Tera Wages is joined by Bridgett Blood and Phyllis Hill to explore the concept of Psycholation—a state of psychological isolation where people experience emotions alone, even when surrounded by others. They discuss how past experiences can make us want to keep pain to ourselves and the impact it has on relationships and mental well-being. Bridgett shares how she overcame isolation, while Phyllis and Tera get into the importance of safe connections and finding trusted people to process emotions with. They also provide steps for breaking out of Psycholation, including identifying safe relationships, expressing needs, and seeking supportive communities. Tera, Bridgett, and Phyllis will give you encouragement to recognize emotional patterns, build trust, and reach out for connection instead of carrying burdens alone.

Links and Resources:

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel⁠
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online⁠⁠
• Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help⁠
• Bridgett Blood: https://bridgettblood.com
• Bridgett on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bridgettblood
• Recover Your Life Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BridgettBlood
• Recover Your Life Podcast on Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/bdebz6nt
• Book a FREE discovery coaching call with Bridgett: https://tinyurl.com/vhbfb6jx

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Storing It All Day, Exploding at Night
• 00:01:04 - The Experts Step In: Meet Bridgett & Phyllis
• 00:01:49 - A Live Emotional Check-In: What Will Surface?
• 00:04:30 - Cyclation: The Word You Didn’t Know You Needed
• 00:06:13 - Childhood Blueprints: How We Learn to Isolate
• 00:07:55 - Secrets We Keep: Why Hiding Feels Safer
• 00:10:16 - Finding the Exit: Steps to Escape Isolation
• 00:14:21 - Safe People: Who Are They and Why Do We Need Them?
• 00:17:20 - The Heavy Load: Are We Expecting Too Much from One Person?
• 00:23:37 - Who’s Safe and Who’s Not? A New Way to See It
• 00:28:05 - Sharing Without Oversharing: Navigating Emotional Conversations
• 00:29:30 - The Small but Mighty Power of a Simple Text
• 00:30:19 - Three Feet of Fear: How We Experience and Respond
• 00:33:38 - Looking in the Mirror: Are You a Safe Person Too?
• 00:35:55 - Capacity vs. Desire: The Boundary We All Need
• 00:42:11 - Dream Solutions: What If the Life You Want Is Within Reach?
• 00:50:53 - Time to Act: One Step to Break the Cycle

Elijah Runyan, a Connection Codes-certified coach, wellness mentor, and father of four, joins Tera to dig into the emotional rollercoaster of parenting. In this episode, Elijah opens up about the challenges of raising teenagers and young kids, trying to understand their emotional needs, and confronting his own fears and shame as a parent. He shares how Connection Codes tools have completely changed his approach, moving from reaction to intentional connection, and how he’s helping his kids process trauma and anxiety. This conversation is a look at how real change begins within and offers hope for parents everywhere seeking deeper relationships with their kids.

Links and Resources:

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online⁠
• Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Connect with Elijah:

• Schedule a CC Coaching Session with Elijah: https://runyanstronghealth.as.me/schedule/5204ed3a
• Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com
• Elijah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elijahrunyan
• Elijah on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@runyanstronghealth

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - A Day with Elijah: Diving Deep
• 00:01:27 - The Buzz Behind Connection Codes Certification
• 00:03:08 - Parenting Without a Script
• 00:06:24 - Fear, Shame, and Teenage Drivers
• 00:10:15 - When School Stops Feeling Safe
• 00:15:10 - The Trauma We Didn’t See Coming
• 00:19:06 - Co-Regulating: The Secret Sauce
• 00:20:13 - A New Approach to Safety for Kids
• 00:21:40 - Breaking Old Parenting Cycles
• 00:26:15 - Repairing Connections: The Art of the Apology
• 00:27:10 - How Hungry is Your Kid’s Heart?
• 00:31:07 - Wheels of Emotion: A Parenting Tool
• 00:32:04 - Raw Reflections from Parenthood
• 00:37:03 - Resources, Encouragement, and Hope for Parents

Phyllis and Dr. Glenn are joined by Elijah Runyan, a seasoned Connection Codes coach and the director of their coaching certification program. Elijah shares how fear of shame, fear of emotions, and avoidance can drive our behaviors in relationships and everyday life. Through real-life client stories and his own experiences, he explains how slicing emotions thinner and processing them authentically can lead to breakthroughs in intimacy, parenting, and self-awareness. The conversation unpacks tools, the role of energy in emotional connection, and why avoiding emotions only strengthens barriers.

Links and Resources:

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online⁠
• Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Connect with Elijah:

• Schedule a CC Coaching Session with Elijah: https://runyanstronghealth.as.me/schedule/5204ed3a
• Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com
• Elijah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elijahrunyan
• Elijah on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@runyanstronghealth

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Unmasking Emotions: The Start Of It All
• 00:00:22 - Meet The Minds Behind Connection Codes
• 00:01:49 - Elijah’s Aha Moment On Fear Of Shame
• 00:04:00 - When Fear Holds Relationships Hostage
• 00:07:27 - The Hidden Depths Of Anger And Hurt
• 00:16:25 - Stories That Change Perspectives
• 00:24:30 - Processing Emotions: The Turning Point
• 00:27:26 - Fear, Anxiety, And Emotional Breakthroughs
• 00:29:41 - Why Emotional Regulation Is Everything
• 00:33:49 - Secrets To Connection In Every Relationship
• 00:41:11 - A Glimpse Into The Coaching Universe
• 00:44:13 - The Final Thought That Says It All

Tera sits down with Dan and Kay Ockey, founders of Centsei, to talk about the emotional and practical side of finances in relationships. From overcoming $20,000 of debt in their early marriage to building a system that has helped thousands of couples find financial peace, the Ockeys share their journey of vulnerability, teamwork, and transformation. They discuss the shame that often surrounds money, the power of partnership, and offer steps to turn financial stress into strength. This conversation is for anyone ready to rewrite their financial story.

Links and Resources:

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online⁠
• Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Connect with Dan and Kay:

• Centsei Finance: https://www.centseifinance.com
• Kay on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kay-ockey-b24066158
• Dan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-ockey
• Schedule a Free Consultation: https://tinyurl.com/2y5je9e4

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Big goals, bigger hurdles: Setting the stage
• 00:00:12 - Dan and Kay’s unfiltered story begins
• 00:01:14 - Why this conversation changes everything
• 00:01:55 - A hidden debt: Their financial awakening
• 00:04:56 - The moment everything came to light
• 00:11:02 - From argument to agreement: The turning point
• 00:13:36 - The napkin plan that started it all
• 00:17:29 - A crash course in financial teamwork
• 00:18:57 - What makes a money partnership thrive
• 00:22:04 - Vision boards for your bank account
• 00:23:45 - Love, support, and shared money dreams
• 00:26:15 - Breaking free from the budget autopilot
• 00:26:41 - How to channel anger into action
• 00:29:01 - Real clients, real transformations
• 00:32:18 - The raw power of emotional honesty
• 00:43:49 - Wrapping up: Resources for your money journey

The Connection Codes team has a conversation about the transition into 2025, sharing their insights on goals, community, and the intentional steps they’re taking for growth in the new year. They discuss the importance of connection, both within relationships and with oneself, and the small, actionable changes that can create meaningful momentum. Tera shares her word of the year—see—which is about the power of truly seeing others and allowing herself to be seen. Glenn explores the balance between responsibilities and creative passions, while Phyllis opens up about the role of community in supporting life changes. Together, they invite you to reflect, take small steps forward, and avoid staying stuck in fear or perfectionism as you navigate your own journeys into the new year.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 – The Spark of 2025: New Year, Same Us?
• 00:00:44 – When Lamps Were Stage Lights: The Origin Story
• 00:01:15 – Dream Boards, January Guilt, and Echo's Goals
• 00:02:45 – Community: Why We Resist What We Need Most
• 00:04:53 – Intentions Without Action Are Just Wishes
• 00:07:55 – Isolation, Loneliness, and Late-Night Subscriptions
• 00:09:59 – From Isolation to Joy: The Year in Review
• 00:12:08 – One Word for 2025: S-E-E
• 00:14:33 – Balancing Dreams, Writing Novels, and Life's Checklists
• 00:16:48 – The Wheel That Keeps Us Grounded
• 00:23:23 – Zoom Calls, Fear, and a Barn in 2020
• 00:24:14 – Behind the Grainy Camera: Trusting the Unknown
• 00:24:44 – The Quiet Impact of Tera and Wes Wages
• 00:27:55 – Community Isn't a Buzzword—It's a Lifeline
• 00:31:46 – Imperfect Starts, Perfect Timing
• 00:34:04 – Momentum: The Small Steps That Move Mountains
• 00:43:19 – Teamship: When Everyone Carries the Load
• 00:46:03 – The Invitation: Start Small, Start Now

Tera Wages, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill continue their conversation about how they’re navigating life’s big transitions. They reflect on the decision to sell their home of 11 years, the emotional and physical toll of letting go, and the unexpected challenges of rebuilding a new normal. Through stories of fear, exhaustion, and fleeting moments of clarity, they share how community, small steps, and vulnerability carried them through one of the most disorienting seasons of their lives. Together, they offer a reminder that meaningful change doesn’t always feel good in the moment, but it’s worth every step.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters

00:00:00 – When the Calendar Resets, So Do We

00:01:39 – The Moment After the Big Leap

00:04:24 – What We Learned From Letting Go of Stuff

00:12:24 – Sometimes Help Looks Like a Hurricane

00:17:16 – Prepping a House, Prepping a Heart

00:22:20 – When the Offer Comes Faster Than Expected

00:25:41 – A Table, A Family, and One Last Brunch

00:26:04 – Laughter Echoes in Empty Rooms

00:27:02 – Things We Didn’t See Coming

00:28:20 – Saying Goodbye Isn’t One Moment

00:29:27 – New Holidays, Old Traditions, Big Emotions

00:31:51 – When Curiosity Feels Vulnerable

00:33:46 – Processing the Aftermath

00:40:54 – The Exercise That Held Us Together

00:46:51 – What Comes After Goodbye

Tera and Wes talk about the challenges of staying emotionally connected during the busy and often chaotic holiday season. They openly share moments of guilt, shame, and loneliness, showing how quickly small interactions can turn into emotional disconnect if left unaddressed. They discuss using the Core Emotion Wheel to break cycles of resentment and miscommunication. It’s not about avoiding conflict but recognizing the moments when connection is slipping and choosing to lean in—whether it’s over wrapping gifts, missed cues, or moments of unspoken bitterness. This conversation isn’t about holiday perfection; it’s about showing up for each other, even in the mess.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 – When Christmas Hustle Meets Emotional Chaos
• 00:00:51 – Why Wes is Here (And Why Tera Thinks People Don’t Like Her)
• 00:02:35 – The Tool That Saves Conversations Before They Explode
• 00:09:32 – Holiday Stress: Silent Resentment’s Best Friend
• 00:15:25 – The Moment Connection Feels Like an Uphill Climb
• 00:16:45 – Guilt and Anger Aren’t Just Gift-Wrapped Feelings
• 00:17:42 – The Core Emotion Wheel in Real Time
• 00:18:09 – When Silence Speaks Louder Than Words
• 00:19:35 – The Fastest Way to Stop Emotional Drift
• 00:20:40 – Sexual Loneliness: The Emotion No One Talks About
• 00:25:33 – Small Moments, Big Repairs: Finding Compassion Again
• 00:26:37 – Staying Connected When the Calendar Feels Impossible
• 00:30:02 – Joy, Gratitude, and a Holiday Sign-Off

Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill, alongside Tera Wages, reflect on years of caregiving, immense responsibility, and the hidden toll of staying too long in life’s boiling pot. As she shares moments of unexpected joy, pain, and tough decisions, Phyllis talks about how recognizing and addressing pain can lead to profound change. Tera joins the conversation, helping frame the journey of shifting from “I can’t” to “I can,” challenging all of us to confront our own boiling water and embrace the courage to pursue a life that truly serves us.

Links and Resources:

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 – Shattering the “I Can’t” Mindset
• 00:01:05 – Cracking the Code to Connection
• 00:01:36 – Pain as a Silent Companion
• 00:03:34 – A Life-Changing Family Call
• 00:04:43 – The Whisper of Help
• 00:08:18 – When the Pool Collapsed
• 00:12:30 – A Breath of New Perspective
• 00:15:49 – The Joyful Weight of Change
• 00:20:12 – Confronting the Fear of Letting Go
• 00:24:56 – Untangling Emotions for a Fresh Start
• 00:30:16 – A Call to Courage