What does it mean to be fully seen in your desires?

In this episode, Serena dives deep into the nuanced world of kinks, fetishes, and erotic identity. She answers listener questions and unpacks what happens when your desires go unmet in a relationship.

You’ll walk away with clarity, practical tools and an emotional invitation to stay true to your erotic self.

PLUS, listen to the end. Serena shares her own powerful and very personal story of erotic grief, and what it means to feel seen in your full sexual self.

Remember: that you are not too much. You are just awake.

Topics covered:

•The difference between kinks and fetishes (and common misconceptions)

•How to know if a desire is part of your identity vs. a playful novelty

•When and how to talk to your partner about your kinks or fetishes

•Navigating mismatched erotic desires in long-term relationships

•How to ease a reserved partner into kink safely and supportively

•A beginner-friendly breakdown of BDSM: Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism

•Safer practices for erotic choking and communication around it

•Consensual Non-Consent (CNC): definitions, ethics, and entry points

•Aftercare: what it is and why it matters (for everyone)

•Personal reflections on erotic grief and unmet sexual desires

•Hormonal responses after sex and how they shape attachment and emotion

•The power of staying “big” in your desire, even when it feels hard

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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In this mini “Just the Tip” episode of Intimacy Unlocked, Serena responds to a listener confession about solo pleasure feeling more like a task than a turn-on. If your self-pleasure practice feels flat, stale, or disconnected, you're not alone.. Serena's got the tips to bring back the spark. From switching up visual stimulation to exploring toys, touch, and prostate play, this episode is an invitation to reimagine masturbation as a full-body erotic ritual, not a rush job.

This episode covers:

• Why solo sex can feel boring
• The power of novelty in self-pleasure
• Male vs. female gaze in porn
• Erotic massage and full-body touch
• Using toys and lube for men
• Exploring prostate and perineum play
• Changing up timing and position
• Reframing masturbation as ritual

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

Shop the Pleasure Pods in Stores at Pure Pharmacy in BC, or online at Amazon Canada.

Join the webinar "Menopause in the Bedroom - Breaking Barriers to Better Sex" with Amanda Otterman and Serena Haines on Tuesday, May 20th.

Buy tickets here

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

Submit it through our anonymous form or send in a voicemail!

Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

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Has your sex drive vanished overnight? You’re not alone. But you’re also not broken.

In this raw and reassuring episode, Serena Haines dives into what no one tells you about perimenopause and menopause. From the longer-than-you-think list of unexpected symptoms, to understanding the disconnect between your brain and your body, Serena covers it all. This one’s for every woman navigating the quiet chaos of hormonal changes, and for the partners trying to keep up.

You’ll hear about:

• How Pleasure Pods are changing the game for women navigating dryness and discomfort
• How to know if you’re in perimenopause (spoiler: you probably are)
• What perimenopause really does to your body and mood
• The real, emotional impact of hormonal changes on connection and confidence
• The art of warming up your erotic engine
• Why self-pleasure and lubrication are acts of reclaiming, not just coping
• How to talk to your partner when sex feels different—or difficult
• Learning to love the evolution, rather than fighting it

Menopause doesn’t mean the end of pleasure. It’s an opportunity to unlock a new way of experiencing it.

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

Shop The Pleasure Pods on Amazon Canada.

Join the webinar "Menopause in the Bedroom - Breaking Barriers to Better Sex" with Amanda Otterman and Serena Haines on Tuesday, May 20th.

Buy tickets here

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

Submit it through our anonymous form or send in a voicemail!

Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

Follow Intimacy Unlocked Podcast on Instagram at @intimacyunlockedpod

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Curious about opening up your relationship? In this candid Just the Tip mini-episode, Serena breaks down what needs to be in place before exploring non-monogamy—emotionally, relationally, and practically. From boundaries and consent to jealousy and communication, consider this your open-relationship starter pack for how to open up without blowing up.

In10 minutes, Serena covers:

• The real meaning of “opening up” (beyond sex)
• Why a solid relationship foundation is key
• Boundaries vs. ultimatums
• Consent culture in open spaces
• Managing jealousy and emotional regulation
• Low-pressure ways to start exploring

Join us for our Dying For Sex Group Chat discussion about the powerful docuseries on Wednesday, April 30th at 7pm AST. Click here for the zoom link.

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

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In this episode, Serena dives into the messy, beautiful complexity of modern intimacy, unpacking the real-life challenges of sustaining desire.

Whether you are trying to break unhealthy habits, trying to reignite a spark, pre-paring for long distance challenges or introducing another person into your relationship,

this conversation offers honest insights and practical steps to help you reset, repair, and reconnect.

In this episode:

• An emotional reflection and review of the docuseries Dying for Sex
• How to stay emotionally and erotically connected in long distance relationships
• Strategies to break free from the addiction of familiar, but unhealthy cycles
• Navigating threesomes and group intimacy
• The feedback loop of rushed or routine sex
• How to rekindle desire in long-term relationships
• Orgasm challenges and shame
• Why attraction fades and how to bring it back

Come see Serena LIVE at The Sunday Night Sex Show at North Brewing on Sunday, April 27th! Click here for tickets.

Join us for our Dying For Sex Group Chat discussion about the powerful docuseries on Wednesday, April 30th at 7pm AST. Click here for the zoom link.

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

Submit it through our anonymous form or send in a voicemail!

Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

Follow Intimacy Unlocked Podcast on Instagram at @intimacyunlockedpod

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What if “I want more sex” is really a plea for connection?

In this mini-episode, Serena Haines unpacks the deeper emotional needs hiding behind sexual frustration and explores how couples can better understand and meet each other’s desires—emotionally and erotically.

Serena dives into:

• What “I want more sex” actually means
• Emotional connection and how it differs for everyone
• The difference in how sexual energy flows in men vs. women
• The cycle of erotic energy in long-term relationships
• Reframing desire to deepen intimacy

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

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This week's episode of Intimacy Unlocked does not hold back, as Serena dives into the questions you’re too shy to Google but dying to ask.

From the ins and outs (literally) of tantric sex and the mystery of squirting, to blow job confidence, 69ing and fisting fundamentals—no topic is off limit this week.

Topics include:

• Same-sex fantasies & strap-on struggles
• Tantric sex and the Kama Sutra
• The science and sensations of squirting
• The misunderstood magic of the 69
• Blow job fears, first-timer advice & swallowing truths
• Fisting fundamentals (yes, really!)
• Breakup detangling and emotional boundaries

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

Follow Intimacy Unlocked Podcast on Instagram at @intimacyunlockedpod

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In this mini-episode of Intimacy Unlocked: Just the Tip, Serena Haynes answers a listener’s question about low libido and struggles with arousal. She explores the fascinating science behind desire, breaking down the dual control model—the concept of “brakes” and “accelerators” in our sex drive. Through a surprising study involving rats and Iggy Pop, Serena explains why environment plays a crucial role in pleasure and arousal. If you’ve ever wondered why your desire fluctuates, this episode offers insightful and actionable advice to help you reignite the spark.

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

Submit it through our anonymous form or send in a voicemail!

Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

Follow Intimacy Unlocked Podcast on Instagram at @intimacyunlockedpod

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