Tera Wages is joined by Bridgett Blood and Phyllis Hill to explore the concept of Psycholation—a state of psychological isolation where people experience emotions alone, even when surrounded by others. They discuss how past experiences can make us want to keep pain to ourselves and the impact it has on relationships and mental well-being. Bridgett shares how she overcame isolation, while Phyllis and Tera get into the importance of safe connections and finding trusted people to process emotions with. They also provide steps for breaking out of Psycholation, including identifying safe relationships, expressing needs, and seeking supportive communities. Tera, Bridgett, and Phyllis will give you encouragement to recognize emotional patterns, build trust, and reach out for connection instead of carrying burdens alone.

Links and Resources:

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel⁠
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online⁠⁠
• Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help⁠
• Bridgett Blood: https://bridgettblood.com
• Bridgett on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bridgettblood
• Recover Your Life Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BridgettBlood
• Recover Your Life Podcast on Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/bdebz6nt
• Book a FREE discovery coaching call with Bridgett: https://tinyurl.com/vhbfb6jx

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Storing It All Day, Exploding at Night
• 00:01:04 - The Experts Step In: Meet Bridgett & Phyllis
• 00:01:49 - A Live Emotional Check-In: What Will Surface?
• 00:04:30 - Cyclation: The Word You Didn’t Know You Needed
• 00:06:13 - Childhood Blueprints: How We Learn to Isolate
• 00:07:55 - Secrets We Keep: Why Hiding Feels Safer
• 00:10:16 - Finding the Exit: Steps to Escape Isolation
• 00:14:21 - Safe People: Who Are They and Why Do We Need Them?
• 00:17:20 - The Heavy Load: Are We Expecting Too Much from One Person?
• 00:23:37 - Who’s Safe and Who’s Not? A New Way to See It
• 00:28:05 - Sharing Without Oversharing: Navigating Emotional Conversations
• 00:29:30 - The Small but Mighty Power of a Simple Text
• 00:30:19 - Three Feet of Fear: How We Experience and Respond
• 00:33:38 - Looking in the Mirror: Are You a Safe Person Too?
• 00:35:55 - Capacity vs. Desire: The Boundary We All Need
• 00:42:11 - Dream Solutions: What If the Life You Want Is Within Reach?
• 00:50:53 - Time to Act: One Step to Break the Cycle

Elijah Runyan, a Connection Codes-certified coach, wellness mentor, and father of four, joins Tera to dig into the emotional rollercoaster of parenting. In this episode, Elijah opens up about the challenges of raising teenagers and young kids, trying to understand their emotional needs, and confronting his own fears and shame as a parent. He shares how Connection Codes tools have completely changed his approach, moving from reaction to intentional connection, and how he’s helping his kids process trauma and anxiety. This conversation is a look at how real change begins within and offers hope for parents everywhere seeking deeper relationships with their kids.

Links and Resources:

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online⁠
• Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Connect with Elijah:

• Schedule a CC Coaching Session with Elijah: https://runyanstronghealth.as.me/schedule/5204ed3a
• Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com
• Elijah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elijahrunyan
• Elijah on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@runyanstronghealth

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - A Day with Elijah: Diving Deep
• 00:01:27 - The Buzz Behind Connection Codes Certification
• 00:03:08 - Parenting Without a Script
• 00:06:24 - Fear, Shame, and Teenage Drivers
• 00:10:15 - When School Stops Feeling Safe
• 00:15:10 - The Trauma We Didn’t See Coming
• 00:19:06 - Co-Regulating: The Secret Sauce
• 00:20:13 - A New Approach to Safety for Kids
• 00:21:40 - Breaking Old Parenting Cycles
• 00:26:15 - Repairing Connections: The Art of the Apology
• 00:27:10 - How Hungry is Your Kid’s Heart?
• 00:31:07 - Wheels of Emotion: A Parenting Tool
• 00:32:04 - Raw Reflections from Parenthood
• 00:37:03 - Resources, Encouragement, and Hope for Parents

Phyllis and Dr. Glenn are joined by Elijah Runyan, a seasoned Connection Codes coach and the director of their coaching certification program. Elijah shares how fear of shame, fear of emotions, and avoidance can drive our behaviors in relationships and everyday life. Through real-life client stories and his own experiences, he explains how slicing emotions thinner and processing them authentically can lead to breakthroughs in intimacy, parenting, and self-awareness. The conversation unpacks tools, the role of energy in emotional connection, and why avoiding emotions only strengthens barriers.

Links and Resources:

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online⁠
• Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Connect with Elijah:

• Schedule a CC Coaching Session with Elijah: https://runyanstronghealth.as.me/schedule/5204ed3a
• Runyan Strong Health: https://www.runyanstronghealth.com
• Elijah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elijahrunyan
• Elijah on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@runyanstronghealth

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Unmasking Emotions: The Start Of It All
• 00:00:22 - Meet The Minds Behind Connection Codes
• 00:01:49 - Elijah’s Aha Moment On Fear Of Shame
• 00:04:00 - When Fear Holds Relationships Hostage
• 00:07:27 - The Hidden Depths Of Anger And Hurt
• 00:16:25 - Stories That Change Perspectives
• 00:24:30 - Processing Emotions: The Turning Point
• 00:27:26 - Fear, Anxiety, And Emotional Breakthroughs
• 00:29:41 - Why Emotional Regulation Is Everything
• 00:33:49 - Secrets To Connection In Every Relationship
• 00:41:11 - A Glimpse Into The Coaching Universe
• 00:44:13 - The Final Thought That Says It All