
Lies at the Altar
The Truth About Great Marriages
Failed to add items
Add to Cart failed.
Add to Wish List failed.
Remove from wishlist failed.
Adding to library failed
Follow podcast failed
Unfollow podcast failed
$0.99/mo for the first 3 months

Buy for $14.81
No default payment method selected.
We are sorry. We are not allowed to sell this product with the selected payment method
-
Narrated by:
-
Dr. Robin L. Smith
-
By:
-
Robin L. Smith
About this listen
In Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages, Dr. Robin Smith addresses the unspoken needs, unasked questions, outrageous expectations, and hidden agendas that often linger beneath the surface of the wedding vows and appear later to cause power struggles, suffering, and feelings of hopelessness in marriages.
Dr. Smith discusses why it's important to have one's "eyes wide open" in a marriage; how to write true vows to live by; and why it's never too late to rewrite your vows. She illustrates her advice with detailed stories from her own life, as well as from couples that she has counseled. And in her inspiring conclusion, she invites couples to light up their lives by acknowledging each other as individuals, each of whom lights a candle, and who lights a third candle which represents "us".
Calling "truth" the secret ingredient of great marriages, Dr. Smith teaches individuals and couples how to find the truth within themselves and their partners, whether they are heading to the altar, suffering in an unhappy marriage, divorced, or simply want to bring more satisfaction and intimacy into their relationship.
©2006 Dr. Robin L. Smith (P)2006 Hyperion. All Rights Reserved.Listeners also enjoyed...
-
The Invisible Ache
- Black Men Identifying Their Pain and Reclaiming Their Power
- By: Courtney B. Vance, Dr. Robin L. Smith
- Narrated by: Courtney B. Vance, Dr. Robin L. Smith
- Length: 10 hrs and 10 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In America, we teach that strength means holding back tears and shaming your own feelings. In the Black community, these pressures are especially poignant. Poor mental health outcomes-- including diagnoses of depression and anxiety, reliance on prescription drugs, and suicide–have skyrocketed in the past decade. In this book, actor Courtney B. Vance seeks to change this trajectory. Along with professional expertise from famed psychologist Dr. Robin L. Smith, Courtney B. Vance explores issues of grief, relationships, identity, and race through the telling of his own most formative experiences
-
-
Winderful
- By T Lee on 11-11-23
By: Courtney B. Vance, and others
-
The Mother of Black Hollywood
- A Memoir
- By: Jenifer Lewis
- Narrated by: Jenifer Lewis
- Length: 10 hrs and 47 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Jenifer Lewis keeps it real in this provocative and touching memoir by a Midwestern girl with a dream whose journey from poverty to Hollywood will move, shock, and inspire listeners. Told in the audacious voice her fans adore, Jenifer describes a road to fame made treacherous by dysfunction and undiagnosed mental illness, including a sex addiction. Yet, supported by loving friends and strengthened by "inner soldiers", Jenifer never stopped entertaining and creating.
-
-
I could barely finish it.
- By Manning Fam on 06-17-18
By: Jenifer Lewis
-
Worthy
- By: Jada Pinkett Smith
- Narrated by: Jada Pinkett Smith
- Length: 14 hrs and 57 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Jada Pinkett Smith was living what many would view as a fairy-tale of Hollywood success. But appearances can be deceiving, and as she felt more and more separated from her sense of self, emotional turmoil took hold. Sparing no detail, Worthy chronicles her life.
-
-
Budda
- By Tamiko on 10-18-23
-
Thicker than Water
- A Memoir
- By: Kerry Washington
- Narrated by: Kerry Washington
- Length: 8 hrs and 59 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
While on a drive in Los Angeles, on a seemingly average afternoon, Kerry Washington received a text message that would send her on a life-changing journey of self-discovery. In an instant, her very identity was torn apart, with everything she thought she knew about herself thrown into question.
-
-
Technical issues are ruining an otherwise good story
- By Lindsay on 09-27-23
By: Kerry Washington
-
Finding Me
- A Memoir
- By: Viola Davis
- Narrated by: Viola Davis
- Length: 9 hrs and 15 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In my book, you will meet a little girl named Viola who ran from her past until she made a life-changing decision to stop running forever. This is my story, from a crumbling apartment in Central Falls, Rhode Island, to the stage in New York City, and beyond. This is the path I took to finding my purpose but also my voice in a world that didn’t always see me.
-
-
Absolutely beautifully Written❤️
- By Love bug23 on 05-02-22
By: Viola Davis
-
The Light We Carry
- Overcoming in Uncertain Times
- By: Michelle Obama
- Narrated by: Michelle Obama
- Length: 9 hrs and 59 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
There may be no tidy solutions or pithy answers to life’s big challenges, but Michelle Obama believes that we can all locate and lean on a set of tools to help us better navigate change and remain steady within flux. In The Light We Carry, she opens a frank and honest dialogue with listeners, considering the questions many of us wrestle with: How do we build enduring and honest relationships? How can we discover strength and community inside our differences? What tools do we use to address feelings of self-doubt or helplessness? What do we do when it all starts to feel like too much?
-
-
Very Disappointing—Too Ego-filled
- By Patricia Webb on 11-29-22
By: Michelle Obama
-
The Invisible Ache
- Black Men Identifying Their Pain and Reclaiming Their Power
- By: Courtney B. Vance, Dr. Robin L. Smith
- Narrated by: Courtney B. Vance, Dr. Robin L. Smith
- Length: 10 hrs and 10 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In America, we teach that strength means holding back tears and shaming your own feelings. In the Black community, these pressures are especially poignant. Poor mental health outcomes-- including diagnoses of depression and anxiety, reliance on prescription drugs, and suicide–have skyrocketed in the past decade. In this book, actor Courtney B. Vance seeks to change this trajectory. Along with professional expertise from famed psychologist Dr. Robin L. Smith, Courtney B. Vance explores issues of grief, relationships, identity, and race through the telling of his own most formative experiences
-
-
Winderful
- By T Lee on 11-11-23
By: Courtney B. Vance, and others
-
The Mother of Black Hollywood
- A Memoir
- By: Jenifer Lewis
- Narrated by: Jenifer Lewis
- Length: 10 hrs and 47 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Jenifer Lewis keeps it real in this provocative and touching memoir by a Midwestern girl with a dream whose journey from poverty to Hollywood will move, shock, and inspire listeners. Told in the audacious voice her fans adore, Jenifer describes a road to fame made treacherous by dysfunction and undiagnosed mental illness, including a sex addiction. Yet, supported by loving friends and strengthened by "inner soldiers", Jenifer never stopped entertaining and creating.
-
-
I could barely finish it.
- By Manning Fam on 06-17-18
By: Jenifer Lewis
-
Worthy
- By: Jada Pinkett Smith
- Narrated by: Jada Pinkett Smith
- Length: 14 hrs and 57 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Jada Pinkett Smith was living what many would view as a fairy-tale of Hollywood success. But appearances can be deceiving, and as she felt more and more separated from her sense of self, emotional turmoil took hold. Sparing no detail, Worthy chronicles her life.
-
-
Budda
- By Tamiko on 10-18-23
-
Thicker than Water
- A Memoir
- By: Kerry Washington
- Narrated by: Kerry Washington
- Length: 8 hrs and 59 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
While on a drive in Los Angeles, on a seemingly average afternoon, Kerry Washington received a text message that would send her on a life-changing journey of self-discovery. In an instant, her very identity was torn apart, with everything she thought she knew about herself thrown into question.
-
-
Technical issues are ruining an otherwise good story
- By Lindsay on 09-27-23
By: Kerry Washington
-
Finding Me
- A Memoir
- By: Viola Davis
- Narrated by: Viola Davis
- Length: 9 hrs and 15 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In my book, you will meet a little girl named Viola who ran from her past until she made a life-changing decision to stop running forever. This is my story, from a crumbling apartment in Central Falls, Rhode Island, to the stage in New York City, and beyond. This is the path I took to finding my purpose but also my voice in a world that didn’t always see me.
-
-
Absolutely beautifully Written❤️
- By Love bug23 on 05-02-22
By: Viola Davis
-
The Light We Carry
- Overcoming in Uncertain Times
- By: Michelle Obama
- Narrated by: Michelle Obama
- Length: 9 hrs and 59 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
There may be no tidy solutions or pithy answers to life’s big challenges, but Michelle Obama believes that we can all locate and lean on a set of tools to help us better navigate change and remain steady within flux. In The Light We Carry, she opens a frank and honest dialogue with listeners, considering the questions many of us wrestle with: How do we build enduring and honest relationships? How can we discover strength and community inside our differences? What tools do we use to address feelings of self-doubt or helplessness? What do we do when it all starts to feel like too much?
-
-
Very Disappointing—Too Ego-filled
- By Patricia Webb on 11-29-22
By: Michelle Obama
-
Marriage Be Hard
- 12 Conversations to Keep You Laughing, Loving, and Learning with Your Partner
- By: Kevin Fredericks, Melissa Fredericks
- Narrated by: Kevin Fredericks, Melissa Fredericks
- Length: 6 hrs and 10 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Growing up in the church, Kevin and Melissa Fredericks were taught endless rules and expectations around dating, sex, and marriage, but not a lot about what actually makes a relationship work. There were conversations that they didn’t know they needed to have, deep-rooted fears that affected how they communicated, and seasons of change that put their marriage to the test.
-
-
Vulnerability Matters
- By A on 09-19-22
By: Kevin Fredericks, and others
-
Get Good with Money
- Ten Simple Steps to Becoming Financially Whole
- By: Tiffany the Budgetnista Aliche
- Narrated by: Tiffany the Budgetnista Aliche
- Length: 12 hrs and 23 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Tiffany Aliche was a successful pre-school teacher with a healthy nest egg when a recession and advice from a shady advisor put her out of a job and into a huge financial hole. As she began to chart the path to her own financial rescue, the outline of her 10-step formula for attaining both financial security and peace of mind began to take shape. These principles have now helped more than one million women worldwide save and pay off millions in debt, and begin planning for a richer life.
-
-
Goodbye SWEET 16. Hello ROTH IRA!
- By Will Smith on 04-12-21
-
Black on Black
- On Our Resilience and Brilliance in America
- By: Daniel Black
- Narrated by: JD Jackson
- Length: 6 hrs and 45 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Acclaimed novelist and scholar Daniel Black has spent a career writing into the unspoken, fleshing out, through storytelling, pain that can’t be described. Now, in his debut essay collection, Black gives voice to the experiences of those who often find themselves on the margins. Tackling topics ranging from police brutality to the AIDS crisis to the role of HBCUs to queer representation in the black church, Black on Black celebrates the resilience, fortitude, and survival of black people in a land where their body is always on display.
-
-
The author is amazing
- By Taurus on 08-26-24
By: Daniel Black
-
Sis, Don't Settle
- How to Stay Smart in Matters of the Heart
- By: Faith Jenkins
- Narrated by: Faith Jenkins
- Length: 8 hrs and 20 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
By day, Faith Jenkins is the host of the nationally syndicated TV show Divorce Court; by night, she’s a happily married newlywed who navigated these dating streets for years before learning how to attract the love of her dreams.
-
-
Modern Day Heroine
- By Roxana LaKay Butler on 01-16-23
By: Faith Jenkins
-
Nothing Is Missing
- A Memoir of Living Boldly
- By: Nicole Walters
- Narrated by: Nicole Walters
- Length: 9 hrs and 30 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Nothing Is Missing is a “sparkling and impassioned story” (Glamour) of what it takes to show up for yourself—and the joy that can come once you do. Raised in a home where food was unstable and anger was the norm, Nicole learned that she needed to take charge of her own safety and security. So she did: She got into an elite private school by talking to a stranger in her dad’s cab, she strategized her way onto Wheel of Fortune to pay for college, she adopted three girls after meeting their mother panhandling, she quit her job to launch her own business, and she struggled.
-
-
Loved it
- By Nikki Lewis on 10-28-23
By: Nicole Walters
-
The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
- By: Gary Chapman
- Narrated by: Gary Chapman
- Length: 4 hrs and 46 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!
-
-
Unexpected Brilliance
- By Vanessa on 02-08-07
By: Gary Chapman
-
Illogical
- Saying Yes to a Life Without Limits
- By: Emmanuel Acho
- Narrated by: Emmanuel Acho
- Length: 4 hrs and 25 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
From the New York Times best-selling author of Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man, a call to break through our limits and say yes to a life of infinite possibility.
-
-
Great stories, but set goals
- By JTStally on 04-04-22
By: Emmanuel Acho
-
The State of Affairs
- Rethinking Infidelity
- By: Esther Perel
- Narrated by: Esther Perel
- Length: 11 hrs and 57 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions.
-
-
A compassionate approach
- By Anonymous User on 10-16-17
By: Esther Perel
-
Love, Confidence, Respect...
- How to Deal with "I Don’t Love You"
- By: Margherita White
- Narrated by: Lauren Hartzog
- Length: 1 hr and 33 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
It is time to put the sugar coating, empty promises, and spewing of hateful words to your beloved spouse aside. Whether you have been unhappy within your partnership for a long time now or you are just starting to see red flags and have doubts, this book is a one-stop resource for all aspects of marriage, even the pieces you wish you could simply lock away. If your marriage is privy to more bad times than good, it is about time that you start to think of your partner and the marriage you are both in together differently.
-
-
Totally Relatable!
- By Amazon Customer on 02-27-18
By: Margherita White
-
10 Stupid Things Couples Do To Mess Up Their Relationships
- By: Dr. Laura Schlessinger
- Narrated by: Dr. Laura Schlessinger
- Length: 2 hrs and 37 mins
- Abridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In Ten Stupid Things Couples Do to Mess Up Their Relationships, Dr. Laura Schlessinger calls for a return to traditional courtship. Courtship allows couples and their families to get acquainted with each other over a longer period of time, and provides structure and guidelines for that important process.
-
-
No brainer ideas that we can forget
- By Ali0531 on 07-06-15
-
Grief Day by Day
- Simple Practices and Daily Guidance for Living with Loss
- By: Jan Warner
- Narrated by: Madeleine Maby
- Length: 5 hrs and 57 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In Grief Day by Day, Jan Warner draws on her own extensive experience and the experiences of the 2 million followers on her Grief Speaks Out Facebook page to offer hope in its most practical form. This audiobook does not look to offer a solution to grief. Rather, it provides supportive, useful guidance to help you create a life in which peace, and even gratitude, can coexist with your grief. There is no “right way” to grieve, and there is no right way to use this book.
-
-
Helpful
- By spucky85 on 04-11-19
By: Jan Warner
-
Boundaries in Dating
- How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships
- By: Henry Cloud, John Townsend
- Narrated by: Jonathan Petersen
- Length: 8 hrs and 9 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
How do you set smart limits on your physical relationship? How much do you get involved financially? And how do you know if you've found your future spouse? Dating can be fun, but it's not always easy to navigate the questions and intricacies along the way. In Boundaries in Dating, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, share their practical advice for adding healthy boundaries to your dating life.
-
-
Packed with good Godly advice
- By F. Bramming on 01-27-15
By: Henry Cloud, and others
What listeners say about Lies at the Altar
Highly rated for:
Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.
-
Overall
- Jimyster
- 06-16-06
A worthy listen...
The author narrates well, and shows personality while reading this quick listen. It covers as the title might lead you to believe, lies at the alter. Though not intentional lies, but down the road they turn into lies. She covers various areas that cause problems in a marriage or commitment to another. Leans more towards mending a relationship than how to have a good wedding. Overall, a good listen for either male or female.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
4 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Stephanie
- 05-17-18
Audiobook is lacking.
The questions, an important part of why I wanted this book, are not available in this version.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
- Nancy
- 08-29-06
Lies at the altar
Excellent audio book. Make you really think...especially if you are in a difficult relationship!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
2 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- AR
- 08-24-06
A MUST READ.
Great book, learning how to deal with relationships, marriages, commitment, love, respect, etc…. Author narrates well, she covers every step of a relationship and ups and downs of a marriage. Also, learning how to reconnect with your partner and to think of as “WE” not just as an individual. I actually thought the book was about lies, but is more about the things that are left unsaid and it can damage any relationship down the road. Loved it!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
2 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Jamilah
- 04-16-20
Great Book!!! Very Enlightening!!!
Great Book. A good read for anyone that wants to be a better person, better partner, better or future parent.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
- L. D.
- 05-31-07
A Good Start
I highly recommend this book for those considering marriage or looking to heal a bad marriage. However, the abridged version that is available here contains only about 25% of the information in the full print version and what is not in the abridged version is very important information. Buy the full book.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
7 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- SallyB
- 06-23-16
LOVED IT!
Absolutely wonderful! I wish I had read this book years ago! it is great for single people, married people ... Anyone!!!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- williwombat1066
- 04-26-24
Good guidance ... for embarking/recalibration
I liked the very realistic and pragmatic approaches mentioned. It's well-worth the read/listening. Dr. Robin L. Smith provide some great points and anecdotes on marriage and relationships overall regardless of the construct.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Wendell Love
- 05-20-24
Old skool 55 years in!
Absolutely necessary reading for couples in or considering marriage! Fundamental practical practices for everyone and everything!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Kels
- 04-08-25
Inspiring and insightful.
Dr. Robin words are very inspiring and insightful. Her authentic story and voice helped me understand my relationship and what I can do to improve my marriage.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!