"I think that is all about being raised male, right? That self-silencing, not being able to express your true feelings about something." - Jeff Jolton

In this episode, Jeff Jolton, an industrial organizational psychologist, shares his personal journey of overcoming people pleasing behavior in the work place and in his personal life. Jeff opens up about his struggle with balancing professional demands while also being a father and husband. He discusses how his people pleasing tendencies were driven by a pursuit of perfection in all the roles he plays in his life.

He discusses societal expectations on men, particularly the different forms of people pleasing between genders, and how they affect personal boundaries and self-worth. Jeff also provides practical advice on setting boundaries, recognizing personal wants, and the importance of being present.

This episode offers valuable insights for anyone struggling with people pleasing and how to find a work-life balance.

00:54 Professional Journey and People-Pleasing Tendencies

03:25 Balancing Work and Family

04:03 Gender Dynamics in People-Pleasing

11:17 Realizations and Turning Points

15:50 Setting Boundaries and Workplace Culture

22:50 The Power of Asking 'Why'

24:25 Dealing with Inner Criticism

28:15 Embracing Self-Worth

32:33 The Importance of Community

36:12 Improv and Personal Growth

40:27 Final Thoughts and Advice

About the Guest:

Jeff Jolton

A husband, dad of two grown boys, a life-long consultant, improv actor, dog lover and cat owner. Been in Buffalo now over 10 years - the longest I've ever lived anywhere. Went to college at Lawrence University (Psychology) and got my PhD in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from Ohio University, and have worked as a consultant most of my career - helping organizations with leadership development, employee engagement, and workforce transformation. My work has allowed me to travel around the country and the world - I've been a lot of places, but haven't seen a lot (hotels, offices, and board rooms) but exposed to a range of cultures, people, and dynamics.

@jajolton on Instagram

About the Host:

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"Not only is it about taking the action, but it's also about the story that you tell yourself before, during, and after these types of experiences." - Jenny Leckey

In this episode, Jenny tackles the challenges for people pleasers in a restaurant setting. She shares her personal journey after being diagnosed with celiac disease and how it forced her to advocate for her dietary needs.

Jenny provides practical tips on how to start small by asking for what you need in a dining experience, emphasizing the importance of taking up space and asserting oneself. Whether it's requesting a different dressing or sending food back, Jenny encourages listeners to practice self-advocacy and celebrate their successes. She ends with a personal challenge for you to start taking people pleaser recovery steps when you dine out.

00:00 People Pleasing at Restaurants

00:41 Personal Experiences with Celiac Dietary Needs

02:00 Overcoming People Pleasing at Chipotle

04:05 Practical Tips for Advocating Your Needs

06:47 Your Two Week Challenge

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"Every time you say yes to yourself, you're just getting a little bit closer to your authentic self, and the closer you get to that, the more amazing this time on this earth will be." - Jessie Mancuso

In this episode, Jenny hosts a heartfelt conversation with Jessie Mancuso, a yoga and meditation teacher from North Buffalo, NY. Jessie shares insights on tapping into inner wisdom, the transformation yoga has brought into her life, and the importance of giving yourself the option to make new choices.

They explore themes of authenticity, self-reflection, and the power of meditation. Jessie also opens up about her experience with sobriety, the impact of saying no to people pleasing, and the significance of building a relationship with oneself through daily self check-ins and purposeful solo time.

00:52 The Concept of Inner Wisdom

02:02 Struggles with People Pleasing

04:40 Breaking Free from Alcohol

12:55 Yoga Off the Mat: A Way of Life

15:52 The Power of Saying Yes to Yourself

21:04 Navigating the Emotional Slide

22:07 Embracing Growth and Authenticity

23:57 The Power of Honest Conversations

25:21 Daily Habits for Personal Growth

26:04 Listening to Your Inner Wisdom

31:32 Understanding and Honoring Your Needs

32:18 The Importance of Self-Care

37:23 The Healing Power of Meditation

Resources Mentioned:

The Radiance Sutras: 112 Gateways to the Yoga of Wonder and Delight by Lorin Roche

Instinctive Meditation with Lorin Roche

About The Host:

• Work with Jenny - Book 1:1 Reiki or psychic channeled reading sessions. Offered virtually or in person in Buffalo, NY. Jenny also offers Reiki certification classes!

Copyright 2024 Jenny Leckey LLC

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