In this conversation, Daniella and Rebecca explore the intersection of music, cult experiences, and cultural identity. They discuss how growing up in a cult influenced their music preferences, particularly the emotional suppression associated with it. The conversation delves into the complexities of cultural appropriation in the music industry, the impact of fame, and the challenges of navigating cultural identities. They reflect on their personal journeys of understanding music and the importance of community and cultural exchange in shaping their experiences. In this conversation, Rebecca and Daniella explore the dynamics of listening, attention, and the challenges faced in graduate school settings. They discuss the cultural implications of entitlement and the concept of cancel culture, emphasizing the importance of understanding consequences. The dialogue shifts to the value of community and diverse experiences, critiquing the traditional notions of authority and work. They advocate for a gig economy that fosters connection and collaboration, while also addressing the isolation prevalent in modern society. The conversation culminates in a critique of the myth of making money and the need for a relational revolution to combat loneliness and foster community. Connect with Rebecca at: The White Woman Whisperer Website The White Woman Whisperer Patreon The White Woman Whisperer TikTok Connect with Daniella at: You can read all about that story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella’s Tiktok: https://bit.ly/3V6GK6k / KnittingCultLady Instagram: https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_ Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Takeaways Daniella shares her journey of discovering music after leaving a cult.The emotional suppression in cults affects music preferences and emotional expression.Country music was a safe choice for Daniella as she navigated her new environment.Cultural appropriation in music is a complex issue that involves race and identity.Fame in the music industry can lead to a false sense of success and healing.The conversation highlights the importance of community in cultural exchange.Daniella reflects on the anti-identity experienced in cults and its impact on her life.The role of race in music preferences and cultural narratives is explored.Daniella's realization of the need to understand music beyond her initial experiences.The discussion emphasizes the importance of being open to learning about differentcultures. Listening requires more than just attention; it demands engagement.In graduate school, many feel compelled to speak up rather than listen.Entitlement in American culture often leads to a lack of accountability.Cancel culture is a response to the introduction of consequences.The burden of proof often falls unfairly on marginalized voices.Community and shared experiences enhance understanding and connection.Experience should be valued over mere years in a position.The gig economy offers opportunities for community-based living.Isolation is a significant issue in modern society, exacerbated by capitalism.The myth of making money perpetuates a cycle of exploitation. Chapters 00:00 The Journey from Cult to Mainstream Music 03:50 Emotional Suppression and Music's Role 06:49 Cultural Identity and Music Choices 09:48 The Impact of Fame and Success 12:45 Cultural Appropriation in the Music Industry 15:41 Navigating Identity and Acceptance 18:40 The Pressure of Success and Perfectionism 21:44 Community, Inclusion, and Cultural Understanding 27:02 Growing Up in a Cult: Isolation and Discovery 29:25 Navigating Cultural Identity and Music 30:35 Understanding Cultural Appropriation and Joy 32:37 Satanic Panic and Cultural Misunderstandings 34:25 Deconstructing Cult Teachings and Racial Bias 35:47 The Impact of Anti-Identity on Self-Perception 40:03 Consequences of Actions and Cancel Culture 41:54 The Illusion of American Exceptionalism 44:17 Listening and Engaging in Community Conversations 46:49 The Burden of Proof in Conversations 52:09 Navigating Criticism and Defending Identity 59:37 Weaponizing Experience and Identity 01:01:47 Debating Authority and Experience 01:03:51 The Value of Diverse Experiences 01:06:18 Cults, Community, and Isolation 01:10:29 Rethinking Work and Community 01:13:29 Corporate Culture and Community 01:17:16 The Myth of Job Security 01:20:52 The Importance of Community 01:25:25 Empowerment Through Creation Produced by Haley Phillips