Mr. K wrote in with a story that’s, sadly, all too familiar. He blames himself for a relationship that was dysfunctional from day one. She showed no attraction. She weaponized sex. She even stopped showering to repel him — and kept a log of when he initiated.

He thinks he’s the problem.

But here’s the truth: Some relationships are doomed from the beginning. And some men — especially anxious or neurodivergent men — miss every red flag because they’re too busy blaming themselves.

In this Dear DSO episode, I walk through Mr. K’s situation and what it reveals about codependence, attraction, and the importance of walking away when a woman shows you who she is. If you’ve ever wondered, “What did I do wrong?”… this one’s for you.

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Have you ever looked back at a relationship and thought, “What the hell was that?”

You were loyal. Honest. Steady.
She was chaos.

This happens all the time to autistic men—diagnosed or not. They end up in emotionally volatile relationships with women who may have traits of borderline personality disorder. These women are intense, manipulative, unpredictable… and the autistic man, with his calming and consistent energy, is the perfect target.

In this video, I explain why this dynamic happens, what signs to watch for, and how to protect yourself from getting trapped in a relationship that feels more like emotional warfare than love.

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In this Dear DSO submission, Richie asks a brutally honest question: What do you do when your wife is on SSRIs, has no sex drive, and has basically shut down in the bedroom?

He’s not alone. A lot of men are quietly struggling with this. Kids, careers, medication, depression—it all adds up. And many men are left wondering if they’re crazy for wanting more. You’re not.

In this video, I break down what SSRIs actually do to your sex life, how to approach the conversation with your wife, and when it’s time to either accept the reality… or walk away.

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In this episode of Dear DSO, a man named Mark writes in about the pain of being stuck in a long-term, sexless marriage. He’s done the work—therapy, self-improvement, romantic gestures—but his wife still shows zero interest. Now he’s wondering: Should he blow up the family just to feel loved again?

This one hits hard, and it’s a story I hear all the time. If you’ve ever felt like a ghost in your own home… like you’re just the guy who pays the bills and takes out the trash… this video is for you.

I’ll walk you through what I call The Final Talk—a direct, compassionate, no-BS way to confront the situation and take back your self-respect. This is the conversation that could change everything.

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I hear from a lot of men who fall hard for a woman… and then she starts pulling away. Hot one minute, cold the next. Is it an avoidant attachment style—or is she just not that into you?

In today’s Dear DSO episode, we break down Paul’s situation. He’s stuck in the push-pull dynamic with a woman who’s triggering every anxious bone in his body. I explain why this dynamic is so damn addictive… and what it says about him that he’s still holding on.

If you’ve ever felt stuck trying to “figure her out,” this one’s for you.

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In this Dear DSO episode, we tackle Holden’s powerful story:
✅ A 22-year marriage, wrecked by infidelity
✅ A toxic ex dragging their adult kids down
✅ A father who rebuilt his life, career, and confidence — but still worries about his boys

I break down what happens long-term when kids get stuck in a toxic home and what (if anything) you, as the healthier parent, can realistically do to help.

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In this episode of Dear DSO, I tackle Dave’s story — he’s been married 13 years, but for the last eight, the bedroom has been dead. Less than 10 times a year. He’s doing the chores, paying the bills, helping with everything, hoping it will reignite intimacy… but it hasn’t worked.

We talk about perimenopause, the harsh biological and emotional shifts that happen in long-term marriages, and the hard truth: sometimes, no amount of chore-play will bring back the spark.

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Is it wrong to want more sex in your marriage? What if your wife thinks you're a pervert for having a normal male sex drive?

In this episode of Dear DSO, I respond to a submission from a man who feels like a prisoner to his own sexuality. He’s doing the work, improving his life, but still feels rejected, shamed, and shut out by his wife. Sound familiar?

We’ll dig into the anxious/avoidant dynamic, religious repression, codependency, and the harsh truth that sometimes… they just don’t want you anymore.

I’m not here to shame guys like this — I was this guy. If you relate, you’re not alone. We see this pattern over and over inside the Brotherhood.

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