Welcome to the Healing Our Politics Podcast! Join Our Community and Receive Free Tools + How to Guides:Join “The Leader’s Handbook” newsletter· Always free· Once per month email· Curated selection of tools, techniques, and practices discussed on this podcast· Delivered in simple to follow how-to-guides· To try and test in your life, and teach your teams.JOIN HEREGuest:Shakeyla Ingram served on the city council in Fayetteville, North Carolina, where she focused on community empowerment, small business support, and housing issues. It was not all roses. Shakeyla was diagnosed with bipolar disorder while in office and faced significant challenges as she found herself embroiled in the middle of factional community anger during the COVID-19 epidemic and immersed in dysfunctional behavior between council members and herself. As a councilwoman, Shakeyla released a book, Intentionality Here, ran her consultancy, Haus Host, and relaunched her podcast, The Key to the City. Since losing re-election, Shakeyla has blossomed - releasing Provisions Boot Camp, an Entrepreneur's Toolkit, and starting a newsletter, Intentional Impact, along with traveling the country to train newly elected officials on effective governance.About the Episode: In this episode, we dig into adolescence’s impact on our adult leadership: the importance of family and role models in shaping who we become. How early childhood experiences, adverse childhood events (ACEs), and trauma manifest unconsciously in our leadership and how to discover and break those patterns to uplevel and expand our leadership. We discuss coming out as battling bipolar depression on council and how you can disclose and work with your challenges. Shakeyla shares stories of inter-council conflict and the impact of public hate - being stuck in the middle of community factions - and its effect on our well-being and performance as leaders. Shakeyla shares some of her most significant learnings from her journey, including techniques to identify and work with triggers, practices to exhume yourself from depression, creating “goal friends” and “journey agreements,” the distinction between trauma and healing as she understands it, what “intentionality” is and how to use it for your success, and so much more. Key Topics Discussed:· [00:01:51] Episode/guest intro· [00:04:45] Heart-centered leadership · [00:06:16] The secret commonality between us· [00:07:10] Grandparents· [00:07:30] The essence of community · [00:10:04] The forgotten history of racism · [00:11:37] LOVE no matter what · [00:12:15] Grandparents supplanting parents· [00:14:22] Healing parental wounds · [00:15:08] The impact of divorce · [00:15:35] The shadow of childhood in office · [00:16:45] Unethical behavior· [00:19:42] Childhood patterns in leadership · [00:21:50] Be the soulution · [00:22:30] Three ways to use your energy · [00:23:59] “Leader” Vs. “Human” personas · [00:26:10] Public service and romantic relationships · [00:31:42] Fear to win· [00:32:28] Internal duality· [00:33:10] Patterns and vlaues · [00:35:59] Bi-polar diagnosis in office · [00:37:14] Public response to bi-polar · [00:39:14] Techniques to mitigate depressive symptoms · [00:41:57] Bi-polar mitigation practices summary · [00:43:40] How to identify triggers · [00:46:05] Meditation + Journaling · [00:47:27] The importance of self-honesty · [00:48:25] Therapist of solo work?· [00:50:20] COVID-19 challenges in office · [00:50:40] ELC Foundation donors · [00:51:18] SPONSOR: ELC Coaching · [00:54:00] Shakeyla’s COVID collapse · [00:55:13] Keep doing the work · [00:57:00] A cold welcome to office · [00:58:15] Self-work post office · [01:00:01] A different type of podcast · [01:01:30] Post-loss integration · [01:02:55] The secrets we keep · [01:03:24] Fear at the grocery store · [01:05:55] Train people how to treat you· [01:06:30] Create conscious email boundaries · [01:10:25] Public record traps· [01:11:25] Day one elected: How-to-guide · [01:14:10] Trauma vs. connection-based partnership · [01:15:50] The functional power of a trusting relationship · [01:16:50] Trauma Vs. healing· [01:19:02] Dealing with falsified personal attacks · [01:20:48] Apolitical Foundation’s “Mere Mortals” report· [01:24:28] Victimization to healing · [01:26:55] Intentionality - what is it?· [01:27:21] “Goal friends”· [01:28:04] Healing in the environment you got sick in · [01:31:59] Final Questions: You must show up· [01:33:30] Where to find Shakeyla· [01:34:09] “The Leader’s Handbook” Newsletter· [01:35:19] SPONSOR: ELC Coaching Key References and Resources Mentioned:· [00:19:42] Transference: Psychology · [00:19:42] Childhood Patterns: Psychology · [00:19:42] Trauma: Psychology · [00:22:30] Three things you can do with your energy video· [00:43:40] Triggers: Psychology · [00:46:05] Meditation · [...
