe, sustainable boundaries
• 💬 Scripts you can actually use without sounding defensive or rude
• 🔁 What to do when people push back against the “new” you

With a warm cuppa and a whole lot of compassion, Clare reminds you that setting boundaries isn’t selfish, it’s sacred. This isn’t just self-care; it’s nervous system repair.

✨ Whether you’re just starting out or you’ve been on this healing journey a while, this episode will help you stop abandoning yourself and start choosing peace over performance.

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

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Are you feeling flat, emotionally drained, or stuck in a fog of fatigue, even though you want to move forward?

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology expert and trauma-informed coach, unpacks the real reason motivation disappears during mental exhaustion, and how to gently reconnect with your drive without pressure, guilt, or hustle.

You’ll learn:

• Why burnout and low motivation are signs of a depleted nervous system (not laziness)
• How to regulate before you take action and why that matters neurologically
• Why shrinking your goals activates long-term motivation
• How to use the Four Pillars of the Happya Survival Kit to restore energy and clarity

✨ This is not about forcing productivity. It’s about understanding the science behind burnout, honouring your body’s signals, and learning how to move forward in ways that feel safe, supportive, and sustainable.

🎧 Listen now and take your first small step, no pressure, just possibility.

🔗 Explore the Happya Survival Kit: https://happya.coach/survivalkit
📩 Want to share how this landed for you? Message Clare or follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehappyacoach

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

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You’ve survived the storm… now what?

In this episode, Clare gets real about what healing actually looks like once the chaos calms. If you’ve done the therapy, filled the journals, and ticked all the self-care boxes but still feel flat, like someone dimmed the lights inside, this conversation is for you.

Clare explores why long-term healing isn’t about chasing perfection or waiting for a finish line. It’s about ongoing maintenance, nervous system literacy, and creating a lifestyle that supports your wellbeing; emotionally, mentally, physically, and socially.

You’ll learn:

• Why the “in-between” is the hardest (and most honest) part of healing
• How to build your personal maintenance manual
• What the four pillars of wellbeing really mean
• Why regulating before acting changes everything
• The difference between routines and rituals (and why one helps you thrive)

Plus, Clare introduces the Happya Survival Kit, a foundational tool for managing your wellbeing when life gets unpredictable.

✨ This episode is your permission slip to stop pushing, start maintaining, and reconnect with the version of you that knows how to grow, gently, intelligently, and for the long haul.

📩 Got thoughts or aha moments? Clare wants to hear from you. Send a message, share what landed, or explore the Survival Kit https://happyacoach.com/survivalkit.

You’re not broken. You’re blooming. 🌱

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

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You’ve made it through the hard part. The breakdown, the burnout, the heartbreak, the grief. The dust is starting to settle but instead of relief, you’re left with a quiet, disorienting question: What now?

This episode of The Happya Life Podcast is for anyone standing in the uncertain space between surviving and truly living again. If you’ve felt numb, stuck, or unsure of who you are beyond the struggle, you are not alone.

In this powerful conversation, Clare explores:

✨ Why life after survival feels more confusing than expected.

✨ How to rebuild your identity and direction without rushing into reinvention.

✨ Gentle, practical steps to begin reclaiming your future on your terms.

You’ll learn how to move from coping to creating, from reacting to rebuilding, and how to anchor into a life that actually feels like yours.

This is not about pretending everything is fine. It’s about learning how to begin again with clarity, courage, and compassion.

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

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Feeling overwhelmed and wondering how to prioritise self-care amidst the chaos? In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, host Clare, a seasoned positive psychology coach and therapist, delves into the real challenges of self-care for those constantly supporting others.​

What You'll Learn:

• Why self-care often feels unattainable when you need it most
• Debunking common self-care myths that keep you stuck
• Practical, compassionate steps to begin your self-care journey​

Discover the concept of the "self-care battery" understanding the physical, emotional, mental, and social pillars of wellbeing and how neglecting any can leave you drained. Clare introduces the Happya Survival Kit, a trauma-informed course designed to help you recharge and thrive.​

Special Easter Offer: Enroll in the Happya Survival Kit for just £98.50 (regularly £197) using code HappyaEaster. Offer valid until Easter Monday 21st April 2025.​

Start your journey from surviving to thriving today.​

🔗 Learn more and enroll

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

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Have you ever felt like you’re playing a role in your own life... saying the right things, doing what’s expected, blending in to avoid judgment... but quietly wondering, what about me?

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’re digging into what it really means to stay true to yourself in a world that constantly nudges (or shoves) you to conform. Whether it’s societal pressure, family expectations, or the fear of being “too much,” it’s easy to lose touch with who you really are.

We’re unpacking:

✨ Why authenticity can feel so hard and what it actually means in real life (no buzzwords, just truth).

✨ How constantly performing for others chips away at your confidence and self-worth.

✨ Why abandoning your values to keep the peace never works and what it costs you in the long run.

✨ What it really takes to live more boldly, more honestly, and more you—even if that ruffles a few feathers.

This is a call to stop shape-shifting for acceptance and start standing tall in your own story.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Who am I, really?” or felt like you’ve been playing small just to keep others comfortable this conversation is your invitation to take off the mask and start coming home to yourself.

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

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Who Are You Now? Reclaiming Your Identity After Trauma

Have you ever found yourself looking in the mirror and thinking, “Where did I go?”

Maybe it followed a life-altering experience; loss, burnout, heartbreak, or a season that cracked you open. Suddenly, the version of you that once felt confident and grounded feels… out of reach.

In this episode, we explore how trauma and major life transitions can shift your identity and how to begin the journey of rediscovery. You’ll learn why this isn’t about “getting back to the old you,” but about becoming someone even more grounded, intentional, and aligned.

Inside:

• Why identity shifts after trauma or change
• How to stop grieving the “old you” and start embracing who you are now
• Steps to reconnect with your values, passions, and authentic self
• How masking and people-pleasing disconnect you from your truth
• Permission to evolve and to thrive in a life that actually fits

If you’re feeling lost, this episode will help you find your way back to yourself, gently, compassionately, and with real tools for growth.

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

Music by LemonMusicStudio

Do you feel like you're always "on"? Like you're editing yourself to fit in, avoid conflict, or be accepted? That’s not just being adaptable, it’s called masking, and it comes at a cost.

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we dive into the psychology behind masking your true self, why so many of us do it without even realising, and how it affects your mental health, identity, and emotional well-being.

If you’ve ever felt:

• Disconnected from who you really are
• Drained by social situations
• Like you're performing more than you're living...

…you’re not alone. And this episode is for you.

What we cover:

✔️ What masking is and where it comes from
✔️ The link between masking, anxiety, and burnout
✔️ How trauma, childhood roles, and people-pleasing patterns play into it
✔️ Real ways to start unmasking and reconnecting with your authentic self

This is for the high-functioning, heart-led, overthinking souls who are ready to stop performing and start being real.

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

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