Have you ever just felt STUCK? Stuck in your dating life, stuck in your marriage, stuck in your sex life (or stuck in your sex life within your marriage)? As one man on our panel put it, "I felt stuck for most of the 20 years of my marriage."

Maybe you've felt trapped -- like you just couldn't work your way out of wherever you were.

Here, four men get real about their journey going from totally stuck to in flow.

Want to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.

To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• "Women are starving for men who are doing the work."
• "I felt broken; I felt unworthy; I felt unacceptable; I felt unwanted."
• "Sex felt unrealistic and out of reach, and it also felt off-limits."
• "I lived in the regret of the past and the fear of the future (and I was never present)."
• "I felt like I wasn’t desired — I wasn’t wanted."
• "I got to the point where I just felt like I’d plateaued in therapy; it felt like we weren’t getting anywhere."
• "'Am I acting OK? Am I making them feel OK?'"
• "I had to WANT to get un-stuck."
• "I had to decide: Do you want to stay here? Or do you want to do something different?"
• "I didn’t allow myself any space of, 'What do I want?'"
• "I had a huge block with paying money for personal growth; I’d pay money for my hobbies, etc., but not that."
• "It’s unrealistic that I would know everything; having that humility and curiosity to reach out was critical."
• "I did the fuckin’ work, and I was ready to do it, and I threw down."
• "The problem wasn’t that I was unattractive; the problem was that I wasn’t embodied (and didn’t have my head up!)."
• "This is happening to me for a reason. It’s happening because I can handle it, so let’s embrace it."
• "My confidence and my ability to do life differently grew in all kinds of magical, nourishing, evolved ways."
• "Now I feel unchained — I feel liberated from the slavery of stuckness."
• "Trusting the intelligence of my body, and then moving forward from that is transformational in every aspect of life."
• "This is not where my story ends."
• "Some of your best friends are yet to be made."

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• Episode 305: GuyTalk: Overcoming religious programming

When I ask my male friends, "Do you trust men?" most of them say, pretty unequivocally, "No."

Why does this matter?

A lot of our clients come to us because they want to improve their dynamics with women. Whether they're single and dating or partnered and seeking more sex, intimacy, closeness, or harmony with their woman, there's a lot of focus on women.

So what does a man's relationship to men have to do with it? Why does it matter to know whether you trust men, if you're working on healthy relationships and sex with women?

For one, as Jason puts it: "As a man, if you have never experienced healthy masculine energy on the outside, it is almost certain you will have a hard time trusting it inside yourself, too."

And if you don't trust your own inner masculine, it will be very challenging for you to generate sexual polarity, set boundaries, or go after the things you want (including women and intimacy).

The thing is, most men don't trust men because a lot of men aren't trust-able! Millions of boys and young men are bullied, for example. Whether by a parent, sibling, or classmate, a large percentage of men experience bullying as children, teenagers, or adults.

As the medical director for the LA Department of Children and Family Services puts it, "A bully gains power in a relationship by reducing another’s, and shows little regard for the consequences to a victim’s health or well-being."

Fortunately you can reclaim your relationship to the healthy masculine, and this will directly impact you having a healthy relationship with yourself as well as women in your life.

Whether you're single looking for dating advice, married looking for relationship advice, or somewhere in between, this is a vital -- and often under-explored -- topic.

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• "Many men have been the recipient of masculine dysregulation."
• "One of the big crises for men is lack of role models."
• "The patriarchy is extremely damaging to men."
• "It’s a step a lot of guys want to skip."
• "The sense is on-guard vigilance."
• "All I have to do is be here."
• "Men can become my allies."
• "Masculinity is a transmission, and without witnessing the healthy, deep versions of it is essential."
• "The power of groups is healing peer relationships."

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• DM 114: Bullying, resilience, and relationships

Want to generate sexual heat, and also inspire safety and a sense of belonging in your partner? Learn how to claim her!

We've talked about claiming before on the podcast, especially with respect to building polarity. When a man is on the more passive side, it can feel lackluster and also confusing. As one woman put it, "Do you even want me?" This throws off polarity.

When he knows how to take inspired action and lead by claiming us, we want to see him more! We feel the polarity. And because of that we feel more relaxed, uplifted, and yes, you guessed it: turned on!

Here we delve more into what it means to us to feel claimed in sex, dating, and relationships -- and why we adore it.

Want to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.

To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• "Claiming is NOT controlling."
• "I felt like ‘no’ was not an acceptable answer."
• "You get the Friday 4pm text: ‘What are you up to tonight?’"
• “He came towards me with a smile.”
• “That was really great. I would love to take you to dinner sometime next week. When are you free?”
• “I want you next to me. I don’t want to sleep alone tonight.”
• “This is in service of our relationship and our love and our connection.”
• “You don’t have to carry the burden for every asshole.”
• “The experiences you want to have with women are just a claim away!”