Mr. K wrote in with a story that’s, sadly, all too familiar. He blames himself for a relationship that was dysfunctional from day one. She showed no attraction. She weaponized sex. She even stopped showering to repel him — and kept a log of when he initiated.

He thinks he’s the problem.

But here’s the truth: Some relationships are doomed from the beginning. And some men — especially anxious or neurodivergent men — miss every red flag because they’re too busy blaming themselves.

In this Dear DSO episode, I walk through Mr. K’s situation and what it reveals about codependence, attraction, and the importance of walking away when a woman shows you who she is. If you’ve ever wondered, “What did I do wrong?”… this one’s for you.

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Have you ever looked back at a relationship and thought, “What the hell was that?”

You were loyal. Honest. Steady.
She was chaos.

This happens all the time to autistic men—diagnosed or not. They end up in emotionally volatile relationships with women who may have traits of borderline personality disorder. These women are intense, manipulative, unpredictable… and the autistic man, with his calming and consistent energy, is the perfect target.

In this video, I explain why this dynamic happens, what signs to watch for, and how to protect yourself from getting trapped in a relationship that feels more like emotional warfare than love.

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In this Dear DSO submission, Richie asks a brutally honest question: What do you do when your wife is on SSRIs, has no sex drive, and has basically shut down in the bedroom?

He’s not alone. A lot of men are quietly struggling with this. Kids, careers, medication, depression—it all adds up. And many men are left wondering if they’re crazy for wanting more. You’re not.

In this video, I break down what SSRIs actually do to your sex life, how to approach the conversation with your wife, and when it’s time to either accept the reality… or walk away.

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