Ever feel guilty for saying no? Like setting a boundary makes you a bad person? You’re not alone and you’re definitely not broken.

In this powerful, heart-led episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon dives deep into the real reason boundaries feel so hard, especially if you’ve experienced trauma, chronic people-pleasing, or were taught that love had to be earned.

You’ll discover:

• 🌪 Why your nervous system resists saying no (hint: it’s not about willpower)
• 🧠 The brain science behind why boundaries trigger guilt
• 💛 How to rewire your response and create safe, sustainable boundaries
• 💬 Scripts you can actually use without sounding defensive or rude
• 🔁 What to do when people push back against the “new” you

With a warm cuppa and a whole lot of compassion, Clare reminds you that setting boundaries isn’t selfish, it’s sacred. This isn’t just self-care; it’s nervous system repair.

✨ Whether you’re just starting out or you’ve been on this healing journey a while, this episode will help you stop abandoning yourself and start choosing peace over performance.

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

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Are you feeling flat, emotionally drained, or stuck in a fog of fatigue, even though you want to move forward?

In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology expert and trauma-informed coach, unpacks the real reason motivation disappears during mental exhaustion, and how to gently reconnect with your drive without pressure, guilt, or hustle.

You’ll learn:

• Why burnout and low motivation are signs of a depleted nervous system (not laziness)
• How to regulate before you take action and why that matters neurologically
• Why shrinking your goals activates long-term motivation
• How to use the Four Pillars of the Happya Survival Kit to restore energy and clarity

✨ This is not about forcing productivity. It’s about understanding the science behind burnout, honouring your body’s signals, and learning how to move forward in ways that feel safe, supportive, and sustainable.

🎧 Listen now and take your first small step, no pressure, just possibility.

🔗 Explore the Happya Survival Kit: https://happya.coach/survivalkit
📩 Want to share how this landed for you? Message Clare or follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehappyacoach

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Email: clare@happyacoach.com

Music by LemonMusicStudio

You’ve survived the storm… now what?

In this episode, Clare gets real about what healing actually looks like once the chaos calms. If you’ve done the therapy, filled the journals, and ticked all the self-care boxes but still feel flat, like someone dimmed the lights inside, this conversation is for you.

Clare explores why long-term healing isn’t about chasing perfection or waiting for a finish line. It’s about ongoing maintenance, nervous system literacy, and creating a lifestyle that supports your wellbeing; emotionally, mentally, physically, and socially.

You’ll learn:

• Why the “in-between” is the hardest (and most honest) part of healing
• How to build your personal maintenance manual
• What the four pillars of wellbeing really mean
• Why regulating before acting changes everything
• The difference between routines and rituals (and why one helps you thrive)

Plus, Clare introduces the Happya Survival Kit, a foundational tool for managing your wellbeing when life gets unpredictable.

✨ This episode is your permission slip to stop pushing, start maintaining, and reconnect with the version of you that knows how to grow, gently, intelligently, and for the long haul.

📩 Got thoughts or aha moments? Clare wants to hear from you. Send a message, share what landed, or explore the Survival Kit https://happyacoach.com/survivalkit.

You’re not broken. You’re blooming. 🌱

Book a Chat: https://happyacoach.com/chat

Email: clare@happyacoach.com

Music by LemonMusicStudio