But For Real

By: Valerie Martin & Emerson Ryder
  • Summary

  • Welcome to But For Real: the podcast where all your swirling thoughts about mental health, pop culture, and how to human are blended into one delicious variety show, co-hosted by therapists Valerie Martin (resident elder millennial ✌️) and Emerson Ryder (resident Gen Z 🫶).
    Copyright 2024 Valerie Martin & Emerson Ryder
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Episodes
  • Will AI replace therapists? 🤖🫠
    Oct 30 2024

    You can’t watch more than 10 minutes of news these days without hearing some reference to AI (our bff, artificial intelligence)— and it’s popping up everywhere from celebrities and politics to music, shopping, and healthcare. In this ep, we’re breaking down the pros and cons, ethical considerations, and future directions of AI specifically within mental healthcare and therapy— and it is a JUICY one, y’all. And of course as always, we also get into a lot more!

    This episode covers:

    • 00:54 - Intro: Emerson seeing Chappel Roan and Val’s Texas Trip
    • 03:46 - Tea & Crumpets: The Giver of Stars by Jojo Moyes and Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story on Netflix
    • 08:11 - Step Into My Office: Navigating family estrangement when wanting to stay close to all members involved
    • 13:36 - The Lore: Shea Wingate’s experiences with grief and learning to befriend the “grief monster”
    • 20:16 - The DSM: AI & Mental Health – Advantages, Dangers, Ethical Considerations, and Future Directions
    • 46:58 - Now That’s What I Call…Ooookay
    • 48:16 - Val’s Pick: “Only Hope” by Mandy Moore
    • 50:34 - Emerson’s Pick: “Be Careful With Yourself” by Julia Jacklin
    • 52:34 - Wait…What: WTF is a kiki?!
    • 54:30 - Fire Dumpster Phoenix: Cats ‘hired’ to motivate security guards in Philippines and Thailand becomes first Southeastern Asian country to legalize marriage equality!!

    Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

    • Book: The Giver of Stars by Jojo Moyes
    • Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story on Netflix
    • Shea Wingate – The Grief Girlie
    • Woebot
    • Wysa
    • X2AI
    • Headspace Care (formerly known as Ginger)
    • Flamme
    • 60 Minutes story
    • Can AI Replace Therapists? A Psychiatrist Explains
    • Fixing My Brain with Automated Therapy by Jacob Gellar
    • Only Hope by Mandy Moore
    • Be Careful With Yourself by Julia Jacklin
    • Cats ‘hired’ to motivate security guards in Philippines
    • Thailand becomes first Southeastern Asian country to legalize marriage equality!!

    AI Journaling Apps:

    • Rosebud
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    1 hr
  • “What is grief, if not love persevering?” with Kalaway Voss
    Oct 16 2024

    Today’s guest, The Gaia Center’s very own resident grief-expert Kalaway Voss, shares wisdom and tangible ways that we can move through grief, whether it’s the death of a loved one, a more ambiguous loss such as the ending of a relationship, or anything in between.

    About Kalaway Voss

    Kalaway Voss is a mental health therapist at The Gaia Center in Nashville, TN. She completed her Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology. Kalaway specializes in working with adults navigating grief and loss, anxiety, depression, complex trauma, and folks who are grappling with existential questions related to life, death, and meaning. She approaches healing from a mind/body/spirit perspective (including certification in Level 1 Reiki) and aims to help her clients feel empowered in their personal wisdom, tell their unique stories, and live bravely. Kalaway spends a lot of her time drying flowers and working with the restorative and healing properties of dried plants, herbs, and flowers.

    This episode covers:

    • 03:00 - Tea & Crumpets: How To Die Alone, The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, and The ex-Files Rewatch Podcast
    • 06:36 - Step Into My Office: Kalaway’s advice on coping with the loss of a best friend
    • 09:43 - The DSM: All Things Grief – What drew Kalaway to want to specialize in grief therapy, healthy grief, cultural and societal influences, and tips for connecting with/processing grief
    • 34:54 - Now That’s What I Call….Okayyyy: You’re Gonna Go Far by Noah Kahan, A Little Bit of Everything by Dawes, and Landslide by Fleetwood Mac
    • 44:37 - Fire Dumpster Phoenix: Non-traditional Ways to Honor and Ceremonialize Death
    • 50:24 - Rapid Fire Q&A on Kalway’s perspectives of grief


    Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

    • How To Die Alone on Hulu
    • Secret Lives of Mormon Wives on Hulu
    • The ex-Files Rewatch Podcast with Jenny Owen Youngs + Kristin Russo
    • You're Gonna Go Far by Noah Kahan
    • A Little Bit of Everything by Dawes
    • Landslide by Fleetwood Mac
    • Big Fish (2003)


    Connect / Work with Kalaway:

    • https://gaiacenter.co/meet-kalaway


    Connect with Us:

    • Send a story or ask for advice: butforrealpod@gmail.com
    • But For Real on IG: @butforrealpod
    • The Gaia Center on IG: @thegaiacenter
    • Val on IG: @valkaymartin
    • The Gaia Center website:
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    55 mins
  • TikTok is Not the DSM: Practicing Discernment with Pop Psychology
    Oct 2 2024

    Today’s episode is once again a wild ride – and whether you’re struggling with sexual desire, obsessed with Sabrina Carpenter’s new album, or trying to wade through the wild west of Pop Psychology, we’ve got something for you.

    This episode covers:

    • [1:00] Weekend recap – Emerson’s adventures of cat sitting & Val’s piano karaoke bar date night
    • [3:18] Emerson’s Tea & Crumpets for the week – Sabrina Carpenter’s new album Short N Sweet
    • [5:18] Val’s Tea & Crumpets – Hysterical podcast from Dan Taberski
    • [8:00] Step Into My Office – Struggles with sexual desire, desire discrepancy, and tips for how to deal
    • [19:00] The Lore – All of the juicy deets on a first date that happened at a wedding in Mexico
    • [27:24] The DSM - Discernment in the Pop Psychology World – the positive aspects, the dangerous aspects, and how to make sense of it all, especially when you’re struggling
    • [48:50] Emerson’s song for the week: Coincidence by Sabrina Carpenter
    • [51:08] Val’s song for the week: Passenger Seat by Death Cab for Cutie
    • [54:29] The wholesome squirrel’s best friend Derrick Downey Jr - @derrickdowneyj
    • [55:53] Local Clarksville activist Allie Phillips being featured on @feminist IG account

    Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

    • Sabrina Carpenter’s new album Short N Sweet
    • Hysterical podcast from Dan Taberski
    • Book: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
    • NPR Article on Allie Phillips
    • Now That's What I Call....OKAAAAY Spotify Playlist



    Connect with Us:

    • Send a story or ask for advice: butforrealpod@gmail.com
    • But For Real on IG: @butforrealpod
    • The Gaia Center on IG: @thegaiacenter
    • Val on IG: @valkaymartin
    • The Gaia Center website: www.gaiacenter.co


    DISCLAIMER: But For Real Podcast is not a substitute for individualized mental health treatment or healthcare. This podcast is solely for entertainment and educational purposes. If you are in crisis, please utilize crisis support services, such as the Crisis Text Line (Text START to 741741 in the US) or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: (Call 988 in the US), or visit

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    59 mins

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