Have you ever said something in another language and thought: That didn’t sound like me?

This episode is for every language learner who’s felt like their personality disappears when they switch languages. Whether you freeze up, feel dull, or find that your humor, confidence, or expressiveness just doesn’t come through like it normally does — this one’s for you.

We’re talking about the invisible identity shift that happens when you learn a new language — and how to reclaim your voice without waiting for perfection.

You’ll hear:

• Why you might not feel like “yourself” in your target language
• The neuroscience behind language loss and identity blur
• Why performance-based fluency sets us up to feel small
• How to sound more like you—even with limited vocabulary
• Gentle reminders that your full self is still in there

This isn’t about forcing fluency.

It’s about inviting your voice back into the room.

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• What parts of yourself feel hardest to express in your target language?
• What words, rhythms, or habits might help bring more of you into your speech?

• Episode 2: What Fluency Isn’t
• Episode 4: Relearning Portuguese, Again

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Your voice matters—no matter the language.

We’ve been sold a narrow, rigid definition of fluency: sound like a native speaker, speak without hesitation, never make mistakes. But here’s the truth—it’s time to unlearn that.

In this episode, we challenge the myths that keep language learners stuck. We talk about the silent pressure to be perfect, the shame of “not being there yet,” and why so many people feel voiceless even after years of study. This is where we begin reframing fluency as something more sustainable, more human, and more yours.

• Why the traditional definition of fluency doesn’t serve most learners
• The myth of “native-like” perfection—and why it’s harmful
• A better way to understand fluency: flexible, evolving, and voice-first
• The quiet power of learning in a way that honors who you are

You don’t have to chase someone else’s version of fluency. I work with learners around the world who want to express themselves with confidence, clarity, and intention — not just pass a test.

🧠 Start with my book, The Fluent Framework, and learn how to build a fluency method around your mind, your rhythm, and your goals.

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📅 Ready to go deeper? I also offer private coaching for English learners who want to find their voice and speak with impact.

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• Extended reflection prompts and journal space

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Welcome to Native To Me. In this opening episode, we step into the heart of what this podcast is all about: reclaiming voice, redefining fluency, and choosing language as something personal, not perfect. We explore the three podcast series within Native To Me and invite you to reimagine what language learning can feel like.

Takeaways:

• The purpose and structure of the podcast
• What it means to make a language "native to you"
• An invitation to choose a path that fits you