If your child holds it together all day at school only to fall apart the second they get home—this episode is for you.

In this brutally honest conversation, Jane is joined by teacher, parent, and neurodivergent advocate Millie Carr to unpack the invisible trauma happening behind ‘good behaviour’ in classrooms.

From silent shutdowns to explosive rage, masking to misdiagnosis, we explore how the school system is inadvertently breaking the very kids it's meant to support—and what parents can do about it.

💡 What We Cover:

• What school-based trauma really looks like (it’s not always loud)
  
  
• Why girls and fawn-type students are flying under the radar
  
  
• The link between masking, people-pleasing, and identity loss
  
  
• How chronic invalidation chips away at kids’ mental health
  
  
• Why ‘good girl’ praise can be just as damaging as discipline
  
  
• The high cost of being the “perfect” student
  
  
• RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) and the hidden social toll of school
  
  
• What schools and parents can do to build trust and repair harm
  
  

🎧 Related episodes with Millie Carr:

How to Tell Your Child About Their Diagnosis: Essential Do's and Don'ts.

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Camouflaging ADHD and Autistic Traits in Girls

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The Neurodiverse Classroom

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• Listen in Apple

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This episode isn’t about blaming teachers—it’s about exposing the system that’s letting everyone down, especially our neurodivergent kids. If you’ve ever been told ‘they’re fine at school’, you need to hear this.

Hit play. Share with a friend. And let’s stop gaslighting ourselves about what’s really going on in classrooms.

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