If We Only Knew Then

By: Nora McMahon and Paul Overton
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  • Join us on a path towards self actualization with "If We Only Knew Then," a podcast that dives deep into the realms of mental health, personal development, spirituality, living with intention, and the hard earned wisdom that midlife offers. Hosted by Nora McMahon and Paul Overton, each episode is an exploration of the human experience, offering insights, tools, and stories that empower and inspire. Through conversations that address the complexities of modern living while honoring timeless wisdom and spiritual truths, Nora and Paul offer practical strategies for enhancing your mental well being, navigating life’s challenges with resilience and unlocking your true potential. Whether you're seeking guidance on mindfulness practices, strategies for emotional wellness, or simply a dose of inspiration to live a more fulfilling life, "If We Only Knew Then" is your go-to source. Tune in to gain valuable perspectives, cultivate inner peace, and embark on a voyage of growth and self-discovery. Don't miss out on the opportunity to expand your mind and join a community dedicated to self growth. Subscribe now to "If We Only Knew Then" and walk with us towards a more conscious, empowered, and fulfilling life experience.
    2024
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  • Feeling Anxious? Create to Ease It

    Feeling Anxious? Create to Ease It
    Jan 28 2025
    In this conversation, Paul and Nora explore the decline of creativity in education, particularly due to the systematic elimination of career and technical education (CTE) classes in favor of STEM. They discuss the importance of creativity in problem-solving and the value of skilled trades, reflecting on their own experiences and the cultural implications of a society that prioritizes consumption over creation. The conversation also touches on the impact of social media on creativity and the struggle for authenticity in a world driven by content creation. This conversation explores the themes of authenticity in dance, the legacy of influential dancers like Dawn Hampton, the cultural shifts in dance practices, the importance of reviving practical skills in society, and the relationship between creativity and anxiety. The speakers reflect on their experiences and the impact of genuine connections in dance, while also discussing the need for community and skill-building in a modern context. In this conversation, Nora and Paul explore the importance of creativity and innovation in various fields, discussing how understanding systems can foster curiosity and lead to true innovation. They reflect on the current state of art and creativity, the influences of contemporary artists, and the value of manual trades in education. The discussion also highlights the power of online learning platforms and encourages listeners to shift from consuming content to creating their own, emphasizing the mental health benefits of engaging in creative acts. Takeaways Creativity is essential for problem-solving in society. The elimination of CTE classes has harmed creativity in education. A balance between STEM and the arts is necessary for holistic education. Skilled trades offer valuable life skills that are often overlooked. Cultural reflections on creativity highlight the importance of makers in society. Social media has changed the way we engage with creativity. Authenticity in creative expression is often lost in performance-driven environments. The shift towards hyper-consumption detracts from our ability to create. Education systems are failing to prepare students as whole citizens. The internet provides resources for learning trades that are no longer taught in schools. Mark was always himself, never imitating others. Dancing with Mark felt like being the only person in the room. Dawn Hampton's authenticity and musicality were unmatched. Creativity can flourish even after setbacks, as seen in Dawn's whistling. The dance culture has shifted towards performance over presence. Older dancers embodied authenticity that is often missing today. Practical skills are essential for personal growth and community building. Men often feel shame for lacking practical skills they were never taught. Creativity can be a remedy for anxiety and self-doubt. Learning through observation and teaching enhances skills. Understanding how things work fosters curiosity and innovation. Innovation in art and creativity is lacking in contemporary society. Contemporary artists like Janelle Monáe and Björk inspire through their unique expressions. Manual trades are undervalued and essential for a balanced economy. Online platforms like Skillshare provide valuable learning opportunities. Creating can alleviate anxiety and provide a sense of purpose. It's important to create for personal expression rather than just for profit. Everyone has a unique perspective that contributes to creativity. Don't let the fear of comparison stop you from creating. Engaging in small creative acts can lead to greater fulfillment. Titles Reviving Creativity in Education The Decline of Skilled Trades Balancing STEM and the Arts Cultural Reflections on Creativity The Impact of Social Media on Creative Expression Authenticity in a Performance-Driven World Sound Bites "We need to balance STEM with the arts." "The world needs a lot less consuming." "We have become hyper consumers." "We are entertaining ourselves to death." "You can't fake the funk." "It's not as good anymore." "We were a nation of creators." "What do we want to create now?" "Creativity is an anxiety killer." "What did you learn?" "We should start creating less consuming." "Try creating something, whatever it is." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Creativity and Education 03:02 The Importance of Creativity in Education 06:09 The Shift from Trades to STEM 08:54 The Value of Skilled Trades 11:55 Cultural Reflections on Creativity 15:13 The Impact of Social Media on Creativity 18:02 Authenticity in Creative Expression 23:21 The Essence of Authentic Dance 26:19 Cherishing Connections in Dance 28:33 Dawn Hampton: A Legacy of Creativity 31:10 The Shift in Dance Culture 32:40 Reviving Practical Skills in Society 36:19 Creativity as a Tool for Overcoming Anxiety 44:39 The Curiosity of Understanding Systems 46:10 Innovation in Art and Creativity 48:43 ...
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    1 hr and 6 mins
  • Recognizing Codependent Relationships and How to Reclaim Your Individual Power

    Recognizing Codependent Relationships and How to Reclaim Your Individual Power
    Jan 21 2025
    Summary In this episode, Nora and Paul delve into the complexities of codependent relationships, exploring their origins in attachment theory and the struggle between the need for authenticity and the need for attachment. They discuss the psychological roots of people-pleasing behaviors, the challenges of navigating relationships, and the importance of building awareness to foster healing. The conversation also highlights the '10 Commandments of Codependency' as a humorous yet insightful guide to recognizing and addressing codependent behaviors. This conversation delves into the complexities of parenting, self-worth, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. It explores how fear of failure can hinder personal growth, the importance of building confidence through small wins, and the need to redefine success on one's own terms. The discussion also highlights the unique challenges women face in navigating safety and codependency, as well as the effects of childhood trauma on hyper-independence. Ultimately, the conversation emphasizes the importance of awareness and the journey towards healing codependency. In this conversation, Nora and Paul discuss the importance of accessible mental health resources, the impact of attachment styles on behavior, the necessity of setting healthy boundaries, and the pursuit of inner contentment over material wealth. They emphasize the role of libraries as valuable resources, the significance of self-awareness, and the need to understand one's emotions and responses in relationships. Takeaways Codependency often stems from childhood attachment issues. Understanding attachment theory is crucial for recognizing codependent behaviors. Authenticity is essential for healthy relationships. People pleasing is a common trait in codependent individuals. Resentment can build when one suppresses their authentic self. Emotional safety is as important as physical safety in relationships. Building awareness of codependent behaviors is the first step to healing. The '10 Commandments of Codependency' provide insight into unhealthy patterns. Navigating relationships requires balancing personal needs and the needs of others. Every family has unique dynamics that influence codependent behaviors. Parents are doing their best with what they know. Children often feel they must earn love through performance. Fear of failure can prevent trying new things. Building confidence requires small, manageable wins. Reframing failure as a pivot can reduce anxiety. Success is a personal definition, not a societal one. Women often strategize for safety in social situations. Hyper-independence can stem from childhood trauma. Awareness is the first step in healing codependency. Generational differences affect our understanding of mental health. You have more tools for mental health than ever before. Libraries provide invaluable resources for personal growth. Building awareness of your attachment style is crucial. Setting boundaries is essential for healthy relationships. You can only control your own actions and responses. Letting others be themselves is a form of self-care. Boundaries should be seen as guardrails, not walls. Contentment comes from within, not from external validation. Understanding your emotions is key to personal development. Grind culture is a form of addiction that detracts from happiness. Titles Unpacking Codependency: A Deep Dive The Dance of Attachment and Authenticity People Pleasing: The Hidden Cost of Codependency Navigating Relationships: The Codependency Challenge The 10 Commandments of Codependency Explained Building Awareness: The Key to Healing Codependency Sound Bites "Mysterious is our marketing brand." "Authenticity is a survival mechanism." "Resentment is a serious drug." "You're not doing enough because it's hard." "All you have to do is start small." "It's worth it to try and rewire." "Libraries are literally the best." "Don't be a burden, do it yourself." "Building awareness is the first step." "You can only control yourself." "Let them say what they're going to say." "Contentment is the thing, not wealth." "Get to know your inside man." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Codependency 02:56 Understanding Attachment Theory 06:01 The Need for Authenticity vs. Attachment 08:54 People Pleasing and Its Roots 11:59 Navigating Relationships with Codependency 14:57 The 10 Commandments of Codependency 20:54 Building Awareness and Healing 22:03 Parenting and Its Impact on Self-Worth 24:15 Fear of Failure and Its Consequences 26:14 Building Confidence Through Small Wins 28:00 Reframing Failure as a Pivot 29:25 Defining Personal Success 31:50 Navigating Codependency in Relationships 32:22 The Female Experience of Safety and Codependency 36:21 Childhood Trauma and Hyper-Independence 39:01 Healing Codependency Through Awareness 44:22 Exploring Accessible Mental Health Resources 48:10 ...
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    1 hr and 9 mins
  • New Year, New Us! Looking Back on 2024 So We Can Navigate 2025

    New Year, New Us! Looking Back on 2024 So We Can Navigate 2025
    Jan 14 2025
    Keywords 2024 reflections, personal growth, community support, intentions for 2025, life challenges, podcast highlights, self-acceptance, curation, attraction, new beginnings, friendship, traditions, rituals, quality living, personal growth, new year, intentional living, fun, silliness, mental health, Nora, declarations, personal growth, hobbies, travel, joy, connection, experiences, discipline, creativity Summary In this conversation, Nora and Paul reflect on their experiences in 2024, discussing personal challenges, lessons learned, and the importance of community. They share their intentions for 2025, focusing on curation, attraction, and the need for rest and acceptance. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of support systems and the journey of self-discovery. In this conversation, Nora and Paul explore the importance of friendships, creating fun traditions, and embracing silliness in life. They discuss their personal rituals for the New Year, focusing on intentional living and investing in quality over quantity. The conversation highlights the significance of mental freedom through decluttering and creating a joyful living space, as well as the power of declarations for personal growth. In this engaging conversation, Paul and Nora explore themes of personal growth, joy, and the importance of connection. Nora shares her declarations of intent for the future, emphasizing the significance of a clear mind, financial freedom, and creative flow. They discuss the challenges of finding new hobbies as one ages and the necessity of novel experiences to combat feelings of melancholy. Travel is highlighted as a vital means of connection and joy, while the duo reflects on the beauty of everyday moments and the power of joy as a form of resistance against negativity. The conversation concludes with a hopeful message for the new year, encouraging listeners to seek joy and connection in their lives. Takeaways 2024 was a year of unexpected challenges and lessons. Personal experiences shape our intentions for the future. Community support is vital for personal growth. Curation of relationships and possessions can lead to a more meaningful life. Attracting rather than chasing is a key theme for 2025. Rest and acceptance are essential for well-being. Navigating life changes requires resilience and adaptability. The podcast has been a fulfilling project for both hosts. Sharing experiences in a supportive environment fosters growth. Intentions for the new year can guide personal development. Friendships can be celebrated through unique traditions. Creating fun rituals can enhance relationships. Embracing silliness is essential for a joyful life. Investing in quality items leads to a more intentional lifestyle. Decluttering can provide mental freedom and clarity. Personal growth often comes from reflecting on past challenges. New Year rituals can help set intentions for the future. Surprises and spontaneity can keep friendships exciting. Quality over quantity is a valuable principle in life. Creating a joyful living space can significantly impact mental health. Nora's declarations reflect her intentions for personal growth. Freedom through discipline can lead to a more fulfilling life. Novel experiences become rarer as we age, making them more precious. Travel is a powerful way to connect with others and ourselves. Finding joy in everyday life is essential for mental well-being. Joy can be a form of resistance against negativity. Engaging in hobbies can enhance personal fulfillment. Connection with others amplifies joy and happiness. Simple pleasures can lead to profound joy. Planning intentional experiences can strengthen relationships. titles Reflections on 2024: Lessons Learned Navigating Life's Challenges Together The Power of Community in Personal Growth Intentions for 2025: Curation and Attraction Embracing Rest and Acceptance in the New Year From Chaos to Clarity: A Year in Review Sound Bites "See you soon, bitch!" "Make it fun!" "I want to plan surprises!" "Invest in quality!" "It's the hunt for it!" "I love that!" "I love these intentions!" "It's all about storage!" "Travel is important to me." "Joy is resistance." "Joy to me is connecting." "Happy new year listeners!" Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Year-End Reflections 02:57 Personal Experiences and Lessons from 2024 06:07 Navigating Challenges and Changes 08:58 The Importance of Community and Support 12:00 Intentions for 2025: Curation and Attraction 15:01 Embracing Rest and Acceptance 21:06 Celebrating Friendships and Traditions 24:55 Creating Fun Rituals and Traditions 27:49 Embracing Silliness and Fun in Life 30:00 Investing in Quality and Intentional Living 36:40 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Space 39:33 New Year Rituals and Intentions 42:26 Nora's Declarations of Intent 44:49 Exploring Personal Growth and Hobbies 46:55 The Importance of Novel Experiences 48:46 Travel as a Means of ...
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    1 hr and 5 mins

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