
The Abstinence Myth
A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction Without Shame, Judgment, or Rules
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Adi Jaffe PhD
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Adi Jaffe PhD
About this listen
Breaking free of outdated explanations and rigid "rules" for recovery, The Abstinence Myth offers a hopeful, research-based framework for transformation by an addiction expert and renowned TEDx speaker who overcame his own addiction and has guided hundreds of clients into lives of joy and purpose.
In this simple yet radical new book, Adi Jaffe, PhD, draws on his own life experience, cutting-edge research, and work with hundreds of clients and families to offer a new perspective on addiction and a new pathway out of its grasp.
The Abstinence Myth introduces the IGNTD recovery method, including:
- Details of Adi's dramatic and inspiring personal story
- The mythology of addiction and how it gets in our way with spiritual, biological, psychological, and environmental assumptions that are, in fact, only true some of the time for some people
- Why the concept of "abstinence" is often a barrier to change and is not necessary for everyone for all time
- Important research that will shift your thinking, sense of hope, and success
- Why shame can keep holding you back—and finding the way out
- An explanation of the three IGNTD principles and the nine steps to personalize your unique recovery path
It's time to throw out the "rulebook".
You can overcome the hopelessness, the doubt, and move forward. You can create a life you're proud of. Whether you're seeking help for yourself, a loved one, or anyone you might be guiding through a personal transformation, The Abstinence Myth will change lives.
©2020 Adi Jaffe (P)2022 Adi JaffeListeners also enjoyed...
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- Pandgea
- 08-20-23
Not quite what I expected...
I thought this was going to be a more academic book. I had watched an interview of the author and found his insight to be very interesting. Bought this think it it would expand upon the interview. Instead it's a primer for applying his methology. Still faintly interesting, but not really what I was looking for.
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- D. Griffin
- 10-09-23
Interesting … lots of rambling… a sales pitch
A interesting book noting the different ways to approach addiction treatment/control. Very short on specifics … seems to be selling a service. Additionally it seemed poorly organized.
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- David
- 02-25-23
Not convinced you’re solution works
The basic premise is that it’s okay to still use alcohol or drugs if you’re able to manage them….although the author points out good analysis of the various approaches to treating addiction the end of the book turns into a workbook with various exercises to complete….I wasn’t looking for another workshop book.
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- Amazon Customer
- 04-11-23
talks a lot about himself
It's mostly great content but slips into being an autobiographry several times. I wanted to hear more about the science.
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- Filipa Reis
- 02-23-25
A life changing approach to addiction
Over the past years i’ve struggled immensely with addiction and complete abstinence as the only goal and measurement of success. This whole approach has really changed my relationship to substances and myself. Already bought Jaffee’s other book, Unhooked. Thank you
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- Love2Shop
- 02-23-23
Amazing!
This is a game changer for recovery! Finally a program, idea and thoughts that go beyond the current belief that addicts are bad and weak and there is only a one size fits all solution. This book gives you options and a freedom to choose what works best for you to recover from your addiction. I am so grateful for this book!
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