• 227: Beyond Fairy Tales with Dr. Mark Karris
    Jan 30 2025

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    In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Mark Karris about his new book, Beyond Fairy Tales. Mark is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with plenty of experience working with youth, families, couples, and individuals. Beyond Fairy Tales is all about helping couples find clarity, do the work, and build a lasting relationship. Hear his thoughts on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the role of research in couples therapy, dispelling myths about relationships, common types of attachment styles, and how to move from blame-based perspectives to mutual understanding.

    To learn more about Dr. Mark Karris and check out Beyond Fairy Tales, visit:

    MarkGregoryKarris.com

    Beyond Fairy Tales on Amazon

    Relationship Wisdom and Religious Trauma Recovery YouTube Channel

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    50 mins
  • 226: Childhood Trauma & Relationships with Lisa Ferentz
    Nov 19 2024

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    In this episode, Shane talks with Lisa Ferentz about childhood trauma & relationships. Lisa is the Founder of The Ferentz Institute and a recognized expert in the strengths-based, de-pathologized treatment of trauma. She’s been in private practice for over 40 years. Hear the huge role caretakers can play in trauma, the impact of shaming, why maintaining curiosity is so important as a therapist, how to pinpoint neglect, and why couples therapy work also means individual work.

    To learn more about Lisa and her trainings, visit:

    TheFerentzInstitute.com

    TheFerentzInstitute.com/Trainings

    You can also listen to Lisa on Episode 74 of The Couples Therapist Couch

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    50 mins
  • 225: Boundaries in Relationships with Shane Birkel
    Nov 12 2024

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    In this solo episode, Shane discusses the purpose of boundaries in relationships and how to set them up. Hear why healthy boundaries create change, what to avoid when setting boundaries, when to take a walk or go in the other room, the things that make boundaries work or not work, and how boundaries can help maintain safety in a relationship.

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    24 mins
  • 224: Understanding Emotionally Avoidant People with Shane Birkel
    Oct 8 2024

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    In this solo episode, Shane talks through how to understand and work with people who are emotionally avoidant. Hear how emotionally avoidant people differ from pursuers, how to avoid “right vs. wrong” conversations, how partners can help communicate what an emotionally avoidant person is feeling, whether an emotionally avoidant person can change, and the mindfulness exercise you can do every day to help.

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    40 mins
  • 223: Grief and Loss with David Kessler
    Sep 30 2024

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    In this episode, Shane talks with David Kessler about grief and loss. David is one of the most well-known experts and lecturers on death and grieving today, reaching hundreds of thousands of people through his books. Hear the traumatic experiences as a child that shaped his life, how the grieving process works, how much grieving is a healthy amount, how a partner can help in grief, and how grief differs from how it’s portrayed on TV.

    To learn more about David and his books - including his latest, Finding Meaning - visit:

    Grief.com

    GriefEducator.com

    David’s Facebook

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    45 mins
  • 222: Emotional vs. Problem-Solving Communication with Shane Birkel
    Sep 10 2024

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    In this solo episode, Shane breaks down emotional vs. problem-solving communication. Hear why this misunderstanding happens a lot with couples, how to discuss difficult emotions, how to get partners on the same page, how long it takes to recover from an affair, and the times when it’s important to problem-solve.

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    29 mins
  • 221: EFT and Ketamine-Assisted Couples Therapy with Kathryn Rheem
    Sep 3 2024

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    In this episode, Shane talks with Kathryn Rheem about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Ketamine-Assisted Couples Therapy. Kathryn is the Director of The Washington Baltimore Center for EFT and the Co-Founder of The EFT Cafe. Hear how Ketamine-Assisted Couples Therapy works, how it can help couples, how long the sessions are, what the conversations look like while on Ketamine, and best practices for a smooth session.

    To learn more about Kathryn, visit:

    WashingtonBaltimoreCenterForEFT.com

    RheemClark.com

    TheEFTCafe.com

    You can also listen to Kathryn on Episode 209 of The Couples Therapist Couch

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    59 mins
  • 220: Pregnancy, Parenthood, and Relationships with Hilary Waller
    Aug 27 2024

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    In this episode, Shane talks with Hilary Waller about pregnancy, parenthood, and relationships. Hilary is a psychotherapist who supports new parents as they navigate pregnancy and parenthood. Hear the best way to support couples who are new parents, what to recommend for people who just found out they’re pregnant, why community plays such a big role, how often parents should check in with each other, and the most challenging cases she’s worked on.

    To learn more about Hilary and her books - Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts and The Perinatal Patient - visit:

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/hilary-waller-fort-washington-pa/1251531

    https://www.amazon.com/Dropping-Baby-Other-Scary-Thoughts/dp/0367223902

    https://www.amazon.com/Perinatal-Patient-Compassionate-Postpartum-Depression/dp/1683736567

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    46 mins