Still hitting roadblocks? Maybe the problem isn’t them…

We’re wrapping up Hot Mess by talking about one of the biggest relationship killers—and it’s something we all do without even realizing it. Jesus had a lot to say about how we judge, criticize, and assume things about others—and (spoiler) we’re way more confident than we are capable when it comes to understanding people’s intentions.

So what if the best way to fix your relationships isn’t about fixing the other person at all?

📌 Chapters:

0:00 - Intro & Series Recap

7:19 - Jesus’ Teaching: The Truth About Judgment & Criticism

15:43 - The Speck & The Plank: How to Actually Strengthen Relationships

25:04 - What a Blind Man Can Teach Us About Perspective

30:22 - God Is a Coach in Your Corner, Not a Critic on the Sideline

What do you do when things go wrong–when you're hurt, insulted, offended or let-down? How do you move forward without falling apart? This week, we're talking about the importance of handling conflict, and we're exploring the steps that lead to reconciliation.

The Process:

1. Know your motive.

2. Know your story.

3. Share your motive.

4. Share your story.

5. Listen to their story.

6. Own your part in the story.

7. Ask for what you want.

8. Take action.

List adapted from: Crucial Conversations by Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler and Emily Gregory ➡️ 📔 https://a.co/d/fZO2vS3

Simple Rules for Conflict in Relationships

1. One issue at a time.

2. Address the action, not the person.

3. Speak to heal, not to hurt.

4. Call time-outs.

5. Be careful assigning motives.