How we can stay connected and work together!

1. Sign-up for RESOLVE Black Mother Wound Healing Intensive

2. Download my FREE Black Mother Wound Healing Guide

3. Work with me one on one

4. Order my book on Amazon

5. Listen to the Podcast

6. Watch the podcast

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Creating Safety Part 2: When It Feels Like You Don’t Have Any Choices

Safety is something we all crave, but often, it’s more about perception than reality. You might feel like you're stuck in a job, a relationship, or a situation, thinking you have no other options. But the truth is, most of the time, we have more choices than we believe. The key is challenging the beliefs and truths we've accepted for too long.

When you feel powerless, it’s easy to believe there are no options. But often, the real issue is that you've stopped looking for them. Shifting your perspective to see yourself as capable and deserving opens the door to possibilities you never imagined.

In the end, safety begins with us. It starts by questioning our beliefs and choosing to see the possibilities we haven't noticed yet. We may face challenges, but the power to change and create the life we want is always in our hands. We just need to believe it.

In this episode, we will challenge limiting beliefs around safety and choice, and explore how reframing these thoughts can open up new possibilities for healing and growth. I share how breaking free from these thoughts helped me and my clients uncover new possibilities. It’s time to reframe those "facts" that hold us back and start making empowered choices.

Topics Covered:
(00:00:00) Episode Snippet
(00:00:16) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast
(00:02:10) The work behind the mic
(00:03:19) Is it true?
(00:07:08) Safety: The first level of autonomy
(00:10:17) The illusion of no options
(00:12:07) Is finding a job difficult?
(00:15:13) Understanding your worth to see your choices
(00:17:42) Pack your bag with new truths
(00:20:22) We are all replaceable
(00:21:18) Challenge what you believe is true
(00:25:30) Get to know you
(00:27:22) Stop waiting for someone to save you
(00:29:19) Nobody owes you something
(00:31:12) Check me out on YouTube

Key Takeaways:

“Building a healthy, loving relationship with yourself is about knowing who you are. It's not about beating yourself up or changing everything about yourself, but it is about awareness.”

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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How we can stay connected and work together!

1. Sign-up for RESOLVE Mother Wound Group course Classes start January 2025!

2. Download my FREE Black Mother Wound Healing Guide

3. Work with me one on one

4. Order my book on Amazon

5. Listen to the Podcast

6. Watch the podcast

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Who am I, beyond who my mother has defined me to be?

For many women, the relationship with their mother shapes how they see themselves. A mother’s role is often central to a child’s sense of safety, love, and identity. But as we grow older, it’s important to understand that, no matter how complicated our relationship with our mother may be, it doesn’t have to define us or limit who we can become.

While a mother plays an important role in our early years, our identity should not be fully shaped by her actions, approval, or opinions.

We are more than the struggles of our past or the expectations set by our families. True healing starts when we realize that our lives, our choices, and our future are not determined by the challenges we’ve had with our mothers.

Healing happens when we let go of old beliefs and accept who we are becoming. By embracing ourselves and standing firm in our truth, we free ourselves to live the life we deserve. Our journey is ours to create, and the power to change lies within us.

In this episode, I unpack how your relationship with your mother shapes your identity and how it doesn’t have to define your future. I share practical steps to break free from these patterns, cut the “energetic umbilical cord,” and release shame. You’ll learn how to embrace your autonomy, honor your healing journey, and reclaim the authentic you. This episode is all about moving beyond the past, stepping into your power, and truly living your life on your terms.

Topics Covered:
(00:00:00) Episode Snippet
(00:00:11) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast
(00:02:27) Being yourself is good enough
(00:06:57) Invest in yourself
(00:10:38) Your relationship with your mother doesn’t define you
(00:13:17) Our mother is not our source
(00:16:22) Create your own sense of self
(00:19:09) Finding yourself through bold leaps
(00:24:32) Healing and playfulness
(00:27:21) Pay attention to your life
(00:28:34) Community is a pillar of re-parenting
(00:31:41) You are safe

Healing is Being Yourself - https://youtu.be/q72ZMAj5S9o?si=Jrav1LdHIFlMVH1G

Key Takeaways:

"Don't let fear, shame, guilt, apprehension, or anxiety stop you from exploring who you are."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwound

Support the show

Join my 6-Week Mother Wound Healing Course

How we can stay connected and work together!

1. Sign-up for RESOLVE Mother Wound Group course Classes start January 2025!

2. Download my FREE Black Mother Wound Healing Guide

3. Work with me one on one

4. Order my book on Amazon

5. Listen to the Podcast

6. Watch the podcast

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Reclaiming your space can be difficult, especially when it feels like you’re not being seen or heard. It can be tough to feel like you matter, which makes it harder to take up space in the world. However, sometimes, reclaiming your space means making small changes that help you feel seen and heard.

Healing is a journey, and it doesn’t follow a straight line. Embrace the discomfort, as it’s often part of the process. Every small act of self-recognition helps build trust with yourself, even when things feel difficult.

To heal, you must learn to take care of yourself the way you would a child—gently and with love. Acknowledge your needs and give yourself the freedom to express who you are without judgment or fear.

Ultimately, as you make small yet meaningful changes, you are not just healing—you are reclaiming the space that is truly yours. Every step you take is a reminder that you have the power to create a life where you feel seen, heard, and valued.

In this episode, I explore the concept of showing up authentically, both visually and audibly, without abandoning ourselves in the process. As I reflect on my own journey of healing, I share how I’ve learned to embrace my uniqueness, from wearing red lipstick as an act of resistance to discovering small ways to express myself. These practices allow me to be unapologetically myself, even in a world that often demands conformity. Join me as I discuss the importance of trusting our inner selves and finding ways to recognize and honor who we truly are.

Topics Covered:
(00:00:00) Episode Snippet
(00:00:10) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast
(00:01:11) Challenging traditional ideas of professionalism
(00:03:08) “I want to be myself “
(00:04:50) Embracing your visual self
(00:09:16) Whatever comes up is meant for you
(00:11:21) Claiming my existence
(00:15:10) What would make you feel better?
(00:17:00) How can your inner child show up visually?
(00:19:31) Face triggers and fears
(00:21:47) Get used to hearing your voice
(00:23:14) The Throat Chakra
(00:25:39) See who you really are
(00:27:17) You are doing an amazing job!

Key Takeaways:

"Sometimes you just need something small you can hold on to, like turquoise eyeliner."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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Join my 6-Week Mother Wound Healing Course