
The Manager Mom Epidemic
How Moms Got Stuck Doing Everything for Their Families and What They Can Do About It
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Mike Chamberlain
About this listen
It's impossible to deny - most moms continue to do way more household work and childcare than most dads. But despite all the books and articles lamenting the crushing mental load and emotional labor women bear for their families, no one has come up with a plan to actually make things change. Until now.
The Manager Mom Epidemic is the first book that not only acknowledges the fact that moms are burning out, but shows you how to transfer responsibility for daily tasks from yourself to your partner and also (gasp!) your kids. Clinical psychologist and child discipline expert Thomas W. Phelan, PhD, walks you through real-life situations and shows you how to step back from the things that are dragging you down. For example:
- Your maternal identity - the things you tell yourself you have to do in order to be a "good" mom
- The oppressive trap of chronic supervision
- Our society's curious underestimation of children's capabilities
- How to eliminate primary childcare with tweens and teens
Realistic and simple enough to implement in your home right away, The Manager Mom Epidemic provides a road map for you to take your life back and proves that the happiest families share the work and the fun equally.
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- CareBear819
- 08-31-24
Very relatable and practical advice
I was a bit skeptical about this at first especially being written by a man but this is a solid book but solid and practical advice.
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- Elisabeth Claus
- 09-02-22
Some good ideas
It has some good ideas for self-reflection. I have already benefited from some of the ideas. Would be nice to see alternative family examples (I am widowed with young children and have an Au Pair.)
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- Helen Boyd
- 09-27-21
Misogynistic and condensending
Save your time. The author would have you believe the epidemic of overworked moms is entirely the fault of said moms. The (very, very) limited advice given on getting help from children or spouses comes in two forms: common sense or utter nonsense (no teenager thinks they are a "cheater" in the household).
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