Episodes

  • 478: Use a Map to Find Connection

    478: Use a Map to Find Connection
    Feb 7 2025
    Ever wonder how Laurie and George navigate a couple's distress? They use a map (mutual attachment patterns)! In today's episode, our experts share the map they use to help couples see the larger picture in their conflict. The emotional and sexual cycles interact and influence connection between partners. A missed bid for connection in the emotional cycle creates a ripple in the sexual cycle and a missed bid for physical intimacy can cause emotional shut down. When partners are able to zoom out and look at the map together they have a better opportunity to see where they made a wrong turn and how they can get back on course. Here are some self-reflection questions to use on your map: "Who have I been to my partner over the past few days? How have I been coming across? If my bid wasn't taken, how did I react? Have I missed something important to my partner?" We all get lost from time to time, work with your partner to use the map to connection. Keep it hot, y'all! Check out this episode's sponsors: Addyi.com -- A prescription for women -- the little pink pill! Uberlube.com - Laurie's favorite personal lubricant! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    34 mins
  • Foreplay Replay - 291: What Turns Men On?

    Foreplay Replay - 291: What Turns Men On?
    Feb 3 2025
    We’ve talked about what turns women on… let’s hear about men!! It might not be what you expect... We’re borrowing from Michael Castleman’s insightful research on male libido. Contrary to popular belief about what turns men on – a supermodel, beauty, lingerie… the research actually says there are much bigger, deeper factors. The #1 factor? Desire, feeling wanted. Let’s talk about some of the main factors that impact male libido... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 mins
  • 477: Why We Change Positions in the Cycle

    477: Why We Change Positions in the Cycle
    Jan 31 2025
    "Am I a pursuer or a withdrawer? I want to connect emotionally but I avoid sexual intimacy. Why does this happen?" In today's episode, our hosts address the reasons partners may switch roles in the emotional and sexual cycles. Join in as Laurie and George address why you show up as the pursuer in the emotional cycle and the withdrawer in the sexual cycle and vice versa. They detail the three attachment styles, why they matter and how they show up in the respective cycles. Partners may be confused at their flip-flopping in the cycle and our hosts remind us to get curious with ourselves and avoid judgement and criticism. Ask yourself, why might this behavior make sense, what did my blueprint for connection look like, how did I look for connection and feel safe? Laurie soothes the audience as she reminds these patterns are healable and flexibility to have more choices is achievable. Have a question you want our experts to answer in an episode? Call in to the Foreplay Voicemail and leave us a message! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    34 mins
  • Foreplay Replay - 6: Boobs, Butts, and Bulges

    Foreplay Replay - 6: Boobs, Butts, and Bulges
    Jan 27 2025
    The erogenous zones and beyond. Talking about how to get your lover hot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    30 mins
  • 476: Our Caring Response

    476: Our Caring Response
    Jan 24 2025
    Join Laurie and George today as they talk about the Care Giving cycle and how important it is for our partners and relationships to respond with care to our partner's needs, both expressed and unexpressed. Check out this episode's sponsor: Uberlube.com -- Laurie's favorite personal lubricant! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    38 mins
  • Foreplay Replay - 167: Sexual Positions

    Foreplay Replay - 167: Sexual Positions
    Jan 20 2025
    Different sex positions have different pluses and minuses in different situations. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss different positions for sex and where they each shine! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 mins
  • 475: Love in a Time of War

    475: Love in a Time of War
    Jan 17 2025
    In this episode, we explore the psychological and emotional effects of the ongoing Ukraine conflict on sexual intimacy for both those directly affected by the war and those living in its shadow. George recently visited Ukraine and heard first hand the issues couples are experiencing, thus inspiring today's show. Join us as we delve into some challenges couples face in war-torn regions and the sexual discrepancies that can arise during times of unrest. Laurie and George examine the emotional toll the war has taken on intimacy, from changes in desire and communication to the impacts of PTSD, stress, and grief on partners. While war in other parts of the world might seem distant for some of our listeners, we are all touched by global conflicts, traumatic events, natural disasters or even careers as first responders. Here we consider how partners navigate physical and emotional closeness when faced with uncertainty, loss, and fear. The episode offers great insights on ways couples and individuals can navigate intimacy in challenging times, with expert advice on maintaining connection and emotional support in the face of ongoing trauma and instability. The power of connection and relationship can create resiliency during difficult times and this episode asks the question: does sex still matter while there is a war going on? Please support the pod by supporting this episode's sponsor: Uberlube.com -- Laurie's favorite personal lubricant. Get 10% off with the code 'foreplay' Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    38 mins
  • Foreplay Replay - 334: Spicing Things Up

    Foreplay Replay - 334: Spicing Things Up
    Jan 13 2025
    Wanna spice it up? What have you fantasized about doing? It takes vulnerability to tell each other about ideas for novelty and change. Are you willing to risk? Laurie and George talk about how couples choose to spice things up - ways that novelty can be gas petals or brakes for different couples often dividing the couple themselves. Porn, gummies, alcohol, vibrators, handcuffs, feathers, etc… and other toys might add to arousal or block connection! Knowing that you’re gonna have a glass of wine, you’re gonna loosen up, you’re gonna feel less inhibited…. some of it is simply the ritual, the getting ready, looking forward to a bit of change that can create a little fun. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    33 mins