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The Social Paradox

Autonomy, Connection, and Why We Need Both to Find Happiness

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The Social Paradox

By: William von Hippel
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A Next Big Idea Club Must Read of February 2025

From the author of The Social Leap comes this thought-provoking exploration into humans’ two core evolutionary needs, for connection and autonomy, how the modern world has thrown them out of whack, and how we can rebalance them to improve our lives.

Why do people who have so much—leading comfortable lives filled with unprecedented freedom, choice, and abundance—often feel so unhappy and unfulfilled? This phenomenon is a defining paradox of our time and one we endlessly seek to solve. In The Social Paradox, psychologist William von Hippel argues that we need to think about this problem in a new way. By changing our perspective, we might finally see the solution, bringing us greater happiness and more satisfying relationships.

The key is to understand the interplay between our two most basic psychological needs—for connection and autonomy. Evolution made us dependent on one another for survival, instilling in us a strong need to connect. It also made us seek autonomy, so our ancestors could distinguish themselves within their groups, improving their chances to procreate and gain status.

These two opposing needs are our most fundamental psychological drivers, and while our lives once ensured a happy balance between them, the opportunities of today’s world have thrown it out of whack. As von Hippel explains, our modern world no longer demands connection but it provides endless opportunity for autonomy; this lopsidedness lies at the root of many of our most intractable problems. Recognizing this imbalance and working to counter it can drastically change how we make decisions, spend our time, and find happiness.

The Social Paradox invites us to examine the fundamental building blocks of life and society—politics, religion, urban living, marriage—in a brand-new way. Once we understand the evolutionary forces driving us, we can begin to see how to counteract the emptiness and loneliness of contemporary life.

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©2025 William von Hippel (P)2025 HarperCollins Publishers
Anthropology Biological Sciences Evolution Evolution & Genetics Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Science Social Psychology & Interactions Happiness
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Excellent perspective

This perspective on our evolutionary psychology was fascinating. It’s interesting to understand on a suicidal and personal level. It explains some of the emptiness and anxiety humans are experiencing.

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Very interesting

Useful, relevant info. Strongly recommend. God I hate the 15 word minimum requirement for these reviews which I write when I'm done listening to these books...

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Huge potential for application in life

On the audiobook/reader- even though it's always best as a rule of thumb when the author reads, Josh does a great job bringing energy into the words without going too far. I didn't find the timbre of his voice distracting in the least, which is ultimately what matters most to me when consuming an audiobook.

The author's thesis is to look along one axiom for satisfaction in life, that being autonomy vs. connection which he defines well in the book but not worth repeating for the sake of this review. The concept seemed oversimplified to me at first, but the more I stewed on this the more plausible it seemed. This idea is heavily grounded in evolutionary thinking and therefore rock solid IMO - he lays out enough evidence and (dare I say) anecdote to convince anyone who's not already oriented in this direction like I am, and does a wonderful job outlining the pitfalls of such thinking and what we can really know vs. speculate upon.

Back to his thesis, I would love to see a follow up (and I will be writing to him about this), about how this axiom seemingly evolved to solve the 2 separate (but related) problems of evolution, those being autonomy for reproductive fitness vs. connection for survival. Our modern (Western) culture has all but solved the problem of survival so we tend to put our efforts into efforts that differentiate us in the mating pool, but since our genes haven't caught up to culture yet, we're left with more mental health issues and lack of overall life satisfaction we could have ever imagined. It is in this understanding where we can move the ball forward towards solving these problems in our own lives, to which Dr. Von Hippel offers potential solutions at the end, but to each individual reader (or at least for me) it seems like only the beginning!

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