You want closeness. You initiate the sex. You start the deep conversation. And then… you ghost. Or pull away. Or shut down. Or spiral and convince yourself he doesn’t really love you.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, Courtney dives into the complex, chaotic, oh-so-relatable world of disorganised attachment—also known as anxious-avoidant attachment.

It’s the style no one talks about… But nearly every high-achieving, overthinking woman secretly lives inside of.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• The real reason you flip-flop between wanting deep connection and needing space
• How anxious and avoidant traits can show up in the same nervous system
• What early emotional unpredictability teaches us about love, vulnerability, and safety
• How this shows up in marriage, conflict, and the bedroom (yep, even mid-thrust)
• Practical signs this attachment style is running the show—and how to start spotting it before it wrecks your connection

You’ll especially relate if:

• You open up one day… and feel emotionally hungover the next
• You initiate intimacy but panic as soon as it starts to feel real
• You say “I just need space,” then spiral when your partner actually gives it to you
• You secretly fear that closeness = loss of control

Key Message: You’re not too much. You’re not confusing. You’re not cold or clingy. You’re just someone who’s never been shown what safe, stable love actually feels like.

And babe—now that you see the pattern? You can start to change it.