Is it really codependency… or are you just craving safety after betrayal?

In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage therapist and host of the Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast, unpacks one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships impacted by pornography: codependency.

If you've ever felt “too needy” for reassurance, or struggled to reconnect after your spouse’s porn use, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface — and how to break the cycle.

You'll learn:

• Why porn addiction creates deep attachment wounds in marriage

• The difference between codependent behavior and healthy reassurance-seeking

• How emotional insecurity shows up after betrayal (and what to do instead)

• A step-by-step example of how couples shift from defensiveness to vulnerability

• How to ask for reassurance in a way that builds emotional safety and trust

• The real reason “talking about it” often leads to shutdowns and fights — and how to change that

Whether you're a husband trying to rebuild trust or a wife wondering if you're too much, this episode offers powerful insights and practical steps to heal the damage, stop the reactivity, and reconnect from a place of honesty and strength.

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Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship!