What does it mean to be fully seen in your desires?

In this episode, Serena dives deep into the nuanced world of kinks, fetishes, and erotic identity. She answers listener questions and unpacks what happens when your desires go unmet in a relationship.

You’ll walk away with clarity, practical tools and an emotional invitation to stay true to your erotic self.

PLUS, listen to the end. Serena shares her own powerful and very personal story of erotic grief, and what it means to feel seen in your full sexual self.

Remember: that you are not too much. You are just awake.

Topics covered:

•The difference between kinks and fetishes (and common misconceptions)

•How to know if a desire is part of your identity vs. a playful novelty

•When and how to talk to your partner about your kinks or fetishes

•Navigating mismatched erotic desires in long-term relationships

•How to ease a reserved partner into kink safely and supportively

•A beginner-friendly breakdown of BDSM: Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism

•Safer practices for erotic choking and communication around it

•Consensual Non-Consent (CNC): definitions, ethics, and entry points

•Aftercare: what it is and why it matters (for everyone)

•Personal reflections on erotic grief and unmet sexual desires

•Hormonal responses after sex and how they shape attachment and emotion

•The power of staying “big” in your desire, even when it feels hard

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

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In this mini “Just the Tip” episode of Intimacy Unlocked, Serena responds to a listener confession about solo pleasure feeling more like a task than a turn-on. If your self-pleasure practice feels flat, stale, or disconnected, you're not alone.. Serena's got the tips to bring back the spark. From switching up visual stimulation to exploring toys, touch, and prostate play, this episode is an invitation to reimagine masturbation as a full-body erotic ritual, not a rush job.

This episode covers:

• Why solo sex can feel boring
• The power of novelty in self-pleasure
• Male vs. female gaze in porn
• Erotic massage and full-body touch
• Using toys and lube for men
• Exploring prostate and perineum play
• Changing up timing and position
• Reframing masturbation as ritual

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

Shop the Pleasure Pods in Stores at Pure Pharmacy in BC, or online at Amazon Canada.

Join the webinar "Menopause in the Bedroom - Breaking Barriers to Better Sex" with Amanda Otterman and Serena Haines on Tuesday, May 20th.

Buy tickets here

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

Submit it through our anonymous form or send in a voicemail!

Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

Follow Intimacy Unlocked Podcast on Instagram at @intimacyunlockedpod

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Has your sex drive vanished overnight? You’re not alone. But you’re also not broken.

In this raw and reassuring episode, Serena Haines dives into what no one tells you about perimenopause and menopause. From the longer-than-you-think list of unexpected symptoms, to understanding the disconnect between your brain and your body, Serena covers it all. This one’s for every woman navigating the quiet chaos of hormonal changes, and for the partners trying to keep up.

You’ll hear about:

• How Pleasure Pods are changing the game for women navigating dryness and discomfort
• How to know if you’re in perimenopause (spoiler: you probably are)
• What perimenopause really does to your body and mood
• The real, emotional impact of hormonal changes on connection and confidence
• The art of warming up your erotic engine
• Why self-pleasure and lubrication are acts of reclaiming, not just coping
• How to talk to your partner when sex feels different—or difficult
• Learning to love the evolution, rather than fighting it

Menopause doesn’t mean the end of pleasure. It’s an opportunity to unlock a new way of experiencing it.

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

Shop The Pleasure Pods on Amazon Canada.

Join the webinar "Menopause in the Bedroom - Breaking Barriers to Better Sex" with Amanda Otterman and Serena Haines on Tuesday, May 20th.

Buy tickets here

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

Submit it through our anonymous form or send in a voicemail!

Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

Follow Intimacy Unlocked Podcast on Instagram at @intimacyunlockedpod

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.