Is it really codependency… or are you just craving safety after betrayal?

In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage therapist and host of the Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast, unpacks one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships impacted by pornography: codependency.

If you've ever felt “too needy” for reassurance, or struggled to reconnect after your spouse’s porn use, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface — and how to break the cycle.

You'll learn:

• Why porn addiction creates deep attachment wounds in marriage

• The difference between codependent behavior and healthy reassurance-seeking

• How emotional insecurity shows up after betrayal (and what to do instead)

• A step-by-step example of how couples shift from defensiveness to vulnerability

• How to ask for reassurance in a way that builds emotional safety and trust

• The real reason “talking about it” often leads to shutdowns and fights — and how to change that

Whether you're a husband trying to rebuild trust or a wife wondering if you're too much, this episode offers powerful insights and practical steps to heal the damage, stop the reactivity, and reconnect from a place of honesty and strength.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use?

Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here:

sam@healingcouples.org

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop – http://trust.stopporn.info

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship!

Summertime can be one of the hardest seasons for men working to overcome porn addiction, stay sexually grounded, and rebuild trust in their marriage. With more revealing clothing and constant visual stimulation, many husbands feel guilt and frustration — while their wives feel fear, insecurity, and anxiety.

In this powerful episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage and family therapist and expert in porn addiction recovery, unpacks how to handle triggers without shame, how to lead your mind instead of being led by it, and how to create emotional safety in your relationship — even when temptation is everywhere.

You’ll learn:

• Why visual triggers aren’t actually the problem (and what is)

• How to redirect your attention without suppressing desire

• What real sexual mastery looks like (and how to build it)

• Practical steps to regain focus and emotional control in public settings

• How to reassure your wife and rebuild trust through open leadership

Whether you're trying to stop porn, navigate sexual triggers in marriage, or become the kind of man who stays grounded under pressure — this episode will give you the tools to stand firm like a pier in the waves.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use?

Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here:

sam@healingcouples.org

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship!

Why Stress Triggers Porn Addiction — And How to Break the Pattern

If you struggle with porn addiction and find yourself relapsing whenever life gets stressful or overwhelming, this episode is for you.

Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and expert in porn addiction recovery, reveals the hidden link between stress and pornography use — and how to break the cycle for good.

You’ll discover:

• Why stress and overwhelm often trigger porn urges
• How your brain becomes conditioned to seek porn as an emotional escape
• The 5-step framework to stop using porn as a coping mechanism
• How to handle stress without turning to pornography
• Real client examples of men who rewired their patterns and overcame relapse
• How to start rebuilding trust in your marriage after porn use

Whether you’re trying to quit porn, overcome chronic porn relapses, or heal your relationship from the damage porn has caused, this episode will give you a clear, actionable path forward.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use?

Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here:

sam@healingcouples.org

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship!