How do you know if you're with the right person?

How do you know whether you should ask them to marry you?

Charles Darwin, that beacon of rationality, took a very logical approach to his decision to marry his cousin, Emma Wedgwood, making a list of all the pros and cons of getting married.

The results are hilarious. But simply trusting our gut doesn't work either. So what should we do?

Graham and Matt work their way through this tricky ground in today's episode based on this Psychology Today blogpost:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-some-help/202504/is-a-wife-is-better-than-a-dog-the-basis-for-a-good-marriage

Matt and Graham bring the party-pooper vibe to romantic relationships again in this episode with the claim that long-term relationships are no fun, and they're not meant to be.

Most films and songs about love tend to stop at the first kiss, the sprint through the airport. We're crazy in love. Our lovers complete us.

But that stage fades. It’s supposed to. If it didn’t, you’d die of exhaustion or lose your job. What replaces it—if you stick around—is something less exciting but more real.

Where are the stories and narratives about the realities of long-term romance? How do you make love last? Why is it worth the effort? That's the focus for today's episode of Crazy In Love.

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Here is the link to the blogpost discussed in today's episode:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/get-some-help/202504/long-term-relationships-are-no-fun

The "Let Them" Theory from Mel Robbins has been embraced by millions across the globe, sparking thousands of Instagram and TikTok videos, and many tattoos.

Mel Robbins' book of the same name asks a simple question: what if the key to happiness, success, and love was as simple as two words?

In simple terms, if you're overwhelmed, angry or frustrated, the problem isn't you. The problem is the power you give to other people. And two simple words―Let Them―will set you free.

But is that too simple? Is it just ancient Buddhist and Stoic wisdom wrapped up in contemporary self-care? What happens when people hurt us, or act in ways contrary to our values? What do we do then?

Matt and Graham dive into "Let Them" this episode, and seek to make sense of a global phenomenon.

Let Them mantra; https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/p/C7O-KhCyIyE/?hl=en-gb

Let Them tattoos: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/p/DEOApA0vmR3/seeing-so-many-of-you-get-let-them-permanently-inked-on-your-body-is-proof-of-ju/?hl=en&img_index=1

The Serenity Prayer: https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/magazines/the-serenity-prayer/