
Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again
Women and Desire in the Age of Consent
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Katherine Angel
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Women are in a bind. They are told that in the name of sexual consent and feminist empowerment, they must proclaim their desires clearly and confidently. Sex researchers tell us that women don't know what they want. And men are on hand to persuade women that what they want is, in fact, exactly what men want. In this environment, how can women possibly know what they want-and how can they be expected to?
In this book, Katherine Angel surveys medical and psychoanalytic understandings of female desire, from Freud to Kinsey to present-day science; MeToo-era debates over consent, assault, and feminism; and popular culture, TV, and film to challenge our assumptions about female desire. Why, she asks, do we expect desire to be easily understood? In contrast to the endless exhortation to know what we want, Angel proposes that sex can be a conversation, requiring insight, interaction, and mutual vulnerability.
Angel urges that we remake our thinking about sex, pleasure, and autonomy without any illusions of perfect self-knowledge. Only then will we bring about Michel Foucault's sardonic promise, in 1976, that "tomorrow sex will be good again".
Contains mature themes.
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- Jane Scott
- 07-16-23
Food for thought
A good exploration of modern sexuality. If you had some question about #metoo or the "pick up artist" culture, or if you needed something to contextualise your experiences on a societal scale, this book can help you uncover some ideas to invoke a new ideology or personal lifestyle.
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- Dan P
- 05-06-21
sound logic around consent
I really love the concepts portrayed by this author. The whole world of consent has been very murky and confusing in this book shed some light on the topic.
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- Berel Dov Lerner
- 03-09-21
Good with expected deficiencies.
Well written, well read, it covers a lot of the ideological disputes and scientific research concerning female sexual desire and the role of consent in sexual ethics. As unfortunately expected in feminist writing, I get the feeling she has not really talked much with living breathing men about this stuff - they show up as a kind of theorized category. Ideology keeps her from seriously considering that differences between male and female sexuality might run deeper than the constructs of a patriarchal society. And, of course, discussions of love and (God forbid) enduring monogamous relationships are almost entirely absent.
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- Armand Jarri
- 05-23-21
Too academic
I agree with the reviewer who mentioned that the author writes about men as if they are critical concept, not flesh an bone. I get the same impression. Thebook reads like an academic paper, writer by an academic for an academic, most probably women academics.
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- Robert Myak
- 01-20-23
Insightful but perhaps repetitive
Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again is theoretically complex and constitutes an important contribution to the discussion on sex and consent. However, by staying in the grey area, which is exactly the position that the book argues for, it seems like it avoids strong positions in general, rather resting in this area that cannot offend anyone. While the book fundamentally argues for this softness, for this “indeterminateness” of sex that goes against consent culture and the obligation to know ourselves, which is ultimately liberating, it seems that some theoretical acrobats are taken to arrive at this conclusion. Perhaps the discussion on desire and bodily response is the most innovative chapter, as the clearest argument is made: our bodily responses (arousal) do not constitute consent but rather are simply biological. All in all, it is a good, enriching read but is weakened by the indeterminate nature that resembles the indefinite nature of consent and sex for which it argues
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- Victoria Patience
- 08-03-21
fascinating book; terrible narration
This incredible, insightful book was almost ruined by a stilted, robotic narration that made it very hard going.
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