You want closeness. You initiate the sex. You start the deep conversation. And then… you ghost. Or pull away. Or shut down. Or spiral and convince yourself he doesn’t really love you.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, Courtney dives into the complex, chaotic, oh-so-relatable world of disorganised attachment—also known as anxious-avoidant attachment.

It’s the style no one talks about… But nearly every high-achieving, overthinking woman secretly lives inside of.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• The real reason you flip-flop between wanting deep connection and needing space
• How anxious and avoidant traits can show up in the same nervous system
• What early emotional unpredictability teaches us about love, vulnerability, and safety
• How this shows up in marriage, conflict, and the bedroom (yep, even mid-thrust)
• Practical signs this attachment style is running the show—and how to start spotting it before it wrecks your connection

You’ll especially relate if:

• You open up one day… and feel emotionally hungover the next
• You initiate intimacy but panic as soon as it starts to feel real
• You say “I just need space,” then spiral when your partner actually gives it to you
• You secretly fear that closeness = loss of control

Key Message: You’re not too much. You’re not confusing. You’re not cold or clingy. You’re just someone who’s never been shown what safe, stable love actually feels like.

And babe—now that you see the pattern? You can start to change it.

So, you're the strong one. The capable one. The “I’m fine, don’t worry about me” one.

But here’s the truth no one told you: Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean you don’t want love. It means love feels like it might cost you your freedom.

In this juicy, note-folding, heart-spilling solo episode, Courtney unpacks what avoidant attachment actually looks like for high-achieving women who are thriving in business… but shutting down at home.

We dive into:

• The high-functioning habits masking your intimacy struggles (hello, overworking + emotional distance)
• Why “I’m fine” is your favourite lie
• The real reason your nervous system craves independence over intimacy
• How avoidant attachment shows up in the bedroom (and why it’s not about low libido)
• Courtney’s proven method for building connection without feeling engulfed
• Why Afterglow™ is the container for unlearning performance-based love without losing your edge

If you’ve ever ghosted mid-conflict (emotionally or literally), felt guilty for needing space, or hate being vulnerable unless it’s on your terms—this one is for you.

✨ Bonus Nugget: Healing avoidant attachment isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about learning to stay—present, soft, powerful—even when it gets uncomfortable.

Afterglow™ is where we do exactly that. → DM “AFTERGLOW” or apply directly [CLICK HERE]

Let’s be real—your partner’s short text reply shouldn’t make your heart drop. But if your brain spirals, your chest tightens, and you’re suddenly convinced he’s falling out of love with you, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale.

Today’s chat is all about anxious attachment—why high-achieving, hyper-capable women like you can lead a boardroom but fall into panic when he forgets the 😘 emoji.

Inside this episode:

• What anxious attachment really is (no textbook snoozefest, promise)
• How your nervous system got wired for “earn your love” energy
• Why texts, tone, and timing can feel like life-or-death signals
• The secret sauce to going from panic to power (in under 3 minutes)
• Courtney’s spicy personal rituals to get out of overfunction mode
• A behind-the-scenes peek at Afterglow™ and how to become secure AF in love and intimacy

If you’ve ever asked:

💬 “Why do I know I’m loved, but I don’t feel it?”

💬 “Why does silence feel like punishment?”

💬 “Why can’t I stop refreshing his Insta story views?” …this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start healing.

✨ Wanna go deeper? Join the AFTERGLOW™ waitlist or DM Courtney “AFTERGLOW” to apply. You’re not too much. You’re just finally feeling everything. → [CLICK HERE]

Feel like a total badass at work but fall apart over a one-word text from your partner? Yeah—this one’s for you.

In this episode, Courtney breaks down anxious attachment in a way that actually makes sense—no therapy jargon, just real talk for high-achieving women who are sick of spiralling in silence. Learn why you overthink, shut down, and keep chasing emotional safety in all the wrong places—and how to finally get off the anxiety rollercoaster.

This is your no-fluff, luxe AF guide to understanding the emotional wiring behind your bedroom blocks. And the best part? You don’t have to stay stuck.

You’ll learn:

• What anxious attachment really means (and how it shows up in texts, sex, and silence)
• Why high-performing women are wired for over-functioning and fear of abandonment
• Tools to calm your nervous system in the middle of a spiral (aka The Reset Loop™)
• How to feel safe, sexy, and seen—without needing him to text back instantly

If your love life feels like a game of emotional ping pong, it’s time to change the rules.

🔥 Mentioned in This Episode:

💌 AFTERGLOW™ — Courtney’s 4-week, high-touch group experience for women ready to break their anxious patterns and create confident, grounded intimacy. Only 4 spots. No fluff. Full transformation. ✨ Apply here → [CLICK] Or DM “AFTERGLOW” on Instagram to learn more.

📌 Connect with Courtney:

• Instagram: @courtney__nolan
• Website: www.courtneynolan.com
• UNCUT Weekly Email: Subscribe [here]

You’ve got the candles lit, the laundry folded, and maybe even the lube nearby… So why does sex still feel like something you’re performing instead of something you’re enjoying?

In this unfiltered, juicy AF episode, I take you on a real-talk car ride (yep, nips freezing and all) to unpack the truth most women never get taught:

If you’re obsessing over your angles, your sounds, or whether you’re “doing it right”—you’re not broken. You’re conditioned.

We dive into:

• The link between performance-based love and your bedroom confidence
• What childhood praise (or the lack of it) has to do with your moaning habits
• Why so many high-achieving women over-function in the bedroom just like they do in business
• The anxious spiral when he skips a “good morning” text—and how that’s your attachment style talking
• How to spot (and stop) performance sex patterns before they wreck your pleasure

Whether you’re the “praise me or I panic” type, or just sick of overthinking sex like it’s a bloody KPI, this episode will help you pause, unpack, and actually start to enjoy intimacy again.

It's cheeky. It’s vulnerable. And it might just be your bedroom breakthrough.

Ever tried to give feedback during sex and it totally backfired? You're not alone. In this refreshingly honest episode, Courtney breaks down one of the most common intimacy blocks for couples: when feedback in the bedroom feels like criticism… and suddenly, your partner shuts down. Whether you’ve been left wondering “Did I just ruin the vibe?” or you’re tired of tiptoeing around your own pleasure, this one’s for you.

Courtney shares:

• Why good communication sometimes still doesn’t land mid-thrust
• How your childhood attachment style plays into your adult sex life
• The exact questions to ask your partner after a bedroom flop
• What to say (and NOT say) when asking for something different in bed
• How to rebuild trust and desire when intimacy goes awkward

If the phrase “slow the fuck down” has ever left your lips and killed the mood—you’ll feel deeply seen in this one.

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This episode wasn’t planned. It poured out of me. And it might be one of the most important ones I’ve ever recorded.

I’m sharing the part of my story I never thought I would: How working in the police force made me shut down my sensuality… Not because of trauma—but because sex started to feel unsafe. Because expressing desire made me a target. Because being bold, feminine, and flirty in that world came at a cost.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• 💥 Why I stopped expressing my sexual side—even in my own marriage
• 💔 What I saw inside the force that changed how I viewed intimacy
• 🔥 How I finally got her back—the unapologetic, turned-on, magnetic version of me
• 💎 Why The Iconic Femme Experience™ is more than just a program—it’s a homecoming

If you’ve ever felt like you had to tone it down to be taken seriously… If you’ve ever missed the wild, creative, sensual part of you… If you’re a high-achieving woman who’s done the work but still feels disconnected… This episode will speak to you.

✨ DM me ICONIC or email info@courtneynolan.com to explore whether this experience is your next chapter.

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Resources + Links:

🎯 Take the Bedroom Confidence Quiz → YES!

💌 Book a Private Call with Me → BOOK NOW

🔥 Sign up for The Iconic Femme Experience™ → LET'S CHAT

📩 Or email me directly at: info@courtneynolan.com with “ICONIC” in the subject line.

In this spicy solo ep, I’m pulling back the covers on something a lot of you have been quietly thinking: “I don’t know what I need… I just know I need something.”

Let’s talk about that.

In this episode, I share:

• What women actually come to me for (spoiler: it’s deeper than sex)
• Why bedroom confidence is the exact same energy you need in the boardroom
• Two real client stories that prove you can go from awkward AF to absolutely magnetic
• The toxic “Good Girl” conditioning that’s making you shrink—and how we’re breaking that spell
• How this all links to the new program I’ve got coming (psst… you’re the first to hear about it 👀)

If you’ve ever felt like a confident woman on the outside but an unsure mess behind closed doors… this one’s for you. We’re done playing small. We’re done being polite. And we’re definitely done faking it.

🎯 DM me “GOOD GIRL” on Instagram if you want first dibs on the next round of this work.

And if this episode hit? 📲 Share it to your stories ⭐️ Drop a review 📥 Or just slide into my DMs and tell me what landed—I love hearing from you.

Let’s make sexy, powerful, magnetic confidence your new default. —Court x