You want closeness. You initiate the sex. You start the deep conversation. And then… you ghost. Or pull away. Or shut down. Or spiral and convince yourself he doesn’t really love you.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, Courtney dives into the complex, chaotic, oh-so-relatable world of disorganised attachment—also known as anxious-avoidant attachment.

It’s the style no one talks about… But nearly every high-achieving, overthinking woman secretly lives inside of.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• The real reason you flip-flop between wanting deep connection and needing space
• How anxious and avoidant traits can show up in the same nervous system
• What early emotional unpredictability teaches us about love, vulnerability, and safety
• How this shows up in marriage, conflict, and the bedroom (yep, even mid-thrust)
• Practical signs this attachment style is running the show—and how to start spotting it before it wrecks your connection

You’ll especially relate if:

• You open up one day… and feel emotionally hungover the next
• You initiate intimacy but panic as soon as it starts to feel real
• You say “I just need space,” then spiral when your partner actually gives it to you
• You secretly fear that closeness = loss of control

Key Message: You’re not too much. You’re not confusing. You’re not cold or clingy. You’re just someone who’s never been shown what safe, stable love actually feels like.

And babe—now that you see the pattern? You can start to change it.

So, you're the strong one. The capable one. The “I’m fine, don’t worry about me” one.

But here’s the truth no one told you: Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean you don’t want love. It means love feels like it might cost you your freedom.

In this juicy, note-folding, heart-spilling solo episode, Courtney unpacks what avoidant attachment actually looks like for high-achieving women who are thriving in business… but shutting down at home.

We dive into:

• The high-functioning habits masking your intimacy struggles (hello, overworking + emotional distance)
• Why “I’m fine” is your favourite lie
• The real reason your nervous system craves independence over intimacy
• How avoidant attachment shows up in the bedroom (and why it’s not about low libido)
• Courtney’s proven method for building connection without feeling engulfed
• Why Afterglow™ is the container for unlearning performance-based love without losing your edge

If you’ve ever ghosted mid-conflict (emotionally or literally), felt guilty for needing space, or hate being vulnerable unless it’s on your terms—this one is for you.

✨ Bonus Nugget: Healing avoidant attachment isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about learning to stay—present, soft, powerful—even when it gets uncomfortable.

Afterglow™ is where we do exactly that. → DM “AFTERGLOW” or apply directly [CLICK HERE]

Let’s be real—your partner’s short text reply shouldn’t make your heart drop. But if your brain spirals, your chest tightens, and you’re suddenly convinced he’s falling out of love with you, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale.

Today’s chat is all about anxious attachment—why high-achieving, hyper-capable women like you can lead a boardroom but fall into panic when he forgets the 😘 emoji.

Inside this episode:

• What anxious attachment really is (no textbook snoozefest, promise)
• How your nervous system got wired for “earn your love” energy
• Why texts, tone, and timing can feel like life-or-death signals
• The secret sauce to going from panic to power (in under 3 minutes)
• Courtney’s spicy personal rituals to get out of overfunction mode
• A behind-the-scenes peek at Afterglow™ and how to become secure AF in love and intimacy

If you’ve ever asked:

💬 “Why do I know I’m loved, but I don’t feel it?”

💬 “Why does silence feel like punishment?”

💬 “Why can’t I stop refreshing his Insta story views?” …this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start healing.

✨ Wanna go deeper? Join the AFTERGLOW™ waitlist or DM Courtney “AFTERGLOW” to apply. You’re not too much. You’re just finally feeling everything. → [CLICK HERE]