WhatFriendsDo: Kitchen Chats

By: Aimee Kandrac
  • Summary

  • When a major life event occurs, you call your friends and you gather in the kitchen to provide support, share stories, create nourishment, and start to get life taken care of. The Kitchen Chats podcast is all about those moments. On each episode WhatFriendsDo CEO Aimee Kandrac and a guest sit down in her kitchen to share actionable, accessible advice that can help you, your friends, and your family navigate the difficult times in life when you may not know what to do next. You'll get ideas for how to help someone in your own life who may be struggling, and we’ll destigmatize asking for help when you’re the one in a tough situation.
    2022
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Episodes
  • The Importance of Team
    Feb 25 2025

    This conversation between Aimee and Charlie explores the importance of teamwork during major life transitions. Here's a summary of their discussion:

    • Teamwork Beyond Sports: While the concept of a team is often associated with sports, they emphasize its relevance in navigating life's challenges. Just as a race car driver relies on a pit crew, individuals facing transitions need a support system.
    • Defining Your Team: They discuss the different roles people play on your team, from close family and friends to professionals like doctors or therapists. The team can also include unexpected individuals who offer support in surprising ways.
    • The Importance of Asking for Help: They acknowledge the difficulty of asking for help, often due to feelings of vulnerability or fear of rejection. They stress that allowing others to help is beneficial for both the giver and the receiver.
    • Giving Others the Opportunity to Help: They highlight the importance of being specific when asking for help and recognizing the unique gifts and talents of those in your support system. This allows people to contribute in ways that are meaningful to them.
    • The Role of Grief in Seeking Help: They explore the connection between grief and the reluctance to ask for help. Grief over the loss of a previous life, independence, or capabilities can make it harder to reach out.
    • Practicing Asking for Help: They suggest that practicing asking for help in small ways can make it easier to do so during larger crises. Just as athletes train for competition, individuals should practice building and utilizing their support system.
    • Unexpected Support: They share stories of receiving help from unexpected sources, emphasizing the importance of being open to support from various avenues.
    • Vulnerability and Connection: They discuss the vulnerability involved in asking for help and the importance of fostering strong connections with others to build a reliable support network.
    • Kitchen Moments: They define "kitchen moments" as significant conversations that take place in an intimate setting, often involving difficult or life-changing news. Charlie shares his "kitchen moment" of receiving his diabetes diagnosis.

    This conversation highlights the value of community, vulnerability, and recognizing the interconnectedness of human experience when navigating life's inevitable transitions.

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    44 mins
  • The Multifaceted Nature of Grief
    Feb 19 2025

    This podcast episode of Kitchen Chats explores the multifaceted nature of grief, emphasizing that it's not solely tied to death but arises from various life transitions like divorce, empty nesting, or even positive changes. Host Aimee Kandrac and guest, Ashley Parsons, discuss how the commonly referenced "five stages of grief" are often misapplied and can make people feel like they're grieving incorrectly. They highlight that grief and joy can coexist, and asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. The conversation offers practical advice for supporting someone grieving, stressing the importance of empathy, active listening, and respecting individual grieving processes. They suggest offering concrete help, like cooking or running errands, and acknowledge the vulnerability involved in both needing and offering support. Ultimately, the podcast encourages listeners to expand their understanding of grief, embrace its complexities, and prioritize self-care while navigating life's inevitable changes.

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    42 mins
  • The Emotional Toll of Moving
    Feb 11 2025

    This conversation between two friends, Aimee and Kristi, delves into the emotional and practical aspects of moving. This conversation provides a comprehensive overview of the many facets of moving and offers practical advice for both those who are moving and those who want to support them.

    • Emotional Attachment to Homes: They emphasize the strong emotional connections people have with their homes, filled with memories and personal significance. This makes moving a complex process, even when it's desired.
    • The Difficulty of Purging: Letting go of possessions, especially when tied to loved ones who have passed, is emotionally taxing. Christy shares her experience with her grandmother's belongings and the challenge of deciding what to keep and what to discard.
    • The Importance of Empathy and Patience: They stress the need for empathy and patience when supporting someone who is moving. Recognizing that everyone processes change differently and at their own pace is crucial.
    • Practical Ways to Help: They brainstorm specific ways to assist someone moving, including:
      • Physical Help: Packing, cleaning, decluttering, moving plants, staging the home for sale.
      • Emotional Support: Listening to stories, offering encouragement, providing a sounding board for frustrations.
      • Practical Support: Providing gift cards for meals, setting up utilities in the new home, cleaning the refrigerator in the new home and stocking it with essentials, providing a "first night" kit with basic supplies.
      • Financial Support: Offering advice on financial decisions related to the move.
    • Understanding Different Types of Movers: They discuss the various emotional states of people moving. Some are excited, some are reluctant, and others are grieving the loss of a loved one. Tailoring support to the individual's needs is key.
    • The Importance of Asking Specific Questions: Instead of a general "Let me know if I can do anything," they recommend offering concrete suggestions for help. This makes it easier for the person moving to accept assistance.
    • Offering Help Multiple Times: Recognizing that needs change throughout the moving process, they suggest checking in with the person multiple times, even if they initially decline help.
    • Avoiding Unhelpful Actions: They caution against bringing more physical items to someone who is already in the process of decluttering.
    • The Value of Shared Experiences: Sharing personal anecdotes of moving can help the person feel less alone and provide practical tips.
    • Seeking Advice from Others: They suggest consulting with people who have experience with moving or similar life transitions for guidance on how to best support the person.

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    52 mins

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