Most of us, on our growth journeys, become aware that we need to heal from some kind of trauma. We also often discover that we need more than talk therapy.

Altered states have been used since time immemorial to help us on our healing paths, and can be particularly helpful in trauma healing. And while plant medicine (ayahuasca, psilocybin (magic mushrooms), MDMA, psychedelics like wachuma/peyote) can be a strong ally, it also has certain drawbacks and limitations.

Fortunately there's another way to get into altered states that requires no substances: Breathwork.

Here we outline the differences between plant medicine and breathwork. We also discuss how breathwork can help folks heal from attachment wounding (anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or disorganized attachment, which is a mix of both).

And we talk about the bodymind's inherent knowledge of how to heal. Breathwork can help us unlock our own deeper wisdom.

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Want to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.

To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• "The next stage of evolution is self-inquiry."
• "Consciousness expands in such a way that says, ‘I need help.'"
• "I have this deep desire to expand."
• "Beneath that knot of unworthiness is ultimate consciousness."
• "The core intention is to open the heart, and to heal."

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• Book: Conscious Breathing: How Shamanic Breathwork Can Transform Your Life by Joy Manné
• Breathwork Breakthrough (advanced course led by me and Luke, starting mid-March. Email dearmenpodcast@gmail.com for more info)

A common pattern in a lot of love relationships sounds like one partner (often a man, in a man/woman dynamic) saying things like:

• "I wish you weren’t so busy with the kids."
• "You never dress up for me anymore."
• "I wish you'd flirt with me more."
• "You hide yourself from me; I never really see your body anymore."
• "I wish we had more sex."

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What's driving this, and how does a couple navigate it skillfully? A lot of men yearn for more sexual connection with their partner -- but it's not just about the sex. And the way a lot of men go about talking about this with their woman partner ends up being triggering for the woman.

Here we discuss what we've witnessed in terms of men's deep desire for not just sex, but their partner's enthusiastic participation. And we dive right into what's even underneath that: The ache to feel her feminine essence.

This is about more than just incorporating sex toys or trying out a new position. This is about the depth and power and range of the open feminine. Get ready for a hell of a ride!

• “I wasn’t open and didn’t know how to open.”
• “To the men, it’s like a vitamin.”
• “It’s the sense of aliveness as it changes moment to moment.”
• “A lot of times what women are hearing is, ‘I’m not enough.’”
• “I want to feel lust for life! I want to feel playful and lighthearted and irreverent.”
• “The essence of the feminine is desire and emotion.”
• “When women are in their full range, the relationship accelerates.”
• “I want you to enjoy it; I want you feel your pleasure and your desire, and I know that’s in you.”

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• Please Her In Bed: A Course for Men, Designed by Women (www.pleaseherinbed.com)
• ROSE Code by Violet Lange: www.violetlange.com/rosecode

Have you ever felt unworthy, less than, or "deeply ugly and stupid," as my guest this week put it?

The fact is, we need all the support we can get. We need it from our fellow humans, and we need it from something greater.

The word "God" can be very triggering -- for those who experienced religious trauma growing up (which, let's face it, is literally billions of people), it can be a dirty word.

Yet the concept of Life -- aka Divine Intelligence, the Field, Spirit, etc. -- can be extraordinarily transformative when it comes to our everyday lives, and how we experience love itself.

What is your relationship to Life, nature, the interconnected web? Do you feel held by something greater? How does this relate to your experience with sex, dating, and relationships? And what's really behind our patterns and how to we grow beyond them?

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Ready to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.

To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• "I thought I was deeply ugly, and stupid."
• "In the opening, something is allowed to arise through."
• "Something more important than my pain took centerstage."
• "You don’t have to ‘do’ the miracle; you just have to be open to the miracle."
• "Let nature move in between the relationship."
• "Make way for the mystery."

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• Book: Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver
• Dear Men 305: GuyTalk: Overcoming Religious Trauma