"I believe boundaries are kind of the user manual to me. Here's how to be in relationship with me. Here are my preferences, my desires, my limits, my non-negotiables."

— Cy Wakeman

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In this episode, I’m joined by drama researcher and NY Times best selling author, Cy Wakemen.

In our conversation, Cy shares stories of both a great friend and a great boss. She shares that the key to a great relationship is the ability to “love each other up AND call each other up.”

We talk about the key to being more resilient. And we unpack why we should all be more willing to vocalize our appreciation and bids for connection with others.

Key lessons highlighted in our conversation include:

👉 The transformative power of female relationships and the importance of a supportive network, especially during tough times.

👉 How validating someone’s suffering without validating their sense of victimhood can foster both compassion and accountability.

👉 Effective strategies for managers to balance holding space and taking action, including practicing curiosity and using self-reflection.

👉 The significance of making bids for connection, showing genuine appreciation, and cultivating heartfelt communication in professional relationships.

👉 How relationships act as mirrors reflecting valuable lessons, emphasizing the need to be a good student and learn from these reflections.

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Cy Wakeman is a drama researcher, NY Times Bestselling Author and recipient of the #1 Global Leadership Guru award for three years running.

Deemed “the secret weapon to restoring sanity to the workplace and the worldplace.” Cy Wakeman works with organizations globally to ditch the drama, hardwire accountability in their teams and turn excuses into results.

She has published four best-selling books, the latest of which is Life’s Messy, Live Happy: Things Don't Have to Be Perfect for You to Be Content (2022). Cy shares her latest leadership insights on the Reality-Based Leadership podcast where she offers practical ways to modernize how leaders evolve their teams beyond the challenges they face.

Connect with Cy:

Website: http://www.realitybasedleadership.com/meet-our-team/cy-wakeman/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cywakeman/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cywakeman

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Jason Lauritsen is a dynamic keynote speaker and true thought leader in the world of work and employee engagement. He is dedicated to revolutionizing the way we Lead With Relationship™. He fearlessly challenges traditional norms to reshape the employee experience by consistently placing authentic human connection at the heart of leadership. Jason is the author of two books, Unlocking High Performance and Social Gravity.

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"The one thing that we absolutely have control over is how we show up in the world."

— Sarah Mann

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In this episode, I’m joined by leadership and executive coach, Sarah Mann. Together, we explore the power of asking for what you need as a means to building stronger relationships. Plus, we explore the many ways we sabotage our relationships with our assumptions and talk about strategies for how to stop taking things so personally.

Key lessons highlighted in our conversation include:

👉 The importance of having clarity in language and expectations, stressing how assumptions often lead to misunderstandings.

👉 Insights on coaching strategies like "Q tip" (quit taking it personally) and understanding the iceberg metaphor to recognize unseen personal struggles.

👉 The significance of controlling emotional responses and taking personal responsibility, which impacts both personal and work relationships.

👉 Reframing narratives to feel more comfortable in asking for what you need at work.

👉 Different people and relationships fulfill different needs in life; recognizing this prevents isolation and fosters a well-rounded support system.

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Sarah is a seasoned business leader, and executive coach with a style described as creative, insight, and a “straight shooter.” She is sought out by high performing, driven and savvy leaders who want to increase their executive presence, better manage competing demands, and navigate organizational sprints.

Connect with Sarah:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahlmann/

Website: https://sarah-mann.com/

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Jason Lauritsen is a dynamic keynote speaker and true thought leader in the world of work and employee engagement. He is dedicated to revolutionizing the way we Lead With Relationship™. He fearlessly challenges traditional norms to reshape the employee experience by consistently placing authentic human connection at the heart of leadership. Jason is the author of two books, Unlocking High Performance and Social Gravity.

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"The reason there is a lack of acceptance in teams is because there's usually a lack of clarity about what the team is there to do.’"

- Tegan Trovato

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In this episode, I’m joined by CEO and executive team coach, Tegan Trovato. Our conversation dives deep into the power of radical acceptance within relationships and teams. Tegan breaks down how highly effective leadership teams use clarity of purpose to foster acceptance and unlock the power of diversity.

Key lessons highlighted in our conversation include:

👉 The necessity of radical acceptance within any team to foster an environment conducive to effective communication and decision-making.

👉 Teaching executives the difference between judgment and discernment can significantly aid in making unbiased and emotionally clean decisions.

👉 Emphasizing intentional actions like shared meals, walks, or check-ins can strengthen interpersonal connections within teams.

👉 The irony that slowing down to invest in relationships ultimately leads to greater long-term efficiency and productivity.

👉 How having clarity and alignment on team goals minimizes egos and power struggles, allowing the team to focus on common objectives.

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Tegan Trovato is the founder and CEO of Bright Arrow Coaching and an executive and leadership team coach with over two decades of experience in talent development and executive coaching. Before founding Bright Arrow Coaching, she was an executive or a leadership team member for companies such as Levi Strauss, Zynga, Xerox, and Cielo. Her approach to leadership and coaching combines deep industry knowledge with a passion for creating an abundant and equitable world through exceptional leadership.

Connect with Tegan:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachtegan/

Website: https://www.brightarrowcoaching.com/

Life and Leadership Podcast: https://www.brightarrowcoaching.com/podcast/

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Inspiring Workplaces

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Jason Lauritsen is a dynamic keynote speaker and true thought leader in the world of work and employee engagement. He is dedicated to revolutionizing the way we Lead With Relationship™. He fearlessly challenges traditional norms to reshape the employee experience by consistently placing authentic human connection at the heart of leadership. Jason is the author of two books, Unlocking High Performance and Social Gravity.

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