Happily Ever After: NOW WHAT!?

By: Kim & Cheyanne Cleyman
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  • Hey, busy parents! Do you know those moments when you wonder if you’ll ever find the ’joy’ in parenting again? When the routine feels too routine and you crave some excitement? We hear you – family life’s a rollercoaster, and we’re here to share the twists, turns, and a few shortcuts we’ve picked up along the way. Welcome to ’The Cleymans,’ where we’re all about keeping it real. No, we don’t have all the answers - and we’re not perfect either - but we do have some tips and tricks up our sleeve to make your life just that bit easier. See us as your best kept secret, your partners-in-crime: fellow parents who understand the craziness of balancing work, tantrums, romance and maybe even a bit of self-care - imagine that! With a teenager, a toddler and a newborn, believe me that we’ve had our fair share of messy moments, the ones that make for great stories later on. And we still do. We invite you to follow along, as we share what we’re learning along the way. Ever dream of turning those stolen moments into moments of rekindled connection with your partner? Yep, we feel you. Because we know that a lot of small make a big one – find each other amidst the beautiful chaos, again and again. But wait, there’s more! We’re not just about surviving; we’re about thriving. Our mission? To build a community of parents who are all about injecting a bit of adventure into everyday life. Families who are not afraid of a little bit of risk in their life, without worrying about messing up. Moms and dads that keep finding their comfort when life throws them outside of their comfort zone. We’re here because we know that you too can live an extraordinary life. Our playbook includes embracing the mess, laughing through the chaos, and finding the beauty in the imperfections. We’re all in this together, sharing tales of epic parenting fails and brilliant triumphs – no judgment here. So, here’s to finding joy in the journey, successfully navigating the wild ride of a family - knowing that you’re not alone in the madness. We’re building a community where you can share your stories, your tips, and your epic adventures. Join us as we dive headfirst into the unpredictable, the messy, and the wonderfully imperfect. Welcome to The Cleymans, where real life is our playground. No fancy parenting hacks here – just a bunch of tired but determined parents figuring it out day by day. We’re not promising a perfect journey, but we’re promising a supportive, hilarious, and heartwarming one. So grab a seat, share your tales, and let’s make this adventure one for the books. We’re beyond excited to have you along for the ride! Chat more: @TheCleymans Come Discover More - www.TheCleymans.com
    Kim & Cheyanne Cleyman
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Parenting & Families Relationships Social Sciences
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Episodes
  • 15 \\ The Biggest Secret To Thrive In The Hardest Seasons Of Marriage

    15 \\ The Biggest Secret To Thrive In The Hardest Seasons Of Marriage
    Jan 4 2023
    Marriage is long; it's for life. There are a lot of conversations - and so many that build upon one another over time. It's of utmost importance to navigate these conversations; especially the hard ones well; in order to be sure both spouses are understood and to ensure you remain happily married for a lifetime. Instead of avoiding them or just surviving them; you can learn to thrive through the hard convos and turn them into your strengths.   But, how do you do that? Today, we are happy to share with you some of our secrets and habits that you can implement right away.   Habit 1 - Be calm & kind - 9.10   Sounds simple; right? But, is it? When adrenaline is rushing it, it can be hard to keep your emotions in check. Don't let your anger get the best of you. Being calm is something you do internally; and being kind is how you show it externally. Think - how do you treat strangers? It's ok to disagree, but its not ok to disrespect.   Habit 2 - Be contemplative - 15.30   Second step; after being calm and calm; Think about what your spouse is actually saying; Imagine - how could they be feeling this way - why - what are they trying to say? Aim to do this but also not defensive. When you feel stuck; this could be the time to take your gas off the pedal - approach things from your spouse's angle. Remember; you are teammates.   Stop to ask yourself - what am I not seeing? Don't wait on your spouse to do this first. Take the first step - we can't control much, but we can control how we navigate and react in each conversation; When we are contemplative; we set our spouse at ease and allow them to verbally process things. It's totally ok to let your spouse know that you understand their point of view, even if your opinion hasn't changed. You can bring that up even after this initial conversation.   Habit 3 - Don't seek to win, seek to RESOLVE - 24.20   You may not see eye to eye on a certain topic but it doesn't mean your marriage needs to suffer because of it. Oftentimes, it's good that you disagree - it would be so boring if you always agreed! Aim to learn from one another and embrace how your spouse sees and experiences things differently. What can we learn from our spouses perspective? Make your marriage more important than any conversation or topic you're discussing. Differences are inevitable but allow them to help you grow stronger and better together.   Bonus Thought - How can we become a better team because of our differences? 28.00   We can become a better team by overcoming each challenging conversation together. 29.00   Come join us and have conversations like this in a safe space in our private, online community, The Vow Keepers.   And also come say Hi on social media! www.instagram.com/thecleymans
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    33 mins
  • 14 \\ What To Do If Your Marriage Is In A Slump

    14 \\ What To Do If Your Marriage Is In A Slump
    Jan 1 2023
    Today, we want to encourage you. Maybe you’ve been lacking connection & intimacy. We believe that every marriage can have seasons like this. Highs & lows. Life demands so much of us, that our marriage can often get thrown off the priority list. Different responsibilities can cause any marriage to get into a slump. But, you can get out.   Today, we have 3 tips for how to get out of a slump in your marriage.   Tip 1 - make your marriage a priority -4:00   Your marriage can’t get out of a slump unless you make it a priority. Look at your daily agenda. Where are you investing your time or energy? Where is your marriage on that list? It is an investment - you get out, what you put in. You will both reap the results of the time & energy you put in. If your marriage is in a slump, don’t sit on the sidelines. Do what you CAN and focus on what you can shift or delegate or let go of to make your marriage a priority. You need to “trim the fat.” Create a list to get your priorities in a row. If your marriage is off, it’ll affect the rest of your life. Your marriage won’t just get better on its own - you have to work at it. In order for it to get better, it requires a hands-on and intentional approach. Marriage will give you back what you both put into it. Go after it with your whole heart.   Tip 2 - forget everything you think you know -10:00   Expectations and assumptions won’t get you out of a slump. You have to give your spouse a chance to change and to react differently than he/she typically would. Aim to approach the everyday stuff with curiosity. Instead of thinking you already know the answer, ask a question instead. Never stop investigating one another. As years go by, we evolve and change and as will our marriage. That doesn’t have to be scary - it can be exciting! Ask yourself - have I stopped investigating my spouse? Try asking more questions again.   Tip 3 - change things up - 15:00   Break the routine.  Spice things up. Try something different together. We’ve started going out weekly during a time we’d normally go to bed. It’s been the best reconnection that no one can take away from us. Get out of your everyday freight train.  Return to playfulness. Switch things up - even the simplest stuff. Pick a new tv show. Shop at a different grocery store. Comfort in marriage is a blessing, but sometimes being too comfortable can cause staleness or boredom. Life starts at the end of comfort zone. No one likes discomfort, but it’s so good for us. Do the things that are so “not” you guys. Shake things up.   “No” shuts the door - but try to leave the door on a crack - turn the “NO” into a “maybe.” It creates opportunities for change and growth and new habits to be formed in your marriage.   Recap - 20:00   Revival? Rejuvenation? Bring some life back into your marriage and get inspired with us at, The Vowkeepers   Nothing says “I love you” more than investing in your marriage   Come Say Hey To Us!  @TheCleymans www.TheCleymans.com
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    23 mins
  • 13 \\ How To Stay Connected To Your Spouse - Even When You Have LESS time Together

    13 \\ How To Stay Connected To Your Spouse - Even When You Have LESS time Together
    Dec 29 2022
    Are you and your spouse in a season where you are experiencing less time together than usual? This reality can make it extra hard to connect with one another and keep one another a priority. Listen in as we give you our top 3 tips for remaining connected during a busy and stressful season - both inside and outside the bedroom.    Tip #1 - SCHEDULE designated time each day for just the two of you - even if it's just 10 minutes   Tip #2 - Communicate your sexual needs    Tip #3 - Put up boundaries    WE KNOW THAT ANY SHIFT IN SCHEDULES CAN PUT PRESSURE ON A MARRIAGE.   We’d encourage you that when these shift, and the unforeseeable challenges us, seek to pull together with your spouse and figure out a solution together. Remember, you two are teammates. Working together on a solution for intentional time together can immediately increase the connection you have and the intimacy you share.   Don’t feel you ever have to do this alone! Come join our FREE FB group, the Vow Keepers, for wives just like you who want to grow their wife skills, keep their marriage strong & increase their connection, communication and intimacy with their husbands!   See you there   - Kim & Cheyanne Cleyman @TheCleymans
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    33 mins

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