If your child holds it together all day at school only to fall apart the second they get home—this episode is for you.

In this brutally honest conversation, Jane is joined by teacher, parent, and neurodivergent advocate Millie Carr to unpack the invisible trauma happening behind ‘good behaviour’ in classrooms.

From silent shutdowns to explosive rage, masking to misdiagnosis, we explore how the school system is inadvertently breaking the very kids it's meant to support—and what parents can do about it.

💡 What We Cover:

• What school-based trauma really looks like (it’s not always loud)
  
  
• Why girls and fawn-type students are flying under the radar
  
  
• The link between masking, people-pleasing, and identity loss
  
  
• How chronic invalidation chips away at kids’ mental health
  
  
• Why ‘good girl’ praise can be just as damaging as discipline
  
  
• The high cost of being the “perfect” student
  
  
• RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) and the hidden social toll of school
  
  
• What schools and parents can do to build trust and repair harm
  
  

🎧 Related episodes with Millie Carr:

How to Tell Your Child About Their Diagnosis: Essential Do's and Don'ts.

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• Listen in Apple

Camouflaging ADHD and Autistic Traits in Girls

• Listen in Spotify
• Listen in Apple

The Neurodiverse Classroom

• Listen in Spotify
• Listen in Apple

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This episode isn’t about blaming teachers—it’s about exposing the system that’s letting everyone down, especially our neurodivergent kids. If you’ve ever been told ‘they’re fine at school’, you need to hear this.

Hit play. Share with a friend. And let’s stop gaslighting ourselves about what’s really going on in classrooms.

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Season 3 Starts Now: No More Explaining, Just Strategy

You’ve read the listicles. You’ve sat in the paediatrician’s office explaining what your child’s meltdown actually meant — again. You’re not confused. You’re exhausted.

Season 3 is here — and it’s not about awareness anymore. It’s about tools, systems, scripts, and sustainable change. This season, Jane is done explaining ADHD to the masses. If you’re an ADHD mum, late-diagnosed woman, or raising neurodivergent kids in a system that’s already failing you — this season is built for you.

This opener is sharp, validating, and cuts straight to what’s coming, why it matters, and how ADHD Mums is shifting focus to create real support. Spoiler: it started with one burnt-out night, one whiteboard, and the lowest-effort dinner plan that worked like magic.

💡 What We Cover:

• Why Season 3 ditches the awareness fluff and starts with real-world strategy

• The ADHD Mum Hack that came out of a PMDD spiral and whiteboard panic

• How a low-energy dinner framework led to the most helpful ADHD tool Jane’s made yet

• What 3 years of DMs, reviews, and survey data revealed about what ADHD mums actually want

• The burnout no one saw coming, and how Jane nearly stopped the podcast altogether

• What’s changing: solo Thursdays, guest Tuesdays, and no more overexplaining

• Upcoming series on hormones, medication, school trauma, and misdiagnosis

• Why ADHD Mums is building a system for us — not just hoping the current one catches up

🔗 Resources & Links:

• 🎧 Related episodes:

  • Ep 64 – PMDD, PMS & Emotional Burnout

  • Ep 81 – Too Much? Or Just Misunderstood (RSD & Emotional Intensity)

  • Ep 51 – Setting Boundaries & Stopping the Creep

• 🛒 Shop the Low-Energy Mum Menu Kit – adhdmums.com.au/shop

• 💬 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook Group – click here

• 📬 Get ADHD-friendly emails – subscribe here

🎧 Listen Now

If you’ve ever thought, ‘I know what ADHD is — what I need is help actually managing my life’, this episode is your sign to stop apologising and start rebuilding.
Hit play. This is your season.

#ADHDMumsPodcast #NeurodivergentMums #ADHDParentingTools #BurnoutSupport #PMDDandADHD #ExecutiveDysfunction #RSDInMothers #MentalLoadMums #ADHDSeason3 #ADHDAustralia #LowEnergyParenting #InvisibleLoadADHD

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Validation, dark humour, and strategy — not tips and vibes. Come hang with us on Facebook.

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Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube — because multitasking is the only way we exist.

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Help another exhausted, brilliant ADHD mum find this and feel seen. Reviews matter more than you think.

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD burnout, PMDD and ADHD, neurodivergent parenting support, ADHD mums podcast, emotional regulation, ADHD tools for mums, late-diagnosed ADHD women, ADHD low-energy hacks, executive dysfunction management, ADHD daily survival, ADHD women hormones, school trauma ADHD, ADHD parenting podcast, ADHD menu planning, Jane McFadden podcast, ADHD validation, realistic ADHD support

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You made the reservation. You packed the gifts. You wiped the tears, booked the table, and still felt… like no one saw you.

If Mother’s Day makes you feel flat, ragey, or quietly devastated—you’re not ungrateful, you’re unsupported. In this raw solo episode, Jane shares the truth about what ADHD mums, solo parents, and neurodivergent women are really navigating on the day that’s supposed to be for them.

This isn’t about handmade cards and breakfast in bed. This is about emotional labour, unmet needs, and the silent heartbreak of being overlooked on the one day you were told you’d be celebrated.

💡 What We Cover:

• Why so many mums dread Mother’s Day—and it’s not ‘ingratitude’

• Survey results from 100+ ADHD Mums on how the day actually goes

• What invisible emotional labour looks like (and why it stings most on Mother’s Day)

• The loneliness of solo parenting, co-parenting, or being in a relationship and still doing it all

• Scripts and strategies to set boundaries, ask for what you need, or say no

• The complex grief that can rise: for the mum you had, the mum you wanted, or the mum you thought you'd be

• Seven key reminders for emotionally overloaded mums this Mother's Day

• How to validate yourself when no one else does—and why your kids will remember even when it feels like they won’t

🔗 Resources & Links:

• 🎧 Related episodes:

  • 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load [Part 2]
  • Listen on Spotify
  • Listen on Apple

  • How to Handle Family Criticism About ADHD: Boundaries and Keeping Your Sanity

  • Listen on Spotify
  • Listen on Apple

• 💬 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook group: Click here

If Mother’s Day makes you feel like disappearing, this episode is your reminder: you are not invisible, you are just unsupported—and that is not your fault.

Hit play. Send this to a mum who needs to feel seen this weekend.

#ADHDMumsPodcast #MothersDayBurnout #InvisibleLoad #MentalLoadMatters #ADHDParenting #NeurodivergentMums #EmotionalLabour #ADHDFatigue #SoloMumSupport #ADHDandGrief #RealMotherhood #ADHDMumPodcast

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Find Jane on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and YouTube. Because sometimes you just need someone to say what you're thinking—out loud.

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Your review helps more exhausted, ragey, overextended mums find this podcast. Share the episode. Rate it. Let’s raise the volume on what really matters.

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

Mother’s Day and emotional labour, ADHD mums and mental load, invisible labour, solo mum burnout, co-parenting struggles, grief on Mother’s Day, unmet expectations, neurodivergent parenting challenges, ADHD and sensory overwhelm, ADHD mum shutdown, rage and resilience, ADHD women and shame, emotional validation for mothers, complex motherhood, real talk Mother’s Day, ADHD self-compassion, masking on holidays, self-advocacy for mums, survival-mode parenting, ADHD parenting community

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If you made it through Season 2 while juggling meltdowns, meds, late-night Googling, school chaos, and trying to figure out dinner while being told to ‘get off your phone’—you’re not just surviving. You’re reshaping the narrative.

In this raw and honest wrap-up, Jane reflects on what really went down in Season 2: the burnout, the backlash, the breakthroughs, and the moments that made her want to walk away. From NDIS implosions to medication shortages, from massive listener growth to imposter syndrome and award snubs—this one lays it bare.

This is a thank you, a debrief, and a reminder: you’re not alone, and Season 3 is just getting started.

💡 What We Cover:

• Why ADHD Mums doesn’t ‘pause for the season’—because the chaos doesn’t either
  
  
• Medication shortages, government silence, and the reality of parenting without support
  
  
• Burnout, surgery, ARFID, and behind-the-scenes pressure that almost ended the podcast
  
  
• What worked, what tanked, and why the DV mini-series didn’t land (even though it mattered)
  
  
• Why she kept going: DMs, community wins, and the power of knowing someone needed it
  
  
• The rise of $10 kits and what the audience really asked for: practical strategies, not fluff
  
  
• The message to women navigating neurodivergence without validation: build anyway

🎧 Listen Now

1. Burnout, Pain & Weird Symptoms? The ADHD Link No One Told Us About (My Lipodema Operation episode)

Listen here on Spotify

Listen here on Apple

2. Does ADHD Medication make you feel withdrawn, sad or sensory sensitive?

Listen Here on Spotify

Listen Here on Apple

🔗 Resources & Links:

• 🎧 Most downloaded episodes of Season 2 – Top 10 Recap Blog
  
  
• 📥 Downloadable Kits & Guides – Go Here
  
  
• 💬 Facebook Group: Join ADHD Mums
  

#ADHDMumsPodcast #NeurodivergentParenting #ADHDMedicationCrisis #ARFIDParenting #BurnoutAndRecovery #NDAdvocacy #ExecutiveDysfunction #PerimenopauseADHD #RageAndMasking #MentalLoadForMums #WomenWithADHD #Season2Recap

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Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!

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Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTube

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Want to pitch an idea, book Jane, or collaborate? Email jane@adhdmums.com.au

MORE RESOURCES:

Still unsure if ADHD or autism applies to you or your child? Take my recommended self-tests here.

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD mums podcast recap, burnout parenting, ARFID and ADHD, medication shortage Australia, ADHD and DV, imposter syndrome ADHD, ADHD misdiagnosis women, NDIS changes 2024, ADHD rage and masking, executive dysfunction, perimenopause ADHD, navigating school with ADHD kids, ND community support, practical ADHD strategies, low-energy parenting, advocacy and neurodivergence, ADHD mum community

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ADHD Meds: Are They Safe Long-Term? What the World's Largest Study Just Told Us

You’re sitting in the paediatrician’s office, staring at a tiny tablet in your hand, wondering if giving it to your child makes you a bad parent—or a better one. Sound familiar?

In this solo episode, Jane breaks down the world’s biggest ADHD medication study—just published in The Lancet Psychiatry—and unpacks what it really means for neurodivergent families. We’re talking hard data, real side effects, long-term unknowns, and the emotional load mums carry when we’re asked to medicate our kids. This episode is your crash course in science and lived experience. No moral panic, no TikTok nonsense. Just the facts—and how they actually apply to real-life parenting.

💡 What We Cover:

• What the new research says about long-term safety of ADHD meds for kids and teens
  
  
• The truth about stimulants vs non-stimulants (both affect vitals)
  
  
• Why we need to track more than behaviour—and what to watch for
  
  
• The real-life variables the study didn’t cover (puberty, co-regulation, family chaos)
  
  
• How to use your lived experience to advocate during appointments
  
  
• Questions to ask your paediatrician now, based on the new data
  
  
• Why clinical reassurance alone isn’t enough—and never replaces your gut
  
  
• The difference between data-backed parenting and paranoia (and why you’re probably not overreacting)
  
  

🔗 Resources & Links:

• 🧪 The full Lancet Psychiatry study – [link in show notes]
  
  
• 🎧 Related episodes:
  
  
• • From Skeptic to Advocate – Medication, Neuroplasticity & Motherhood
    
    
  • Stimulants vs Non-Stimulants – What’s the Difference?
    
    
  • ADHD Meds & Pregnancy – with pharmacist Dr Rodney White
    
    
    
• 📚 Referenced researchers: The Lancet, ADHD Australia, Dr Ari Tuckman, Rodney White (UTS Pharmacy)
  
  

🎧 Listen Now

If you’ve ever spiralled at 2am wondering if your child’s meds are doing more harm than good—or if you're exhausted from explaining your choices to well-meaning relatives—this episode will ground you in real data and real life.

Hit play, send it to your co-parent or GP, and take this study to your next appointment.

#ADHDMumsPodcast #ADHDMedicationStudy #ParentingWithADHD #NeurodivergentKids #ADHDMumLife #ADHDAndMedication #ADHDSafety #StimulantMedication #ParentAdvocacy #MedicationTracking

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Have questions or want to talk to other mums navigating ADHD meds and emotional whiplash? Join our Facebook group [here].

FOLLOW FOR MORE:

Daily validation, tips, and the occasional rage-fuelled vent session — Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube.

LEAVE A REVIEW:

Your review helps more overwhelmed mums find this podcast—and feel less alone in the chaos.

COLLABS:

For interviews, speaking, or partnership enquiries: jane@adhdmums.com.au

TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:

ADHD medication study, ADHD meds and safety, stimulant vs non-stimulant ADHD, Ritalin Vyvanse Intuniv, ADHD in children, medicating neurodivergent kids, paediatric ADHD, ADHD parent guilt, ADHD and blood pressure, ADHD mum podcast, ADHD and tracking symptoms, how to talk to your paediatrician ADHD, lived experience and medication, medication decisions for kids, ADHD research explained, ADHD and monitoring, ADHD study Lancet Psychiatry, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD crash management, ADHD support for mums

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Okay, so you’ve screamed into your car steering wheel.

Now what?

In Part 2, Jane and clinical psychologist Dr Jacinta Thompson return to bring the goods: the actual, practical tools ADHD mums can use to manage rage without pretending to be zen all the time. From self-coaching scripts to nervous system hacks, this episode gives you permission to be angry—and shows you what to do with it that’s actually effective.

Because no, you don’t need to just 'try yoga' again. And no, you’re not the only one who wants to punch the air when your partner asks what’s for dinner.

💡 What We Cover:

• How to spot rage earlier (before you hit full explosion)
• DBT’s ‘BUT to AND’ method for flipping shame spirals
• Why screaming into a pillow can be a regulation strategy
• How to coach your partner to be useful in the heat of the moment
• The link between sensory load and delayed rage meltdowns
• Releasing anger without suppressing it (and modelling this for your kids)
• Medication and mum rage: what no one tells you
• Jane’s own messy beliefs—and how she’s rewriting them out loud

🔗 Resources & Links:

• 🧠 Guest: Dr Jacinta Thompson – Time to Untangle
• Blog from Jacinta here on this topic.
• 📚 Referenced approaches:
• • DBT dialectical thinking
  • Emotional regulation via stress cycle completion
  • Agomelatine & SSRIs for ADHD irritability
• 🎧 Related episodes:
• • Ep 71 – 7 Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load
  • Listen on Spotify
  • Listen on Apple
  • Ep 32 – Realising Autistic Burnout: Self-Awareness Part 1
  • Listen on Spotify
  • Listen on Apple

🎧 Listen Now

You’re allowed to feel rage. You’re also allowed to not be destroyed by it.
This one’s for every mum trying to hold it together while everyone needs a snack, a hug, or your last nerve.

#ADHDMumsPodcast #MumRage #EmotionalRegulation #DBTForADHD #Burnout #NeurodivergentWomen #MentalLoad #TooMuchIsValid #ADHDRealTalk #ParentingWithADHD

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