You weren’t “just like that.” You were surviving.

This episode unpacks the hidden trauma behind the traits we’ve mistaken for our identity. From people-pleasing to perfectionism, we’re getting real about what was never your personality — it was protection.

In this diary entry, we’re breaking down a few hard but healing truths inspired by 12 Rules for Life — and what they taught me about moving different.

From learning why living in your truth matters, to finally standing tall in your own light — this episode is about the glow-up that happens when you stop shrinking yourself just to survive.

Because healing?

It’s not just about being softer.

It’s about being realer, stronger, and more honest — first with yourself.

Whether you’re mid-glow or just getting started, this one’s for you.

Press play, grab your journal, and let’s talk about it.

You’ve done the work. You’re healing, setting boundaries, choosing peace…

But what happens when peace has to sit in the same room as your biggest trigger?

In this raw solo episode, we’re getting into the emotional tug-of-war that comes from being forced to deal with someone who constantly tests your growth—especially when walking away isn’t an option.

Whether it’s a co-parent, a family member, or someone from your past, this episode is for anyone learning to protect their peace without losing their progress.

Because sometimes healing doesn’t look like silence—it looks like choosing not to go off… even when you could.

This episode is for every woman who’s in her soft girl era—lighting candles, drinking water, setting boundaries… but still battling the urge to pop off when disrespected.

Because healing is cute until somebody tries you.

We’re talking about the inner conflict of wanting peace but still feeling that fire, learning emotional regulation while staying true to yourself, and navigating the space between softness and survival mode. You’re not crazy. You’re not behind. You’re just learning to be gentle without being walked over.

Welcome to the era where we’re choosing softness—but we still remember.

In this solo episode, we’re unpacking the Law of Detachment—not in a cold, distant way, but with softness and trust. Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means you trust what’s for you will stay, grow, or return in alignment.

We talk about the difference between control and clarity, and how surrendering can actually bring you closer to what you want—because you’re no longer forcing it.

This is for anyone who’s learning to release, not out of fear… but from a place of power.

In Part 2, Vicky returns to open up about the grief we don’t talk about enough—the kind that comes from what you never had. The nurturing, protection, or emotional safety you should’ve grown up with.

She gets real about what it looks like to honor the inner child, feel the sadness without shame, and still move forward with compassion for herself and the past. If you’ve ever felt like you were parenting yourself while still healing—you’re not alone.

This episode is for the version of you who needed more… and is learning to give it now.

Sometimes what looks like healing is really just emotional avoidance dressed in spiritual language. Is that silence self-preservation… or a fear of confrontation? Is that solitude sacred… or a mask for isolation?

In this solo episode of Surviving Me, we explore the blurry line between true healing and the subtle ways we hide behind it.

Dai breaks down the difference between intentional growth and unconscious escape — and invites you to check in with your patterns, your boundaries, and your heart.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re healing… or just hiding really well, this episode is for you.

Let’s talk about:

• The “healed girl” illusion

• When boundaries become walls

• Why doing the work sometimes means getting uncomfortable

• A gentle call-in to choose truth over protection Because the journey back to yourself is the real work.