
Retroactive Jealousy
A Guide to Transforming Your Pain into Power: How to Get Over Your Partner's Past, Get Rid of Jealousy & Overcome Boyfriend/Girlfriend's Past Relationships
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Ryder Winchester
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A straight-to-the-point, easy-to-listen guide to transforming your retroactive jealousy!
If you are planning to listen to this book, then congratulations! You have decided you are ready for change. You are ready to become empowered and ready to get your life back into your control.
This audiobook is a completely transparent, in-depth, and detailed account of my journey through retroactive jealousy - from its vulnerable, innocent origins, to its ultimate epic defeat. This book is also a comprehensive guide on how I personally struggled with and eventually transformed the insidious beast into personal strength and power.
At the risk of offending you, the listener and retroactive jealousy sufferer, I bring you this piece of truth: Retroactive jealousy was one of the greatest things to ever happen to me. That thought may seem impossible to you at this stage. It may even anger you. But you will, likely, one day, feel a deep sense of gratitude that you suffered through this pain, once you have undergone enough of a positive transformation.
My retroactive jealousy's healing and defeat was a physical, spiritual, and mental evolution. Although its grasp caused much pain, heartbreak, and despair, victory over it blossomed a more loving, strong, patient, thoughtful, and confident version of myself. I was reborn anew in the ashes of retroactive jealousy’s defeat and spread my wings into a brighter future that would not have been known to me, had I not suffered the way I had suffered.
Here is a preview of the chapters you'll find:
- Facing Core Issues Head-On
- Dealing with Triggers
- Accepting Responsibility and Coming to Terms with Your Issues
- Positive Actions and Positive Addictions
- Changing How You Feel About Yourself
- Finding Power in Happiness
- Moving Past Retroactive Jealousy
- And much, much more!
The first step to transforming your pain into power is to take ownership of your retroactive jealousy! You can transform this painful energy into life-affirming, loving power that will change your life forever. The strength you gain after transforming this retroactive jealousy energy is courage-inducing, and it will aid you through all of your life’s endeavors.
Making the brave, empowering decision to overcome your retroactive jealousy will enrich your life beyond your current comprehension! Take action today and get this audiobook.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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- hilary kavanaugh
- 10-25-22
Amazingly helpful
I am so thankful that this book came up as a resource when I was looking to confront RJ. The progress this writer has made in his personal life and the detailed account he shares of how he reached this point of freedom is inspiring and more helpful than anything I’ve read before now on the topic.
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- Adam Voegtli
- 11-19-23
my new secret for strength
This book gave me a new way to gain strength from my emotions. It's powerful message struck a cord with me personally and allowed me to see a whole new perspective on a deep personal issue. Anybody who peaks inside should see exactly how to bring their greatest side out.
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- Jaleesa Cecaci
- 05-26-20
Great read!
This was the only book I could find on RJ and it was published 2 days ago. What a find! I recommend everyone give it a read. It’s good to feel I’m not alone on my recovering RJ Journey. Luckily I’ve read the books he’s mentioned in his reading, so I understood this book on a different level. Thank you so much for this book!
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- Taha
- 07-22-21
Healing !!
Healing a bad relationship wound is not that easy, I could not get rid of what I had with my ex ... this has created a block for me and I have not found the right path to move on and live my life ... I found this therapy book so much valuable and it digs in the details of the matter to show how people can move on and ditch the past to welcome a brighter future. I really enjoyed it and I'll listen to it over and over to keep my therapy up and running. well done
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- Crissie 1
- 05-15-20
This book is everything I was looking for
I was at the point where I was pushing my partner away almost on purpose because my rj was getting the best of me. It’s so hard to talk to anyone about it because almost no one understands why I get to upset about the past. This book has no only changed my perspective but has changed every aspect of my life and relationship. A must read if you’re beyond exhausted and want to fix your relationship. It’s like night and day. Thank you thank you for helping me clear the wounds.
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- Lady Audrey
- 09-16-21
Experience speaks for itself!
If you have ever suffered from retroactive jealousy, you need this audiobook. I loved how the author gave practical steps to take that will help in your healing journey. Knowing that he has experienced the pain himself is somehow comforting. Even if you plan to see a good therapist, as the author recommends, grab a copy of this book first and know that you are not alone! You can break free from the grasp of retroactive jealousy!
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- mmurphy
- 10-01-22
very helpful!
I enjoyed the spiritual aspect of the authors presentation as I have been on a spiritual path myself. I already practice alot of the suggestions he talks about so I feel I am in such a good place to begin to heal from this!
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- DB
- 09-16-21
This book REALLY helped me!
Jealousy has been an ongoing issue in my life since my first relationship when I was 16 years old. I have been looking for ways to deal with it to keep it in check and this book was the answer. It feels like the author wrote it for me! It is very detailed in its advice and suggestions and I highly recommend this book to people who suffer from the same character defect that I do. I am about to embark on a post-divorce relationship and this book will make it a lot easier than I anticipated.
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- Ij
- 04-10-25
Finally, peace of mind!
This book was a total relief. I used to obsess over my partner's past and it was ruining my peace—and my relationship. The way this book breaks down retroactive jealousy made me feel seen, not crazy. The exercises helped me shift my focus back to me and what actually matters. If you’ve ever spiraled over old relationships, this book is the gentle wake-up call you need. It's real, helpful, and surprisingly empowering.
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- pam
- 07-05-22
Awesome 👍👍
Amazing book 👏hoping that I will get over this painful process of my life soon too🙏
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