Dear Sister Girl,

I am writing about my job. I have what one would consider a good job. It has fair pay, good benefits, and some room for advancement. I do extremely well with my responsibilities and work with a dynamic team. My challenge is I no longer enjoy my work. I am very grateful for what I have learned and the opportunities I have experienced. Presently, I am looking to more clearly identify my dream so I can step out in a new direction. My family and friends think it is ridiculous to quit such a cushy job. They do not see the ever changing last minute demands and the complete collapse of my work/life balance–all with little reward. I feel exhausted physically and emotionally. When is it time to go?

Please help,

Frazzled

Dear Sister Girls,

While on a date night with my husband, we saw one of his close friends coming out of a Hotel with a woman that was not his wife. They were touching and kissing all over each other. Now…I knew we would need evidence to show his wife, so I quickly snapped a picture. 

My husband doesn’t want to tell his friend’s wife about what we show. He says that it’s a violation of his “Man Code”. I am not necessarily close to the wife, we are good acantenes because our husbands are so close. But the woman in me wants her to know what is going on.

My question is, “Should I tell the wife about her cheating ass husband or not”

Signed,

He Still Creeping

Dear Sister Girls,

I am desperately in need of dating advice. I have been trying to do online dating and there is just a weird trend that I am seeing in the profiles that I have been seeing. A lot of the men that keep coming up on my profile are in photos with other people, groups, other women, and sometimes with animals. Yes, animals, I have seen regular animals like cats and dogs which makes sense but there are other animals like GOATS. I have seen more than 5 men in photos with goats as their main photo. 

The Goats are even posed in the photos like “Hey baby, you need to pick the kid!” Is this normal, should I be posing with animals too? Every single one of these guys have all sent me private messages and they seem normal but I just do not respond. Is that wrong or am I missing out.

Signed,

Should I have a Dating Spirit Animal

Dear Sister Girls

I’m in need of advice. So, once I married my husband, we started to hang around more married people. Before I get into this letter, I just want you all to know that I am in a wonderful loving and committed marriage. 

During these normal hangout sessions, the men tend to leave the wives and go off to do their own things.

While we are in our separate gender groups, the conversation, on occasion, could become sexual in nature. Now several of my married girl friends, will brag about how they are putting it on their husbands and dropping it like it is hot. So I am being encouraging and telling her, “You Go Girl”. 

However, when I get home with my husband and we’re having pillow talk, he informs me how unhappy a few of the husbands are with their sex life. And I’ll be dog darn that the same women that were bragging about how good they are in bed are married to the men that are complaining about how horrible their sex life is.

My question, how can i inform my girlfriends about their husbands true feeling concerning their sex life? Letting them know that their husbands think their sex life is trash and they need to make some major changes/ improvements?

Signed… the girlfriend of the one that thinks she is dropping it like it’s hot but she’s not.

Dear Sister Girl,

I am a thirty something married woman with two school age children. I have a wonderful office job that I love.

Here is the issue, I have a good friend at work. We laugh, talk, and often eat lunch together. Now my colleagues have deemed him my “Work Husband”.
We talk about everything and we have our own inside jokes. I have noticed lately that he is getting more touchy-feely and our conversations are becoming more sexual in nature.

I don’t want to give him the wrong idea…I mean I have a real husband at home whom I love and adore. What should I do? What should I do?

Signed,

Mrs. Mrs. Jones

Dear Sister Girl,

I’ve Got 99 Problems But Religion Ain’t One….So,  stop inviting me to your online church watch parties. I have attended more church services in the last 3 weeks, then in the last 3 years. I have a 9am, 10am, 11am, 1pm, 3pm, and 6pm service every Sunday.

n the last 3 weeks, I’ve been Baptist, Southern Baptist, Methodist, Pentecostal, Church of God in Christ, Jewish, Catholic, Seventh Day Adventist, and Lutheran. I even attended/watched a bilingual service, in-which, I don’t know their particular religion. I just knew they kept repeating Jesus, Jesus, Jesus…Hell, I didn’t even know that I have such an eclectic group of religious fiends.

On the other hand, I see the brighter side of things. In my opinion, right now, we are all going to heaven, it is almost impossible to sin.   

Bars are closed, no sporting events, strip clubs closed, husbands and wives can’t go see their secret lovers, sugar daddies are lonely, the THOTs are just over there, as a matter of fact the only thing someone might be able to do is watch internet porn.

So, I guess my question would be how do I tell my friends that I don’t want to have a live watch party of their on-line church services.

Sincerely,

99 Problems But Religion Ain’t One

Dear Sister Girl,

I am trying figure out dating these days? I have friends that have found success online and even a husband, and others that have found people at events or through networking but all I seem to be finding is duds. I really want to know if I am going about it wrong. What are the rules of dating now.

Should I pretend to be prefect until they ask me to be their girlfriend? Should I wait more than three dates before sleeping with these dudes? Do men just have different goals than women in dating? Am I just trying too hard and scaring dudes away? Also, when is too soon to ask a man for money when you are dating them? It is not easy to find a good guy who will love and pamper you. I just cannot figure out what I should do and when? Please help.

Helen in Atlanta
AKA “Dating in the New World”

You’re listening the to the Dear Sister Girl podcast presented by SisterGirlLife.com, a weekly chat show which covers a wide range of important topics that matter to women, important topics like business, relationships, style, and health. My name is Candace Bazemore, and my Dear Sister Girl podcast co-hosts are Felicia LaVette and Tyesha Moore and we are three friends sharing our expertise to help women follow their dreams while navigating the modern world.  On each episode of the Dear Sister Girl podcast, we take letters about exciting and entertaining topics and give advice from a Sister Girl’s perspective.