Who doesn’t love the ornery attitude and spontaneous creativity of a rebel mindset? People on the end of the angry blame game, that’s who! In this episode, we explore the pit-falls of phase distress in Rebel Type personalities. For those struggling with angry blame, tune in for some tips to explore patterns of self-doubt and inappropriate delegation, that can lead to self-sabotage via emotional escalation and avoidance. Learning how to confront healthy guilt via saying “I’m sorry” and delegating appropriately are the way out! For those who love these fiery and expressive souls, tune in to learn ways to help de-escalate situations and conversations through playful banter.

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Remember that old adage, “opposites attract?” Well what about “birds of a feather flock together?” There is truth to both of these famous phrases and in this episode, we unpack how to thrive in relationships with our polar opposites, as well as how to deepen connections with our dopplegangers. It is all about balancing strengths and needs in partnerships, celebrating differences, and finding commonalities, all which allows us to course correct miscommunication patterns and potential differences in attachment styles.

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Trust can be tricky, especially for Persister Type personalities in distress. Learning how to let others do their part, not feel responsibility for their success or failure, and confront our very real feelings of fear and mistrust can at times feel like wrestling an alligator in murky water. For some, it is easier to express anger and intense disapproval, but that just gets us more of the same…mistrust and conflict. Deliberately turning towards the fear and anxiety of not having things perfect is the remedy…sounds counter intuitive right? Well, tune in to today’s episode to learn how to unharness the power of fear and mistrust in your life!

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Blindspots are everywhere and we all got ‘em! These cognitive distortions, which are irrational thoughts that shape our perceptions and emotions, often lurk below our conscious awareness and can wreak havoc on our self-worth and on our relationships. Good news is that we can grow our awareness of them, when we are engaging in them, and back out of them with proactive self-care and communication. Asking trusted partners, friends, family members, and colleagues to bring them to our attention can also be instrumental in helping us turn on the light and understand ourselves on a deeper and healthier level. Here’s to leveling up!

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For some, anger can be a debilitating or frightening experience that leads to conflict avoidance, anxiety, and sadness. For others, anger can be liberating and inspire change. We will all experience conflict many times in our lives, so we all need to learn how to recognize the signs of anger and develop healthy strategies for working with the emotion and communicating effectively through it. In the Process Communication Model world, Harmonizer Types inherently dislike feeling and expressing anger, which can often lead to Phase challenges and distress patterns that manifest in a cover up emotion of sadness and possible passivity or passive aggressiveness that can damage self-esteem and connection. Join us in learning how to deepen one’s understanding of anger, the impact on one’s nervous system, and how to effectively communicate through it to strengthen one’s empowerment and relationships.

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Who doesn’t like sandwiches? Figuring out where we begin and end in context with others can be a confusing at times. We certainly do not want to be a victim of codependency and base our self-worth solely off of others approval. We also do not want to be bulls in a china shop and assume everyone will accommodate us...how obnoxious! Learning to set healthy boundaries without walking on eggshells, facing our fears and walking the coals, and understanding how discomfort can serve as a motivator for change are all key. Stay tuned so that you can enhance your ability to develop strong, yet flexible boundaries, by utilizing what we call The Sandwich Approach.

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Kids…you gotta love ‘em because you can’t punch' em! Just kidding…kids are the best and having the privilege of raising them is one of life’s greatest adventures! In today’s episode, we will explore the brain structure and normal development stages that kids go through, with a special emphasis on teenagers and young adults. Transitioning from parenting to coaching is the name of the game! The goal involves helping kids gain independence, confidence, and the emotional capacity to feel firmly rooted in their family and subsequently having the confidence to fly towards their autonomous goals and dreams as a young adult.

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Welcome to our nerd fest…Behind the Therapy Door! This episode is all about attachment theory, the 4 types of attachment and signs that indicate which one is most prominent within yourself, and how various personality types demonstrate attachment distress patterns. Attachment and the wiring of neural circuitry begins in utero and continues throughout the life span. Knowing how we are attached and ways to heal from more dysfunctional types of attachment can be empowering and relationally healing.

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