
Self-ish
When Bubble Baths, Wine, and Positive Affirmations Aren't Cutting It
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We're all looking for that perfect balance between loving ourselves and becoming the best person we can be. But it's going to take more than bubble baths, wine, $8 lattes, affirmations, and other bullsh*t social media has deemed essential for #selfcare and #selfimprovement.
To truly become your best self, you have to be a little more . . .
SELFISH.
Selfishness is perhaps the world's most controversial, undesirable, and misunderstood trait—particularly for women. In our lives, we bend over backward to avoid this stigmatizing label.
But what if we didn't?
In Self-ish, clinical psychologist Sunita Osborn challenges what we think we know about selfishness. With radical candor and bold humor, she dispels the myths and distortions that surround the fundamental psychological concepts of self-care, self-trust, self-love, and self-discipline, explaining how these terms have become empty badges of honor because of social media, societal norms, and our upbringings.
Dr. Osborn urges women everywhere to unapologetically nurture their personal growth with strength and wisdom, blazing a path to self-leadership with encouragement, tools, and concrete steps to level-up their whole selves.
©2023 Sunita Osborn, PsyD (P)2023 TantorListeners also enjoyed...
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- Samantha
- 04-10-24
Selfish or not
Every woman needs to listen or read this book. Every woman needs to be selfish with her needs and speak up about what she needs. I did not know I needed this book in my life but I am so glad my therapist gave it to me. I will be making sure my daughters read it!
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